Search Inside Yourself. Mindfulness-Based Emotional Intelligence for Leaders. Day 1

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1 Search Inside Yourself Mindfulness-Based Emotional Intelligence for Leaders Day 1

2 In Pairs What do you love about your work? What are some of your biggest challenges?

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4 In Pairs: Mindful Listening How was the exercise? What would make this a successful day for you?

5 Hello!

6 Ground Rules

7 Why?

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9 Volatile Uncertain Complex Ambiguous

10 47% 70% 02% Average time spent Mind-wandering Leaders report regularly unable to be attentive in meetings Regularly make time to enhance personal productivity Killingsworth, 2010; Mindful Leadership Institute, 2010

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12 What to do?

13 Emotional Intelligence The ability to monitor one s own and others feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them and to use this information to guide one s thinking and actions. Salovey & Mayer, 1990

14 Self-Awareness Self-Management Motivation Empathy Social Skills

15 3 Benefits

16 Outstanding Leadership

17 Stellar Performance

18 Happiness

19 + Emotional Intelligence + Neuroscience + Mindfulness = Search Inside Yourself

20 Roadmap Leadership Empathy Motivation Self-Management Self-Awareness Mindfulness

21 Roadmap: Day 1 AM Leadership Empathy Motivation Self-Management Self-Awareness Mindfulness

22 Roadmap: Day 1 PM Leadership Empathy Motivation Self-Management Self-Awareness Mindfulness

23 Roadmap: Day 2 AM Leadership Empathy Motivation Self-Management Self-Awareness Mindfulness

24 Roadmap: Day 2 PM Leadership Empathy Motivation Self-Management Self-Awareness Mindfulness

25 Roadmap: 28-Day Challenge Live Program 28-Day Challenge Daily practices Personal goals & leadership commitment Buddy meetings Capstone Webinar & Post-program Assessment

26 How?

27 Autopilot Aware

28 Autopilot Traits Attention is in the past or future Distracted Less aware Act based on habit patterns and assumptions

29 Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. Viktor Frankl s teachings, summarized by Steven Covey.

30 How to get off Autopilot?

31 Mindfulness being aware

32 Micropractice Three Breaths 1. Attention to breath 2. Relax body 3. Ask: What s important now?

33 Comments & Questions

34 Mind = Snow Globe Calm Clarity Happiness

35 Awareness of Attitude of Mind Kindness Body Curiosity Surroundings

36 Mindfulness means paying attention to what s happening in the present moment in the mind, body and external environment, with an attitude of curiosity and kindness. Mindful Nation UK Report

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38 In the moment Integrated At the gym Dedicated

39 Meditation refers to a family of mental training practices that are designed to familiarize the practitioner with specific types of mental processes. Brefczynski-Lewis, 2007

40 Mindfulness Research Publications (PubMed)

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42 Neuroplasticity: Changes in Attention and Mind-Wandering Default Mode Network (DMN) Related to mind-wandering and self-referential thinking. Less active during meditation. Meditation practice greater connectivity with attention management regions, even when at rest. Brewer et al., 2011, image from Ricard et al. 2014

43 Mindfulness Practice: Less Anticipatory Stress, Faster Recovery Novice vs Expert meditators responding to pain Less anticipatory amygdala activation Less self-reported unpleasantness afterwards Amygdala Lutz et al., 2013

44 Meta-analysis: Change in brain regions 1. Attentional control 2. Emotion regulation 3. Self-awareness Tang, et al., 2015

45 Changes after SIY Pre-program compared to 4 weeks Post-program 60% 67% 41% 44% Pre-Program Post-Program Pre-Program Post-Program When in conflict with someone, I take time to fully understand what is driving their perspective. I am able to pause before reacting. % of Often and Very Often Responses

46 Attention The act or faculty of attending, especially by directing the mind to an object. Meta-attention Attention of attention, the ability to know your attention has wandered.

47 Focused Attention Process Follow Breath Reorientation of Attention Distraction Notice Distraction

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49 Focused Attention

50 Comments & Questions

51 Micropractice Minute to Arrive A quiet moment to fully arrive before starting a meeting

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53 Improved Attention Slagter, et al., 2007

54 Focused Attention: returning attention to a single point Open Awareness: witnessing mental content without getting carried away by it

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56 Open Awareness

57 Micropractice Noting Notice to name it, let it be, and just breathe.

58 Comments & Questions

59 Key Points Complex world, Develop Emotional Intelligence Increased Emotional Intelligence enables: Performance Leadership Empathy Motivation Self-Management Self-Awareness Mindfulness How? Leadership Happiness Mindfulness: Being aware Autopilot aware Two methods: Focused Attention Open Awareness

60 Roadmap Leadership Empathy Motivation Self-Management Self-Awareness Mindfulness

61 Self-Awareness

62 What?

63 Knowing one s internal states, preferences, resources and intuitions. Daniel Goleman

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65 Emotional Awareness

66 Emotions in the body Nummenmaa, et al., 2013

67 Why?

68 Emotional Awareness Benefits 1. Emotions are necessary for decisionmaking 2. Emotions contain information 3. Emotional awareness enables perspective shift

69 Prefrontal Cortex Amygdala

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71 Iowa Gambling Task Bechara, et al., Science 1997

72 50 Have a hunch 80 Figured it out 10 Palms sweat & behavior changes

73 EXISTENTIAL I am angry

74 EXPERIENTIAL I experience anger in my body

75 How?

76 Body Scan

77 Comments & Questions

78 Micropractice Head, Body, Heart Check-in 1. Head thoughts 2. Body emotions, intuitions 3. Heart values, intentions

79 Journaling

80 Things that annoy me are...

81 My challenges are...

82 Things that bring me alive are...

83 When I m at my best, I...

84 Journaling Benefits Laid-off professionals journaling about their feelings for five days found new jobs at a much higher rate: 68% vs. 27% Buhrfeind & Pennebaker, college students, two minutes journaling on two consecutive days improved mood and wellbeing. University of Missouri, 2009

85 Key Points Self-awareness Self-Awareness: Emotional Intelligence foundational domain Leadership Empathy Motivation Self-Management Self-Awareness Mindfulness Emotions are essential for decision-making Pay attention to the body Shift view from existential (I am) to experiential (I experience)

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87 Roadmap Leadership Empathy Motivation Self-Management Self-Awareness Mindfulness

88 Self-Management

89 Compulsion Choice

90 Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. Viktor Frankl s teachings, summarized by Steven Covey.

91 Self-Management The process of managing one s internal states, impulses, and resources.

92 It s not It is Avoiding Reducing harm to ourselves Suppressing and others Denying Navigating challenges more skillfully

93 How to respond to triggers?

94 Hijack Prefrontal Cortex Amygdala

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96 Regulatory Systems Neural Model of Emotion Regulation Affective State Fear, anxiety, arousal +/- Regulation Emotion Threat

97 Stop Breathe Notice Reflect Respond

98 SBNRR

99 Mindful Conversation

100 A talks and B listens (bell) How are you feeling right now? B says What I heard you say is then A gives feedback and B responds until A is satisfied (bell) What did you experience during the exercise? (content / process) Switch roles Free-flow conversation OR anything else you want

101 Comments & Questions

102 Emotional Management Strategies trigger time Attention Reframing Acceptance Ochsner & Gross, 2005 Trends in Cognitive Science

103 Self-Compassion Mindfulness Common Humanity Self-kindness - Joan Halifax Kristin Neff

104 Journaling

105 Journaling Imagine writing a letter to yourself from the perspective of a close friend or mentor. They know you well, understand you, want the best for you. What would they say to you about the challenges and opportunities you are facing?

106 Mindful Listening

107 A talks and B listens (bell) What did you notice in the last exercise? Switch roles Free-flow conversation How do you feel about your challenges & opportunities now? OR anything else

108 Comments & Questions

109 Self-Compassion Benefits Growth mindset, belief in change Motivation to correct past mistakes Motivation to grow and learn from others Effort to improve after setback Breines & Chen, 2012

110 self-compassion may increase self-improvement motivation given that it encourages people to confront their mistakes and weaknesses without either selfdeprecation or defensive selfenhancement. Breines & Chen, 2012

111 Micropractice Acceptance Breathing in, I do my best; Breathing out, I let go of the rest.

112 Self-awareness Day 1 Recap Emotional skills are trainable Leadership Empathy Motivation Self-Management Self-Awareness Mindfulness Mindfulness develops selfawareness that enables other Emotional Intelligence domains Self-Awareness: pay attention to the body. From existential to experiential Self-Management: from Self-awareness compulsion to choice

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114 Practices Summary Mindful Listening Three Breaths Focused Attention Minute to Arrive Open Awareness Noting Head, Body, Heart check-in Journaling Mindful Eating SBNRR Mindful Conversation Acceptance Body Scan

115 Homework Practice 1 minute of focused attention OR open awareness Begin one meal with 3 mindful bites Practice mindful listening

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