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1 Handout One Understanding Your Approach to Emotions Adapted from John Gottman's Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: The Heart of Parenting It's important to understand why you approach emotions the way you do. If you have found that you lean towards being a dismissive, disapproving, or Laissez-Faire parent, then exploring your family's philosophy of emotion is an important first step to changing into an Emotion Coach. 1. Did your parents treat sad and angry moments as natural occurrences? If so, describe a common experience. 2. Did your parents lend an ear when family members felt unhappy, fearful, or angry? 3. Did your family use times of unhappiness, fear, or anger to show each other support, offer guidance, and help each other solve problems? 4. Was anger always viewed as potentially destructive? If so, what did this teach you about how to handle your anger? Are you taking this same approach with your children? 5. Was fear looked on as cowardly? If so, how did you learn to handle fear? Are you taking this same approach with your children? 6. Was sadness seen as self-pity in your family? What ways were you taught to handle sadness? Do you see yourself teaching these same methods to your children? 7. Or where sadness, anger and fear shoved under the blanket or dismissed as unproductive, frivolous, dangerous, or self-indulgent? If so, how did you learn to deal with these emotions? Do you encourage your children to deal with these emotions in the same way?

2 Handout Two Emotional Awareness Self-Test Adapted from John Gottman's Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: The Heart of Parenting The following test is designed to help you take a look at your own emotional life, how you permit yourself to experience anger and sadness, and how your feel about emotion in general. There are no right or wrong answers here, but the scoring key at the end will help you identify your level of emotional awareness. Understanding this aspect of yourself can give you insights into why you react as you do to other people's emotions, and particularly to your child's emotions. Anger Start by taking a look at the most recent past, say, the last few weeks of your life. Think about the things you find stressful and that causes you to feel frustrated, irritated, or angry. Also, think about people in your life who seem to be responding to you with impatience, frustration, anger, or irritation. Consider the thoughts, images, and basic feelings you have when faced with these angry, stressful emotions in others and in yourself. Read each of the following statements and see how much you agree with them. Then circle the response that fits best. T = True, F = False, = Don't Know 1. I feel many different kinds of anger. 2. I am either calm or I blow up in anger, there's not much in between. 3. People can tell when I am even a little irritated. 4. I can tell way in advance of getting angry that I am on the nasty or grumpy side. 5. In others I can detect even small signs that people are angry. 6. Anger is toxic. 7. When I get angry, I feel like I am chewing on something, clenching my jaw on it, and biting it. 8. I can feel cues of anger in my body. 9. Feelings are private. I try not to express them experience anger as getting physically very hot. 11. For me, feeling angry is like building up steam, increasing the pressure.

3 12. For me, getting angry is like blowing off steam, letting go of the pressure. 13. For me, getting angry is like the pressure building and building and not letting up. 14. Getting angry makes me feel like I'm about to lose control. 15. When I get angry it tells people they can't push me around. 16. Anger is my way of getting serious and stern. 17. Anger gives me energy; it's motivation to tackle things and not be defeated by them keep my anger suppressed and inside. 19. My view is that if you suppress anger, you court disaster. 20. In my view, anger is natural, like clearing your throat. 21. For me, anger is like something's on fire, like something is going to explode. 22. Anger, like fire, can consume you just ride out anger until it melts away see anger as destruction see anger as uncivilized see anger as drowning. 27. To me there's not much difference between anger and aggression think that a child's anger is bad and ought to be punished. 29. The energy from anger has to go somewhere. You might as well express it. 30. Anger gives you drive, energy. 31. For me, anger and hurt go together. When I am angry, it's because I have been hurt.

4 32. For me, anger and fear go together. When I am angry, deep down there's an insecurity. 33. When you get angry, you put yourself in a position where you feel like you've got power; you feel like you're standing up for yourself. 34. Anger is mostly impatience cope with being angry just by letting time pass. 36. For me anger means helplessness and frustration keep my anger bottled up. 38. It's shameful for people to see you angry. 39. Anger is okay if it is controlled would say that when people get angry, it's like they are dumping waste on others. 41. Getting rid of anger is like expelling something very unpleasant from my body find the expression of emotions embarrassing. 43. If a person were healthy there would be no anger. 44. Anger implies engagement or contact. To compute your score for anger, add up the number of times you said "true" for the items in List No. 1 below, and then subtract the number of times you said "true" for the items in List No. 2 below. The higher your score, the greater your awareness. List No. 1 1, 3,4, 5, 7, 8,10,11, 12,15,16, 17,19, 20,29, 30, 31, 32, 33,44. List No. 2 2, 6, 9,13,14,18, 21,22,23,24,25,26,27, 28, 34, 35, 36, 37, 38, 39, 40,41,42,43. If you responded "don't know" more than ten times, you may want to work at becoming more aware of anger in yourself and others.

5 Sadness Now think about recent times when you felt sad, downhearted, or dejected. Think about people in your life who have expressed feelings of sadness, depression, or melancholia. What thoughts, images, and basic feelings come to mind when you think about the expression of these sad emotions by yourself and by others? Read each of the following statements about sadness and circle the answer that best describes your response. 1. Overall, I would have to say that sadness is toxic. 2. Sadness is like illness and getting over sadness is like recovering from a disease. 3. When I'm sad, I want to be alone. 4. I feel lots of varieties of sadness. 5. I can tell when I am even just a little bit sad. 6. I can tell when other people are even just a small bit blue. 7. My body gives me signals loud and clear that I am going to have a sad day. 8. I view sadness as productive. It lets you know to slow down. 9. I think sadness is good for you. It can tell you what's missing in your life. 10. Sadness is a natural part of feeling loss and grief. 11. Sadness is okay if it is over quickly. 12. Attending to sadness is cleansing. 13. Sadness is useless. 14. There is no such thing as a "good cry." 15. Sadness is not something that should be wasted on small things. 16. Sadness is there for a reason. 17. Sadness means weakness.

6 18. Sadness means you can feel or empathize. 19. Feeling sad is feeling helpless an/or hopeless. 20. It is useless to talk to people if you're feeling sad sometimes have a good cry. 22. Being sad makes me afraid. 23. Showing people you are sad means a loss of control. 24. If you can maintain control, sadness can be a pleasure. 25. It is best not to show people your sadness. 26. Sadness is like being violated. 27. People should be alone when sad, like quarantined. 28. Acting happy is an antidote to sadness. 29. One emotion can be converted to another with enough thought try to get over sadness quickly. 31. Sadness makes you reflect. 32. A child's sadness reflects a negative trait. 33. It's best not to react at all to a child's sadness. 34. Sometimes when I'm sad, what I fell is self-hatred. 35. In my view, emotions are always there; they are a part of life. 36. To be in control means to be upbeat, positive, not sad. 37. Feelings are private, not public. 38. If you are emotional with children, you might get out of control and become abusive. 39. In life, it is best not to dwell too long with negative emotions; just accentuate the positive.

7 40. To get over a negative emotion, just get on with life's routines. To compute your score for sadness, add up the number of times you said "true" for the items in List No. 1 below, and then subtract the number of times you said "true" for the items in List No. 2 below. The higher your score, the greater your awareness. List No. 1 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9,10,12,16,18, 21,24, 31, 35. List No. 2 1,2, 3,11,13,14,15, 17,19,20,22, 23,25,26, 27,28, 29, 30, 32, 33, 34, 36, 37, 38, 39,40. If you responded "don't know" more than ten times, you may want to work at becoming more aware of anger in yourself and others. Conclusion: People who are aware of anger and sadness can easily detect such emotions in themselves and others. They experience a variety of nuances with these emotion, and they allow these feelings to be a part of their lives. Such people are likely to see and respond to smaller and less intense expressions of anger or sadness in their children than people lower in emotional awareness. Can you be high in awareness for one emotion and low for another? This is quite possible. Awareness is not one-dimensional and it can change over time.

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