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1 Powerful Lessons In Personal Change By Stephen R. Covey Habits are powerful factors in our lives. According to Dr. Stephen Covey, a graduate of Harvard Business School and author of the best-selling The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, our character is basically a composite of our habits. And, contrary to popular belief, breaking a bad habit involves more than a little willpower and a few minor changes in our lives. In actual fact, ridding ourselves of negative habitual tendencies involves a process of tremendous commitment - one which actually mirrors life s natural stages of development. The process of moving from total dependence (infant) to complete interdependence (adult) could be thought of as progressing along a natural maturity continuum. We each begin life as an infant, totally dependent on others. We are directed, nurtured, and sustained by family and friends. Without this nurturing, we could only live for a few hours or a few days at most. But gradually, over the ensuing months and years, we become more and more independent - physically, emotionally and financially - until eventually we are able to take care of ourselves. As we continue to grow and mature we become increasingly aware that all of nature is interdependent, and that the higher reaches of our human nature have to do with forming and maintaining relationships with others. Simply put then, dependent people need others to get what they want. Independent people can get what they want through their own efforts and interdependent people combine their efforts with the efforts of others to achieve great things. It s easy to see that independence is much more mature than dependence but, according to Dr. Covey, it is not the ultimate goal in effective living. Independent people who do not have the maturity to think and act interdependently may be good individual producers, but they won t be great leaders or team players. They lack the qualities necessary to truly succeed in marriage, family or organizational reality. Yet interdependence is a choice that only independent people can make. Dependent people cannot choose to be interdependent. They don t have the character to do it; they don t own enough of themselves. That s why parts 1, 2 and 3 of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People deal with the concept of self-mastery. They provide the tools we need to move from total 1 To purchase a personal subscription or corporate license, please visit us at www. or fill out the simple request form at All Rights reserved. Reproduction or redistribution in whole or in part without prior written permission of The Business Source is strictly prohibited.

2 dependence to independence. Then, once we ve become truly independent as people, we have the foundation we need to understand the habits of interdependence discussed in parts 4, 5 and 6. Finally, the seventh habit, discussed in the closing chapter of the book, makes all the others possible. You may choose to read The 7 Habits of Highly Successful People completely through from cover to cover to gather a sense of the whole book, but the material is not meant to be read that way. Instead, the book is designed to be a companion in life s continual process of change and growth. It is organized with suggestions for application after each section so that you can study and focus on any particular habit as you are ready. Remember, this book was not written to be a quick fix for all of life s problems. Habit One: Be Proactive While the word proactivity is now fairly common in management literature, it is a word you won t find in most dictionaries. It involves a lot more than merely taking initiative. It means that as human beings, we are responsible for our own lives. Highly proactive people, says Dr. Covey, do not blame circumstances or conditions for their behavior. Unlike their reactive counterparts, proactive people are rarely affected by their physical environment. For example, if the weather is good, reactive people feel good. If it isn t so good, their attitude and performance suffer. By contrast, proactive people carry their own weather with them wherever they go. Whether it rains or not makes no difference to a proactive person. The ability to subordinate an impulse to a value is the essence of a proactive person. Proactive people are still affected by external stimuli, but their response to the stimuli is a value-based choice. As Eleanor Roosevelt once observed, No one can hurt you without your consent. In short, it s not what happens to us in life, but our response to what happens that hurts us. Our basic human nature is to act and not be acted upon. But, being proactive and taking initiative does not mean being pushy, obnoxious or aggressive. It does mean following our human nature and recognizing our personal responsibility to make things happen. Knowing we are responsible for our own actions is fundamental to every other habit discussed in Stephen Covey s book. Habit Two: Begin With the End in Mind One man asked another on the death of a mutual friend, How much did he leave? His friend responded, He left it all. When you begin with the end in mind, you gain a different perspective. Although Habit Two applies to many different circumstances and levels of life, the most important application of begin with the end in mind is to begin today with the image of the end of your life as your frame of reference by which everything else is examined. By keeping that end clearly in mind, you can make certain that whatever you do on any particular day does not violate the criteria you have defined 2

3 as supremely important, and that each day of your life contributes in a meaningful way to the vision you have of your life as a whole. If you consider carefully what you want to be said of you at your funeral, writes Covey, then you will find your personal definition of success. Perhaps fame, money, achievement or some of the other things we strive for every day are not what really matters to us at all. To use a computer metaphor, if Habit One tells us that we are the programmer in our lives, then Habit Two says that we should write our own programs. As proactive people, we can begin to give expression to what we want to be and do. To this end, Stephen Covey recommends sitting down and physically writing a personal mission statement. Of course, to do this properly takes time, patience and involvement. Remember, this book is not a quick fix. Habit Three: Put Things First In Habit Three, Stephen Covey deals with many of the questions addressed in the field of personal management. Personal management theory, he writes, has evolved in a pattern similar to many other areas of human endeavor. In social development, for example, the agricultural revolution was followed by the industrial revolution which eventually gave way to the informational revolution. Likewise, in the area of personal management, each generation of thinking builds on the one before it. The first generation of personal management theory could be characterized by the use of notes and checklists in an effort to give some semblance of organization to the many demands placed on our time and energy. Similarly, the second generation could be characterized by calendars and appointment books. This phase reflects an attempt to look ahead and plan for future activities and events. The third generation reflects the current state of personal management. It focuses on setting goals - specific long, intermediate and short-term targets toward which our time and energy would be best directed. While the third generation of personal management theory has made important contributions to the field, people are beginning to realize that efficient scheduling and control of time are often counterproductive. The efficiency focus has created expectations that clash with opportunities to develop rich relationships, to meet human needs and to enjoy spontaneous moments on a daily basis. But there is an emerging fourth generation that is different in kind from all of its predecessors. It recognizes that the challenge is not to manage time but rather to manage ourselves. Habit Three goes to the heart of effective personal management. It deals with things that are not urgent but are important, such as building relationships, exercising, preparation and preventative maintenance - all those things we need to do but rarely get around to doing because they aren t urgent. The object of Habit Three is to teach us to manage our lives from a center of sound principles with a focus on balancing the urgent with the important. To return once 3

4 again to the computer metaphor, if Habit One says You re the programmer, and Habit Two says, Write the program, then Habit Three says, Run the program. Running the program is primarily a function of our independent will and our commitment not to short-term goals but to correct principles and our own deepest values which give context and meaning to our lives. Habit Four: Think Win/Win Whether you re the president of a company or the janitor, the moment you move from independence to interdependence you step into a leadership role. And the habit of truly effective interpersonal leadership is to Think Win/Win. Win/Win is a frame of mind and heart that constantly seeks mutual benefit in all human interactions. With a Win/Win solution, all parties feel good about a decision and are committed to a common plan of action. Roger Fisher and William Ury, two Harvard Law professors, have done some outstanding work on this subject in what they call the principled approach versus the positional approach to interpersonal bargaining. They suggest that the essence of principled negotiation is to separate the person from the problem, to focus on interests and not positions, to invent options for mutual gain, and to insist on external and objective criteria that all parties can buy into. Stephen Covey firmly supports their approach. In fact, Habits Five and Six deal directly with several elements of this strategy. Habit Five: Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood We all have a tendency to rush in, to fix things up with good advice. But often we fail to take the time to diagnose, to really, deeply understand the problem first. According to Dr. Covey, the most important principle in the field of interpersonal relations is to Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood. Many people do not listen with the intent to understand, they listen with the intent to reply. They re either speaking or preparing to speak. Yet, next to physical survival, the greatest needs of a human being are to be understood, to be validated and to be appreciated. Seeking to understand, therefore, is an extremely powerful habit of effective interdependence. Habit Six: Synergize! When Sir Winston Churchill was called to head up the war effort for Great Britain, he remarked that all of his life had prepared him for this hour. In a similar sense, the exercise of Habits One through Five prepares us for the Habit of Synergy. Synergy, simply defined, means the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. It means that the relationship which the parts have to each other is a part in and of itself. Valuing differences is the essence of synergy - the mental, emotional and psychological differences between people. And the key to valuing those differences, 4

5 writes Stephen Covey, is to realize that all people see the world not as it is, but as they are. When someone disagrees with you, you can say, Good! You see it differently. And you don t have to argue with them, you can simply affirm them. And you can seek to understand. When you see only two alternatives - yours and the wrong one - you can look for a synergistic third alternative. And if you work with a Win/Win philosophy, you can usually find a solution that will be better off for everyone concerned. Habit Seven: Sharpen The Saw. Habit Seven is all about preserving and enhancing the greatest asset you have - you. It s renewing the four dimensions of your nature: physical, spiritual, mental and social. The physical dimension involves caring properly for our body by eating the right kinds of foods, getting sufficient rest and exercising on a regular basis. Renewing the spiritual dimension provides leadership to your life just as a commitment to lifelong education provides vital mental renewal. Finally, while the physical, spiritual and mental dimensions of your nature are closely related to Habits One, Two and Three, the social dimension focuses the principles of interpersonal leadership and effective communication enshrined in Habits Four, Five and Six. Success in the final three Habits is not primarily a matter of intellect; it s primarily a matter of emotion. It s highly related to our sense of personal security, which comes from sources within ourselves. Living a life of integrity, says Stephen Covey, is the only way to achieve personal security and to realize the important social dimension of human nature. To sum up, then, if we take nothing else away from Stephen Covey s book, we would do well to remember that change - real change - comes from the inside out. It doesn t come from hacking at the leaves of attitude and behavior with quick fix personality oriented techniques. It comes from striking at the root; at the fabric of our thought that gives definition to our character and creates the lens through which we see the world. It isn t an easy process. But it is possible. It begins with the desire to center our lives on correct principles and to rid ourselves of unworthy habits. 5

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