Introduction to Overcoming Immunity To Change. Leading with Influence Program

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Introduction to Overcoming Immunity To Change Leading with Influence Program

Contents Introduction... 1 Why Overcoming Immunity to Change?... 1 Sample Immunity Maps from Lisa's video... 3 An Overcoming Immunity to Change Map Overview... 3 Example Collaborative Leader... 4 Example Emotionally Available Leader... 5 Example Cholesterol Medication Patient... 6 The four stages to releasing your immunity... 7 Pre-Introductory Workshop Task... 8 Your Improvement Goal... 8

Introduction For an overview of how this process fits into the Leading with Influence Program, please download and read the Leading with Influence Program Overview from your online resource: http://www.curiosityskilledthecat.com/index.php/doeelwiresources Then, please read this document and complete the task before your Introductory Workshop. N.B. We will be using the information you record at the end of this document during the Introductory Workshop. Please make sure you complete the task well before that workshop and bring this completed document with you. Why Overcoming Immunity to Change? We have heard these many times: People resist change, Change is hard!, No-one likes change, etc. And, there are also some beautiful quotes supporting the notion of change: When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~ Viktor E Frankl, author of Man s Search for Meaning In our struggle for freedom, truth is the only weapon we possess. ~ The Dalai Lama Life isn t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself. ~ George Bernard Shaw It may be hard for an egg to turn into a bird: it would be a jolly sight harder for it to learn to fly while remaining an egg. ~ C. S. Lewis Clearly, collectively, we are conflicted about change. There is a growing body of evidence that the "difference that makes the difference" with regards to organisational outcomes is the willingness and capacity of the organisation to support individual development and growth. The Department of the Environment and Energy has provided this program as part of their support for your development. The Program Overview has more about that. "The single biggest failure of leadership is to treat adaptive challenges like technical problems" ~ Heifetz and Linsky, Cambridge Leadership Associates "There is no greater waste of resources in ordinary organisations than the energy expended every day to hide our (perceived) weaknesses and manage others' favourable impressions of us" ~ Kegan, Lahey, Fleming, Miller, Making Business Personal HBR, April 2014. Leading with Influence Program: Introduction to Overcoming Immunity to Change 1

In the Leading with Influence Program, we will be working with an effective process for personal change called Overcoming Immunity to Change. This document is your starting point for that aspect of the program and is, in effect, the start of the program. Overcoming Immunity to Change is often abbreviated to "ITC" which misses the essential word - Overcoming. Rather than giving you a wordy explanation of this we would like you to watch the following recording of Lisa Laskow Lahey Ed.D., one of the developers of Overcoming Immunity to Change, recorded at the 2017 The Leadership Circle Conference in Sydney. In this video Lisa walks you through the process of seeing the Immunity to Change then discusses the "overcoming" part. In this Leading with Influence Program you will be working on your own "Immunity Map" associated with an Improvement Goal you will select for yourself. More on that below. The recording is 1 hour and 15 minutes long and is required watching as the starting point for this program. Lisa Laskow Lahey Ed.D. is from the Graduate School of Education at Harvard. Her short bio is available at: https://www.gse.harvard.edu/faculty/lisa-lahey Her presentation at TLC Conference Sydney 2017 is available at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6reqy1miba8 During the presentation Lisa refers to some sample Immunity Maps. For your convenience and with Lisa's permission we have reproduced those maps below. After you have worked through the video please complete the Pre-Introductory Workshop task after the sample maps and bring this document with you to the Introductory Workshop so you can build upon it there. Leading with Influence Program: Introduction to Overcoming Immunity to Change 2

Sample Immunity Maps from Lisa's video An Overcoming Immunity to Change Map Overview To map your Immunity to Change follow the steps starting from Column 1 1. Improvement goal What are you doing, or not doing, that works against your Column 1 goal? 3. My hidden/competing goal. Imagine doing the opposite of the behaviours in Column 4. Big assumptions. "What assumptions must I be making that would keep me captive of (or give rise to) my Column 3 hidden commitments? Criteria: Is not an outcome or result Is true for you (rather than something that someone else thinks you should work on) Implicates you (is not about someone else) Is stated affirmatively There is room for improvement Is important to you (4 or 5 on a 1-5 scale) Criteria: Behaviours, including "selftalk" (but not inner states or emotions) These behaviours get in the way or work against Column 1 Don't write why or what you are doing to accomplish your goal. Worry box: Really picture yourself in that situation. What do you feel/think? What concerns, doubts, anxieties - even fears - do you experience? Write these in this box. Examples: I'll look like a slacker I'll look stupid Consider that you may have a commitment to prevent this fear or loss from happening. Rewrite your fears from your Worry Box into "goal" statements. Hidden commitments: Examples: "I'll worry I'll look stupid" becomes "I am committed to NOT looking stupid" "I worry I'll become angry" becomes "I am committed to NOT feeling my anger" Criteria: Makes the hidden commitment necessary in order to keep yourself "safe" Connected to fears; takes fears deeper Has a bad conclusion for you Can feel real and powerful (even if you know it is "wrong") Limits your world Criteria: Is not noble, preserves the danger from your fear Is self-protective Shows why column 2 behaviours make good sense Is in tension with column 1 You see your immune system and it feels powerful (score 4 or 5) To understand the immunity, work backwards from Column 4 1. Improvement goal, because being like this is not safe (according to the worries driven by the hidden assumption). Which leads to these Column 2 behaviours which do not support your 3. Leads to these worries or fears... That give rise to a hidden commitment to avoid that scary outcome and not to experience that fear... 4. The hidden assumption/s (beliefs) about yourself, others or the world in general... Leading with Influence Program: Introduction to Overcoming Immunity to Change 3

Example Collaborative Leader 1. Improvement goal To be a collaborative leader who taps into the collective wisdom of my leadership team. Score 4.5 / 5 We will fail if I continue to drive people the way I am. I'm working too hard with not enough support from them. If they feel more ownership, we'll all benefit. What are you doing, or not doing, that works against your Column 1 goal? Coming to the table with a predetermined definition of the problem and solution Always framing and writing the meeting agenda Speaking more than any other member of the team Taking charge of, and running every meeting (rather than sharing this responsibility with others, even though I claimed they were leaders too) Not asking for help when I need it 3. My hidden/competing goal. Imagine doing the opposite of the behaviours in Column Worry box: Fears: I'll look and feel weak and soft I'll lose my value proposition Hidden commitments: To not appearing or feeling weak To being hugely important, indispensable and value-adding To always appearing to be on top of things To be the hero/star of the team (scoring the goals) 4. Big assumptions. "What assumptions must I be making that would keep me captive of (or give rise to) my Column 3 hidden commitments. If I look weak, people won't follow me/my leadership I assume people want a leader who has the answers = strong I assume people don't want to take responsibility anyway If I am not indispensable, then I'm 2nd rate If I am not special, then I am replaceable To understand the immunity, work backwards from Column 4 so I can't do this desired new behaviour: to be a collaborative leader who taps into the collective wisdom of my leadership team because being like this is not safe according to the worries driven by the hidden assumption. drives my behaviour: Speaking more than any other member of the team... Taking charge of, and running every meeting (rather than sharing this responsibility with others, even though I claimed they were leaders too)... so I worry I'll look and feel weak and soft which I don't want so my hidden commitment to not appearing or feeling weak Situation or context of the desired new behaviour: When I think about being be a collaborative leader who taps into the collective wisdom of my leadership team... my hidden assumption takes control: I assume people want a leader who has the answers which = strong Leading with Influence Program: Introduction to Overcoming Immunity to Change 4

Example Emotionally Available Leader 1. Improvement goal To be more approachable, accessible > to be more 'even' emotionally, less volatile, more emotionally 'reliable. Score 5+ If I don't succeed on this front, I'm never going to progress in this organisation. What are you doing, or not doing, that works against your Column 1 goal? Holding impossibly high expectations for others and self Very judgemental - extreme black and white decisions Talking too much Procrastinating, and then having to act urgently Hair trigger responses to disappointment, what I see as a lack of integrity or injustice Lord it over my people; show off; flex my intellectual muscles; call attention to my accomplishments Not letting myself get close to others Not sharing my emotional needs, saying what I want or need on this level 3. My hidden/competing goal. Imagine doing the opposite of the behaviours in Column Worry box: Fears: My reputation will suffer My team will become lax I'll become common I'll become lax! I'll lose opportunities to get recognised, admired & envied I'll be simple Hidden commitments: To not reduce my reputation in any way To keep my team members insecure so that they will stay driven To not be too common To not lose my insecurity To keep getting recognition To be self-sufficient; to not rely on others To be envied and admired for my success and accomplishments To be enviable To not be too direct; to come across as complex and mysterious; to not be too simple 4. Big assumptions. "What assumptions must I be making that would keep me captive of (or give rise to) my Column 3 hidden commitments. I assume if I become a man with a 'common touch' (approachable, accessible, supportive, and warm), I will lose the advantages of my superiority I assume the 'common touch' is incompatible with intellectual superiority I assume I must continue to feel superior to feel good I assume that any tolerance for mistakes or weakness in myself is incompatible with my station in life I assume that if I lose my insecurity I lose my drive (and the same for others) To understand the immunity, work backwards from Column 4 so I can't do this desired new behaviour: to be more approachable, accessible > to be more 'even' emotionally, less volatile, more emotionally 'reliable' because being like this is not safe according to the worries driven by the hidden assumption. drives my behaviour: Lord it over my people; show off; flex my intellectual muscles; call attention to my accomplishments... so I worry I'll lose opportunities to get recognised, admired and envied... which I don't want so my hidden commitment to be envied and admired for my success and accomplishments... Situation or context of the desired new behaviour: When I think about being more approachable, accessible, more 'even' emotionally, less volatile, more emotionally 'reliable'... My hidden assumption takes control: I assume if I become a man with a 'common touch' (approachable, accessible, supportive, and warm), I will lose the advantages of my superiority Leading with Influence Program: Introduction to Overcoming Immunity to Change 5

Example Cholesterol Medication Patient 1. Improvement goal To get better at taking my daily medications Score: 5 Because taking it will lower my cholesterol and my doctor says it will prevent me from having a heart attack. What are you doing, or not doing, that works against your Column 1 goal? I don't take it every day as prescribed When it runs out, I don't promptly refill it When I get those automatic phone calls from my pharmacy telling e that my medications are ready to be refilled, I hang up right in the middle of the voice mail message 3. My hidden/competing goal. Imagine doing the opposite of the behaviours in Column Worry box: Fears: I'll feel like an old sick man I ll feel like an invalid with a foot in the grave Hidden commitments: To not feeling like an old, sick man To not be reminded daily of my mortality To avoid feeling aware of my mortality 4. Big Assumptions. "What assumptions must I be making that would keep me captive of (or give rise to) my Column 3 hidden commitments. If I take my prescription daily, I will necessarily feel old and on death's door Taking a daily medication means there is something wrong with me Being aware of my mortality takes the fun out of my life To understand the immunity, work backwards from Column 4 so I can't do this desired new behaviour: to get better at taking my daily medications because being like this is not safe according to the worries driven by the hidden assumption. drives my behaviour: I don't take it every day as prescribed... When it runs out, I don't promptly refill it... so I worry I'll feel like an old sick man; like an invalid with a foot in the grave... which I don't want so my hidden commitment to not feeling like an old, sick man... Situation or context of the desired new behaviour: When I think about getting better at taking my daily medications... My hidden assumption takes control: If I take my prescription daily, I will necessarily feel old and on death's door... Leading with Influence Program: Introduction to Overcoming Immunity to Change 6

The four stages to releasing your immunity As described in the video by Lisa Lahey and supported by the Leading with Influence Program. You are "subject to" your hidden assumptions. Unconsciously "Immune" Your Column 3 "hidden commitment" to not experience your Column 3 worries / fears leads you to your Column 2 behaviours instead of your Column 1 desired improvement goal. Therefore, you are "immune" to achieving your Column 1 goal and do not know you are immune. As a result of your Immunity to Change process you can now "see" the immunity process as described in the row above. Consciously "Immune" Your hidden assumption is now no longer hidden - it is now an "object" - a phenomenon you can "see". You are still "immune" to achieving your Column 1 goal but at least you are conscious of it. How to overcome your "immune system" so that you can achieve your Column 1 improvement goal. i.e. so you are "released" from being subject to it and instead have choices about when and where it might be helpful, or not. Consciously "Released" Step 1: Observe the big assumption in action Step 2: Stay alert to natural challenges and counters to the big assumption Step 3: Create a continuum of progress Step 4: Write a biography of your big assumption Step 4: Design a first test of your big assumption Step 6: Examine the results of your first test Step 7: Develop / run / evaluate further tests Unconsciously "Released" You have made new habitual patterns in your mind so your old big assumption is now contextualised as just one possible course of action rather than an automatic reaction to an aspect of the world around you. Leading with Influence Program: Introduction to Overcoming Immunity to Change 7

Pre-Introductory Workshop Task As mentioned above, an integral part of this program is the work you will do on your own Immunity Map. The Program Overview frames the reason the Overcoming Immunity to Change process is such an important part of the Leading with Influence Program. Your Improvement Goal Now you have: 1. watched Lisa's video and followed along with the sample maps; reviewed the Column 1 Criteria on the Overcoming Immunity to Change Map Overview on page 3; 3. reflected upon the Improvement Goal you would like to work on during this program... please record your current idea about an Improvement Goal below and bring it with you to the Introductory Workshop. N.B. Don't worry if your initial thoughts about a suitable Improvement Goal don't feel particularly strong. If they do, that's great! If not, there will be time at the Introductory Workshop and afterwards to evolve your current thoughts into a strong goal. For now, just note down what you think about it and compare it to the Column 1 criteria for refining if necessary. Your Improvement Goal: On a scale of 1-5 where 5 is "essential", how important is it that you achieve this change? Once you have achieved this change, how would you be different? In other words, why is it important for you to make this change? Write why here: Leading with Influence Program: Introduction to Overcoming Immunity to Change 8