Becoming An Ally: Being an Active Bystander. Laurie VandeSchoot, Deputy Fire Chief Calgary Fire Department

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Becoming An Ally: Being an Active Bystander Laurie VandeSchoot, Deputy Fire Chief Calgary Fire Department

Workshop Goal 1. To create a culture where language is inclusive and diversity is celebrated 2. To explore your understanding of power and privilege 3. To enhance your skills to be an ally and an active bystander 28/03/2017 Presentation 2

What is Diversity? What is Inclusion? What is the Benefit? 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. A stronger team Everyone Less conflict Less stress and A safer contributing to burnout workplace solutions The kind of behaviour we accept at work becomes our shared perception of what is normal or ok. By addressing inappropriate behaviours when they occur, we help create a culture of accountability and an environment of trust for everyone. 28/03/2017 Presentation 3

Safety & Security in the workplace are human rights 28/03/2017 Presentation 4

28/03/2017 Presentation 5 The Impact of Power & Privilege

Intersectionality Power and Privilege 28/03/2017 Presentation 6

Harassment and Safety 28/03/2017 Presentation 7

What social conditions create an unsafe or noninclusive work environment? Sexism, racism, classism, ableism, ageism, homophobia, transphobia, etc. 28/03/2017 Presentation 8

What does it look like? 1. Comments about an individuals body or appearance, ability, race, or beliefs 2. Pressure for a relationship that crosses boundaries 3. Angry, threatening or intimidating behaviours 4. Touching or getting too close 5. It is often about power 28/03/2017 Presentation 9

What scenarios have we faced? Running in the gym and someone passes you and your friend who is black. The person says lets go Kenya, this is your sport. A firefighter is mocked because they try too hard at a fire training night. They are also called a know it all. Responding to a situation with a teenage girl who has been bullied and has taken a bunch of pills. Somebody did something wrong in a training and got made fun of afterwards. Being treated badly by someone who assumed by your last name you speak a language you do not. I know a guy who got told to put a shirt on because he s overweight. People using derogatory terms fag, that s so gay, he s retarded. Racist remark towards two black gentleman on train. Train guy was being funny until joke was made. 28/03/2017 Presentation 10

What does it feel like? What are the consequences? Privilege is not something I take and which I therefore have the option of not taking. It is something that society gives me, and unless I change the institutions which give it to me, they will continue to give it, and I will continue to have it, however noble and egalitarian my intentions. Harry Brod (2010) 28/03/2017 Presentation 11

What is our Impact? Dear Daddy

Violence Pyramid Bullying Physical or Emotional Violence Harassment Incivility CCASA, 2017 28/03/2017 Presentation 13

Active and Inactive Bystanders 28/03/2017 Presentation 14

What is an Active Bystander? We are all bystanders at some time in our lives. An Active Bystander is a person who witnesses a situation and takes the opportunity to help. The situation could be something minor or serious, it could occur one-time or many times. As Firefighters, we are often active bystanders in our jobs and when off duty, due to our caring demeanour and willingness to help. 28/03/2017 Presentation 15

What makes someone become an Active Bystander? You have a strong physical or psychological reaction to something you are seeing or experiencing. That reaction may be adrenaline, nausea, anger, fear, sadness etc. This reaction is occurs because you recognize that the situation is unfair, unkind, dangerous or just wrong. You can be an active bystander in the moment, or later. 28/03/2017 Presentation 16

Bystander Continuum 28/03/2017 Presentation 17

28/03/2017 Presentation 18 Tools What are some strategies that can work?

Can we overcome our own biases? Become An Ally

What can we do? Many authors state that there is no ally magic recipe ; however you can try: 1. Reclaim the words It is ok to name when things are oppressive. If something displays an example of sexism it is ok to call it that. 2. Acknowledge that oppression and privilege exist 3. Pay attention Make ourselves uncomfortable. Be curious. Be aware of the unconscious information that is present in our daily lives. 4. Learn to listen 5. Little risks Make noise and be seen. Find ways of getting off of the paths of least resistance, dare to make people uncomfortable (starting with yourself), openly choose alternative paths, promote change in systems that are organized around privilege. Mulluly (2010) 28/03/2017 Presentation 20

Challenging Conversations 1. Describe I see Describe the other person s behaviour / actions. When you 2. Express I Feel Express how you feel, the impact of their actions using I statements. 3. Specify I need Specify what change you desire 4. Clarify We benefit Clarify benefits of change and find common ground 28/03/2017 Presentation 21

Conclusion and Questions. Self-reflection: What will you do differently based on what you have learned form this training session? Thank You! 28/03/2017 Presentation 22