Changes As We Grow 6th Grade Workbook
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Emotional You Social Physical 2
What s Great About Me Circle all all words that that describe you! you! Circle as as many as as you want. want. Intelligent Talented Funny Attractive Sensitive Creative Trustworthy Outgoing Energetic inquisitive Quiet Artistic Friendly Thoughtful Ethical Athletic Imaginative Kind Beautiful Optimistic Sympathetic Organized Bold Good Listener Positive Cool Original Assertive Leader Helpful Confident 3
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5 Ex. Received bad test grade (what happened?) EVENT Embarrassed Angry Frustrated FEELING Your face turns red PHYSICAL REACTION Hide your test from mom (how I acted on my feelings) BEHAVIOR Stress free (positive or negative) CONSEQUENCES Directions: Spend the next several days paying close attention to what you are feeling and how you are choosing to act on your feelings. Remember to refer to your emoticon sheet (do not only use mad, sad, glad) to identify your feelings. We will start with a few examples: EMOTICON - SEQUENCE
FEELINGS Feelings are automatic All feelings are OK 6
Who Needs It? Everybody, people all over the world have the same basic needs. These needs must be satisfied if we want to have a good self-concept and get along well with other people. When our needs are satisfied, we feel happy and contented. When they are not satisfied, we feel frustrated, angry, sad, confused, hurt, jealous, and hateful. These feelings can cause conflict. Dr. Abraham Maslow, a psychologist, believed that most behavior could be explained by understanding the basic needs of people. Dr. Maslow arranged these needs in order of their importance to us. SELF FULFILLMENT The need to become everything That you are capable of becoming- A creative human being. SELF WORTH NEEDS The need to feel important, capable, worthy, confident; Need for recognition, attention, and respect. LOVE AND FRIENDSHIP NEEDS The need to give and receive love; the need to belong in a group. SAFETY NEEDS The need to feel safe from threats; to be treated fairly; to be trusted and to have trust PHYSICAL NEEDS The need for air, food, shelter, medical care, rest, and recreation, sometimes called SURVIVAL needs. Putting it Together Much of our behavior is a combination of needs. For example, when you eat with a friend, you are satisfying both the need for food and friendship. Do you think that understanding basic needs will help you to understand behavior? Let s find out. Analyze these behaviors and use Dr. Maslow s Pyramid to identify the needs. Five year old Jill cries and holds on to her mother on her first day of school. You haven t been invited to a party, but all your friends have. You are very upset. Joe always talks loudly, and thinks he is better than everyone else. Emily is dating a boy all of her friends think is cool, even though he is not very nice to her. Jason s friends are pressuring him to drink a beer. You have been sick and in the nurse s office For one hour, and no one has come to pick you up yet. 57
Frustrating experiences challenge us to think creatively about how to solve a problem, or how to deal with very powerful emotions. Developing new ways to deal with frustrations will leave you less angry and more in control of yourself and what s going on around you. Practice by analyzing each situation below. Identify what the frustration is and some choices you have to deal with Frustrating it. Choose experiences the behavior challenge that will us most to think likely creatively end your about frustration how to in solve the most a problem, positive or way. how to deal with very powerful emotions. Developing new ways to deal with frustrations will leave you less angry and more in control of yourself and what s going on around you. Practice by analyzing each situation below. Identify what the frustration is and some choices you have to deal with it. Choose the behavior that will most likely end your frustration in Frustration the most positive 2 way. Frustration Frustration 1 1 Frustration is not understanding Frustration Frustration is not is being not being able able to go to go the math lesson that you teacher to the to movies the movies with with your your best friend best friend is explaining. because because you have you have to babysit to babysit your your Frustration: Lack of knowledge. little little sister. sister. Feeling: Frustration: Not being Not being able to able go. to go. Choices I have: Feeling: Feeling: Frustration 2 Frustration 1 Ask the teacher for more help Choices Choices I have: I have: Frustration is not understanding Frustration is not being able to go Scream Scream until until I get I my get way. my way. the math lesson that you teacher to the movies with your best friend 3. is explaining. because you have to babysit your 4. 3. 3. Frustration: Lack of knowledge. little sister. 4. 4. Feeling: Frustration: Not being able to go. The Behavior I Chose: Choices I have: Feeling: The Behavior The Behavior I Chose: I Chose: Ask the teacher for more help Choices I have: Scream until I get my way. 3. 4. 3. 4. The Behavior I Chose: The Behavior I Chose: www.healthyteenrelationships.org 68
YOU CALL IT! Unwanted Touch Getting Even Bringing Up the Past Pushing, hitting, touching, etc. Not Listening Blaming Bossing Threats Put-Downs Name-Calling Making Excuses for your Behavior Everyone likes to be treated with respect. Yet when we are frustrated and angry, we sometimes forget to fight fair. Study the above FOULS. How do they make you feel? A referee makes sure that everyone follows the rules and is treated fairly. When you are having a conflict you are the referee. It is your responsibility to make sure that you follow the rules for fighting fair. PUTTING IT TOGETHER Be a referee! Read the following scenes. Underline words and actions, which show FIGHTING FAIR. Circle words and actions, which show FOULS. CHARACTERS: Matt and Jason, teammates. Jason and Matt are playing baseball. Jason keeps missing the ball. Matt: What s the matter with you? Why can t you hit the ball? Jason: Shut up, stupid. You re not so perfect yourself. Matt: (pushes Jason) Who are you calling Stupid? Jason: Matt: I m telling. (rubs his arm) You tell and you are dead after school! CHARACTERS: Lisa and Bobby, schoolmates. Bobby is always putting his arm around Lisa in class and calling her pet names. Bobby: Lisa: Bobby: Bobby: Lisa: Bobby: (putting his arm around Lisa) Hey honey! (shying away from Bobby) Hello Bobby. What are you doing after school Babe? (Lisa removes Bobby s arm) Hey what s your problem? You are always flirting with me! Bobby I like you but it makes me uncomfortable when you call me anything other than Lisa, and I feel embarrassed when you touch me. I am sorry Lisa. I like you too. Want to hang out after school? www.healthyteenrelationships.org 79
How Are You Changing? Directions: List all the ways you have seen yourself change over the past 2 years. Then have your parent list do the how same, they and have compare seen you lists. change. STUDENT Emotional You Physical Social STUDENT STUDENT SOCIAL PHYSICAL EMOTIONAL PARENT PARENT PARENT Parents: Did this homework assignment give you an opportunity to have a discussion with your child that you may not have had otherwise? o Yes o No Did this homework assignment and/or workbook review give you a positive/less uncomfortable way to approach sensitive topics with your child? o Yes o No Parent Comments: Parent Signature www.healthyteenrelationships.org 10 10