The Leadership Choice: How to Lead From Any Position Lisa Negstad Negstad Consulting LLC www.negstadconsulting.com lisa@negstadconsulting.com 612 618-3511 2016 North Central Leadership Conference http://register.extension.iastate.edu/2016nclc.org
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Leadership is a choice, not a position. Stephen R. Covey
Rather than define leadership either as a position of authority... or as a personal set of characteristics, we may find it a great deal more useful to define leadership as an activity Ronald A. Heifetz
Lead er ship Taking responsibility for achieving a purpose or fulfilling a vision for oneself or a group with a collective interest
Lead er ship taking responsibility response-able
Think of a time when you successfully took leadership without having a formal leadership role. What was one quality you saw in yourself?
The Empowerment Paradox
Why is this important?
1.
being 2.
being doing
being know yourself
being : know yourself What does it feel like when you are working at your best?
being : know yourself What does it feel like when you are not working at your best? Facing challenges in your life? Off your game?
being : know yourself Curious Strong Calm Flowing Happy Confident Authentic Passionate Open Doubt Best Self Fear Blame Suffering Struggle Energized busyness Appreciative Unknown Courageous Tolerations shoulds Present Disappointment Clear Victim Thinking Knowledgeable Comparisons Complacency Sacrifice Flexible Problems Conflict Worry / Anxiety martyr thinking Defensiveness Overwhelm Challenges Best Self Map Karen Tax and Associates
being : know yourself Emotions Thoughts Behavior Impact
being : know yourself We often judge others by their behaviors and ourselves by our intentions.
being : know yourself Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse by John Gottman Criticism (finding fault/judging) Contempt (disdain/scorn) Defensiveness (seeing yourself as victim) Stonewalling (silence/withdrawing)
being : know yourself Emotional Intelligence Step 1: Self-Awareness Step 2: Self-Management Step 3: Social Awareness Step 4: Relationship Building
being : know yourself In observing leaders for 40 years, I have never seen one fail for lack of IQ. But I have seen hundreds fail who lacked emotional intelligence. Bill George
being : know yourself Know your levers What is your calling or vocation? What gives you energy? What drains your energy? What are you passionate about? What are you biggest fears?
being build relationships
being : build relationships Golden Rule
being : build relationships Platinum Rule
being 2.
being doing invite feedback
being doing : invite feedback Not Criticism Feedback
being doing : invite feedback Start with small steps Ask a trusted advisor or mentor
being doing : invite feedback Start with small steps Ask a trusted advisor or mentor Pick 2 or 3 people (with whom you work closely) and ask two questions
being doing : invite feedback Sample Questions 1. What is one of the ways I add value and make a contribution to the goals/work goals? 2. What is one thing I am doing that gets in the way of the team achieving it s goals?
being doing : invite feedback Sample Questions 3. What is something you have appreciated about my work? 4. What is something I have done in my work that you would have done differently?
being doing welcome failure
being doing : welcome failure It is much easier to scale back a big, bold idea than it is to scale up a small, moderate idea.
being doing : welcome failure Learning = Action & Reflection
being doing : welcome failure The #1 reason for lack of innovation in any organization is the fear of getting laughed at. Brene Brown
being doing : welcome failure Vulnerability is a positive resource in leadership
being doing : welcome failure Vulnerability Weakness
being doing : welcome failure Vulnerability is a willingness... to move toward uncertainty to be open to risk to be transparent to value differences & diverse perspectives
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