The Necessity of Self-Esteem and Confidence 1
Content 1. Self Esteem: What is it? 2. Self Esteem: What s it made of? 3. The Effects of High Self Esteem 4. The Effects of Low Self Esteem 5. 12 Steps to High Self Esteem 6. Review 7. A Final Thought 8. What is Self Confidence? 9. Degrees of Self Confidence 10. Optimal Self Confidence 11. Diffidence 12. Overconfidence 13. Benefits of Self Confidence 14. Building Self Confidence 15. Self-Expectations and Performance 16. Self-Fulfilling Prophecy 17. Self Fulfilling Process 18. Sources of Sport Self Confidence 19. Assessing Self Confidence 2
Self-Esteem What is it? Self-esteem refers to the way we see and think about ourselves. Self-Esteem What s it made of? Your self-esteem is made up of all the experiences and interpersonal relationships you ve had in your life. Everyone you ve ever met has added to or taken away from how you see yourself! The Effects of High Self- Esteem People with high self-esteem possess the following characteristics: They like to meet new people. They don t worry about how others will judge them. They have the courage to express themselves. Their lives are enriched with each new encounter. They are nice to be around. Their ideas are met with interest because others want to hear what they have to say. They are magnets to positive opportunities! 3
The Effects of Low Self-Esteem People with low self-esteem possess the following characteristics: They don t believe in themselves. They see themselves failing before they begin. They have a hard time forgiving their mistakes and make themselves punish themselves forever. They believe they can never be as good as they should be or as others. They are dissatisfied with their lives. They spend most of their time alone. They complain and criticize. They worry about everything and do nothing. 4
12 Steps to High Self-Esteem Step 1 Forgive yourself for past mistakes. Step 2 Focus on your positive attributes. Step 3 Follow the example of successful people. Step 4 Become a self-talker. Step 5 Exhibit a good attitude. Step 6 Get plenty of rest. Step 7 Make your work skills your own Step 8 Practice your talents Step 9 Become physically fit. Step 10 Learn new things. Step 11 Improve your personal relationships. Step 12 Dress well! 5
Let s Review Self-esteem comes from every experience of your life. How you view yourself affects everything you do in life. High self-esteem gives you a GOOD feeling about yourself. Low self-esteem distorts your view of yourself. Self-esteem can be improved! Final Thought You are a unique individual. No one else is like you in the whole world. This makes you special already! Our time in this world is limited. Make it happen for you so you leave your mark in history! 6
Review Questions: Check Your Understanding 1. What is a characteristic of low self-esteem? a. They believe in themselves. b. They are winners. c. They complain and criticize. d. They get plenty of rest. 2. What is a characteristic of high self-esteem? a. They have the courage to express themselves. b. They are difficult to be around. c. They don t like to socialize. d. They worry about meeting new people. 7
PSYCHOLOGY: SELF CONFIDENCE What is Self Confidence? The most consistent factor separating highly successful athletes from the less successful is confidence. Successful athletes know the key to success is believing in themselves. They radiate self confidence in their play. Coaches know that athletes need self-confidence to win. They also know that athletes need to win to develop self-confidence. The puzzle is how to get the winning/increased self-confidence/winning spiral, which breeds success and to get off the losing/ increased diffidence/losing spiral which yields failure. Many people believe self-confidence is believing they will succeed. They are told that if they do not feel positive about succeeding, they are thinking like losers. It is this mistaken belief about what self-confidence is that often leads to lack of self-confidence. True self-confidence is an athlete s realistic expectations about achieving success. It is not involved with what athletes hope to do but with what they realistically expect to do. It is the belief that you can successfully perform a desired behaviour. Self-confidence is to expect success 8
Confident people believe in: o Themselves. o Their ability to acquire skills and competencies both physical and mental. o Their ability to reach their potential. Less confident people doubt: o Whether they are good enough, o Or if they have what it takes to be successful. Degrees of Self Confidence People experience degrees of self-confidence as follows: a. Too little confidence (diffidence). b. Optimum confidence (self - confidence). c. Too much confidence or false confidence (overconfidence). Therefore, self-confidence represents a continuum from diffidence to overconfidence with optimum (self - confidence) somewhere in between. As self-confidence increases up to some level performance improves. But when it increases beyond the optimal level, performance begins to deteriorate. It deteriorates because overconfidence deludes people into believing they are so gifted that they need not prepare diligently. 9
Optimal Self Confidence Optimal self confidence is a sign that convinces you that you can achieve your goals. However physical skills and knowledge of the sport help you realise your desired behaviour. Self-confidence and competence must be developed together, each nurturing the other. Possessing self confidence in the absence of competence will lead to false confidence. Diffidence Diffident people are afraid of failure and become psychological prisoners of their own negative self- images. They see themselves as losers and become losers. The self doubts of diffident people affects their performance by creating anxiety, loss of concentration and uncertainty of purpose. Diffident people become self-fulfilling prophecies and consequently fall from the ladder of success. 10
Overconfidence Overconfident athletes are falsely confident. Their confidence is greater than their competencies warrant. Two types of overconfident athletes include; 1. Those who believe they are better than they really are. 2. Those who behave confidently on the outside yet underneath are actually diffident and worried about failing. Overconfident athletes avoid situations that threaten their self- confidence. Or find behaviours to protect their fragile egos such as faking injury when they perform poorly. The false confident: Find it difficult to admit their errors Are abounding with excuses. Are often difficult to coach because they will not accept responsibility for their mistakes. Benefits of Self Confidence Positive emotions- being calm, assertive and relaxed under pressure. Concentration the capacity to focus on relevant cues. Goals setting and fulfilling challenging goals. Effort- persists in pursuit of achieving the desired result. Game strategies playing to win not playing to loose Momentum- displaying a never give up attitude. 11
Building Self Confidence Confidence can be improved through the following: Performance accomplishments- good practices that are well prepared develop confidence. Acting confidently- The more you act confidently the more you become confident ( fake it till you make it ). Thinking confidently A positive attitude is critical to reaching your optimal potential. Imagery imagining doing the thing that you have had difficult in doing. Physical conditioning Good attributes constitute a key to feeling confident (speed, strength, endurance & flexibility). Preparation being prepared gives you confidence that you have done everything possible to ensure success. Self Expectations and Performance Positive expectations for success produce positive effects. Expecting to beat a tough opponent or perform a difficult task can produce exceptional performance. Self- Fulfilling Prophecy (SFP) Occurs when managers expectations prompt workers to behave or perform in a way that conforms to those expectations. 12
Self Fulfilling Process Can be described as a series of four key steps: 1. Bosses develop expectations for how employee should perform. 2. Boss s expectations influence their treatment of individual performers (i.e. frequency, duration, and quality of interactions). 3. Bosses behaviour affects employee s rate of learning and level of performance. 4. The cycle is completed if the employee s behaviour or performance conforms to the boss s expectations. Sources of Sport Self Confidence There are nine sources of confidence specific to sport: 1. Mastery developing and improving skills. 2. Demonstration of ability showing ability by winning and out performing opponents. 3. Physical and mental preparation staying focused on goals and prepared to give maximum effort. 4. Physical self-presentation athlete feeling good about own body and weight. 5. Social support getting encouragement from team- mates, coaches and family. 6. Coaches leadership trusting the coaches decisions and believing in their abilities. 7. Vicarious experience seeing other athletes perform successfully. 8. Environmental comfort athlete feeling comfortable in the environment he/she is performing in. 9. Situational favourableness athlete seeing breaks going her/his way and feeling everything is going right. 13
Assessing Self Confidence It is important that people identify confidence in a variety of situations. People may do this by answering the following questions: When am I confident? How do I recover from mistakes? When do I have self-doubts? Is my confidence consistent throughout the event? Am I tentative and indecisive in certain situations? Do I look forward to and enjoy tough, highly competitive challenges? How do I react to adversity? 14
Review Questions: Check Your Understanding 3. How many degrees of self-confidence are there? a. 1. b. 2. c. 3. d. 4. 4. What are diffident people? a. Highly confident people. b. People who see themselves are winners. c. People with no doubt. d. People who see themselves as losers. 15
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