This lesson contains information that can sometimes make both teachers and students feel embarrassed or uncomfortable. In order to diminish these feelings, some educators find it helpful to provide students with a brief word of warning prior to the lesson. You might consider making an announcement at the beginning of the class to remind students of a few key points. First, that while talking about sexuality in a frank way may feel awkward, it is important to do so. People need accurate information in order to protect themselves from unplanned pregnancy and from contracting sexually transmitted infections. The consequences of not talking about the risks associated with sexual behaviour can lead teens to make poor decisions simply because they did not receive the necessary information to make smarter, healthier choices. Second, that sexual health is part of the provincial curriculum. The Ontario Ministry s curriculum guidelines suggest that grade nine students receive information regarding the methods of preventing pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases. It also requires giving students opportunities to practice decision-making and assertiveness skills to promote healthy sexuality. Third, it is probably worth reminding the group of your classroom rules regarding respect. Often telling your students that you expect them to conduct themselves in a mature and respectful way can go a long way in securing such behaviour. As the scenarios depict sexual activity between both heterosexual and same-sex couples, it is also wise to consider the maturity of your class, the perspectives held by your school s administration and local community standards. Consider choosing student groups carefully for this lesson. Most grade nine classrooms have students 133
who are mature enough to handle this content. Remember that approximately ten percent of the students in your classes are not heterosexual. Gay, lesbian and bisexual students, among others, need to see themselves in the curriculum. These teens, like all students, deserve a secure environment in which to learn about safer sexuality. As students present their solutions to the class, use these ideas to guide your discussion. Supplement their work with these suggestions and/or with your own ideas. Scenario #1: Cheyenne and Ravi Cheyenne and Ravi are both fifteen years old and have never had any previous sexual contact. They have been exclusively dating one another for just over four months. They feel very much in love and have started to express their romantic and sexual feelings for each other by kissing and touching. One night while they are fooling around, Ravi gets an erection as he s lying beside Cheyenne. He feels embarrassed and apologizes. Cheyenne says that it is o.k. She tells Ravi she s ready to have sex, if he wants. They have vaginal intercourse that night without using any protection. The next day, Ravi starts to panic that Cheyenne could have become pregnant. He s heard that women cannot get pregnant the first time, but he still feels very nervous about it. He decides to ask Cheyenne to go to a healthy sexuality clinic with him so they can find out. She agrees and makes an appointment for the following day. Answers to Scenario #1: Cheyenne and Ravi 1. Yes, they had unprotected vaginal intercourse. If Cheyenne makes it to the clinic within seventy-two hours, the ECP is an option. (The ECP is most effective if taken within the first twelve hours, but it can still decrease the number of pregnancies if taken up to seventy-two hours after unprotected intercourse.) If she does not want to take the ECP, Cheyenne would have to wait to see if she gets her period because it is too soon to perform an accurate pregnancy test. If she misses her period, or if it s shorter or lighter than usual, she could come back to the clinic for a pregnancy test. At this time, pregnancy options would be discussed. 134
2. No, because neither partner has any previous sexual experience. 3. Readiness for intercourse: Was Ravi ready for sex? Is he ready for sex if he s embarrassed about getting an erection? Did Ravi just have sex because Cheyenne said she was ready? Is Cheyenne ready for sex? Will they continue having intercourse? Was the experience sexually satisfying for both partners? If they decide not to have sexual intercourse, they should discuss limit setting for the future. If they decide to continue having vaginal intercourse, how would they protect themselves from pregnancy? 4. Abstinence Finding alternatives to vaginal sex Birth control options including condoms 135
Scenario # 2: Mario and Al Mario is fifteen years old. He has never had a sexual experience with either a guy or a girl - not even a kiss. However, whenever he imagined being with someone, it was always a guy. Al is seventeen and in his last year of high school. Mario has heard rumours that Al is gay. Mario has been wondering if he might be gay too. One evening, he helps load the team s equipment into Al s car after playing in a basketball tournament at their school. Al offers to drive Mario home. Mario feels a bit nervous but says, yes. When they pull up in front of Mario s house, Mario gets the feeling that Al is interested in him. Al tells Mario that he s been thinking about him, leans over and gives Mario a kiss. Since that night, they have gone out together a few times. They normally go to a secluded parking lot. Until yesterday, they have just been kissing. Last night, while they were fooling around, Mario ejaculated after Al rubbed him with his hand. It felt great. This morning, Mario begins to worry. He has learned that Al had two previous sexual partners. He wonders if there is any chance he could get AIDS or other diseases from what he and Al did. Mario also wonders if what they did means that he is gay. He makes an appointment with his family doctor to discuss these issues. Answers to Scenario # 2: Mario and Al 1. No. 2. No. There is no risk of sexually transmitted infection being passed between these two partners. Al: Since Mario has never had sexual contact, he does not pose a risk to Al. Mario: Al might already have a sexually transmitted infection from his previous experiences, but he could not have infected Mario because they did not exchange body fluids (i.e. Al s semen did not enter Mario s body). Mario could not have contracted herpes or HPV through hand to genital contact. 3. Questions about sexuality: Since Mario is still questioning his sexuality, he may want to explore it further. He could call an anonymous help line, read information on websites or make an appointment to see a counsellor who works with LGBTTQ youth. Stress to your students that it is common for teens to feel 136
confused. Some teens question their sexual orientation until they have sexual experiences. Others grow into adulthood before they realise or acknowledge their sexual orientation. It can be difficult for a young person to admit to him/herself that s/he could be gay/lesbian, etc. (Please see the Teacher Guide regarding Sexual Orientation for further information.) Factual Information about HIV/AIDS: Mario needs further information about HIV/AIDS and other sexually transmitted infections because he believes stereotypes that suggest only gay men contract HIV and that most gay men are infected. Gay men, like all people, vary in their behaviour: Some practice safer sex, some do not. Some use protection every time they engage in sexual activity, some do not. Readiness for sexual activity: Are they ready for sexual activity? Is Mario feeling pressured? Where is the relationship going? Will they continue being sexually active together? Will their sexual activity progress to other forms of sex? Was the experience sexually satisfying for both partners? If they decide not to engage in any sexual activity, they should discuss limit setting for the future. If they decide to continue their current sexual activity (kissing and hand-togenital touching/stimulation), they do not need to worry about contracting sexually transmitted infections. If they decide to have oral or anal sex, Al needs to be tested for sexually transmitted infections and they need to use protection. 4. Abstinence Continue kissing and hand-to-genital touching/stimulation Oral and/or anal sex with barriers (condoms) 137
Scenario # 3: Angela and Sal Angela and Sal are both eighteen years old. They have been dating for the past nine months and having vaginal intercourse for six months. For the first few months, Angela and Sal used condoms, but they stopped using them when she went on the birth control pill. They are in a committed relationship and agree not to have sex with anyone else. Before they met, Angela had sex with one person, but used a condom. Sal had unprotected sex with two different partners. Sal found a bunch of pornographic movies under his dad s bed. He s been watching them secretly for the last two weeks. Sal has seen images of anal sex and he is interested in trying it with Angela. When he asked Angela how she felt about trying it, she said she wasn t interested. Several weeks later at a friend s party, Angela and Sal are making out in a locked bedroom after they both had a number of drinks. Sal asks Angela again if they could try anal sex. This time, Angela agrees and they try it. Sal finds it really arousing and ejaculates soon after penetration. Two weeks later, Angela experiences some vaginal discharge and pain when she urinates. She is really upset and wants to find out what s going on. She makes an appointment to see a doctor in a walk-in clinic. Answers to Scenario # 3: Angela and Sal 1. No, a woman cannot get pregnant by having anal sex. 2. Yes. There is a risk of sexually transmitted infection being passed between these two partners. Angela: It is unlikely that Angela could have contracted a STI from her previous partner because the couple always used condoms during intercourse. It is possible that she could have been exposed to herpes or genital warts from skinto-skin contact with this person. (Exposure could have occurred on body parts not covered by the condom such as the thigh, scrotum or vulva, etc.) Since Angela and Sal have had unprotected vaginal and anal sex, she could have been exposed to any of the sexually transmitted infections on the chart. However, her symptoms indicate she may have contracted gonorrhea, chlamydia and/or trichomonas. (Mention to your students that a person can contract more than one STI from any sexual partner.) 138
Sal: Sal could have been exposed to any of the sexually transmitted infections listed on the chart through unprotected sex with his previous partners. It is unlikely that Angela would have infected him. Even if Angela receives a negative result on her STI tests, she needs to tell Sal to get tested before they continue to engage in sexual activity. 3. Questions about sexuality: How did alcohol play a role in Angela s decision-making? Would Angela have consented to anal sex had she not been drinking? What role did pornography play in this incident? *** Remind students that pornography is a business, made to make money, using actors who are selected for certain physical features that don t represent average bodies. The time people last, amount and distance of ejaculation, pleasure expressed for certain activities etc. are all part of the acting and camera work. They don t reflect the reality of most people s sex lives. You could talk about a popular movie - does it reflect the lives of most people?) *** Factual Information: Angela and Sal may need further information about the transmission of STIs. Being on the pill does not provide any protection against sexually transmitted infections and anal sex is a high-risk activity for transmission. How did Angela feel about the experience after it happened? How sexually fulfilling was this experience for Angela? Will Angela and Sal continue having anal sex? If they decide not to engage in anal sex, they should discuss limit-setting for the future. If they decide to continue their current sexual activity (anal sex), they both must be tested for sexually transmitted infections and use condoms every time they have sex. 4. Abstinence Finding alternatives to vaginal and anal sex After testing, continue having vaginal sex using the birth control pill AND condoms 139
Scenario # 4: Anda and Geeta Anda is fifteen years old. She has never had any sexual contact. She s pretty much always known that she s a lesbian, but hasn t revealed this to her friends or family as of yet. In the guidance counsellor s office, she saw a poster for a LGBTTQQ support group for teens. She decides to go to a meeting so she can meet new people in an environment where she can be herself. At the meeting, she met Geeta who is sixteen years old. Over the past year, Geeta admitted to herself that she is a lesbian. She struggled for years with her feelings and now acknowledges that she is attracted to women. In the past, Geeta dated a few guys and had unprotected vaginal sex with one of them. Anda and Geeta have been dating for five months. They enjoy hugging, kissing and touching. Two months ago, they tried oral sex and both of them enjoy it. They did not use any protection. Last week, Anda started to feel some tingling and pain in her genital area. Anda makes an appointment at a local clinic because she is worried that there could be something wrong. Answers to Scenario #4: Anda and Geeta 1. No. 2. Anda: Since Anda had no previous sexual contact, she would not have an STI. During this experience, Anda could have been exposed to a number of STI s through oral sex including: Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, hepatitis B, HIV, Syphilis and Genital Herpes (oral herpes HSV-Type 2) or Genital Warts (HPV-Human Papilloma Virus). Contracting either genital herpes or HPV through oral sex is very rare. Geeta: Geeta could already have a STI from her previous sexual experience with her ex-boyfriend. If Anda has cold sores (oral herpes HSV-Type 1), then Geeta could be at risk for this STI. Anda and Geeta need to be tested for STI s. 3. If Anda contracted oral herpes HSV-Type 1, how does she feel about continuing to have oral sex with Geeta? Will they continue having oral sex? If they decide not to have oral sex, they should discuss limit-setting for the future. If they decide to continue having oral sex, how can they protect themselves from STIs? 140
4. Abstinence Finding alternatives to oral sex Continuing oral sex using barriers such as dental dams Scenario # 5: Samir and Crystal Samir is fifteen years old. Last year, he dated a young woman named Crystal. They had vaginal sexual intercourse only once, but the experience was really embarrassing because he had an orgasm very quickly. After that relationship ended, he started to date Govindi. Govindi is fourteen years old. She has never had a boyfriend and has no sexual experience. Govindi has clearly told Samir that she will not have sexual intercourse before she is married because her religious beliefs dictate that she remain a virgin until then. Samir is respectful of her wishes. Govindi and Samir have been enjoying kissing and touching one another for about six months. One night while they are alone at his house, Samir asks Govindi if she would be comfortable performing oral sex on him. She tells Samir that she will have to think about it. While the kissing and touching have excited her, Govindi is not sure about oral sex. The idea doesn t really turn her on, but she thinks that by giving Samir oral sex, he can have an orgasm and be sexually satisfied, while she can keep her virginity intact. When Govindi tells Samir that she is willing to perform oral sex, he is relieved. He is not feeling ready to have sexual intercourse because he feels his last attempt was a disaster. Over the last month, Govindi has performed oral sex on Samir three times. One afternoon, while reading a teen magazine she comes across an article that discusses the risks of getting a sexually transmitted infection through oral sex. She had no idea this was possible. Govindi is worried that she could have caught something from her boyfriend. Since she shares her family doctor with her parents and brother, Govindi feels that she cannot talk to her about it. Instead, she calls the clinic on the far side of town and makes an appointment. 141
Answers to Scenario # 5: Samir and Crystal 1. No, Govindi and Samir engaged in oral sex. Women cannot get pregnant through oral sex. 2. Samir: Samir could already have a STI from his experiences with Crystal. If Govindi has a history of cold sores (oral herpes HSV-Type 1), then Samir could be at risk for this STI. Govindi: Govindi could have been exposed to a number of STI s through oral sex including: Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, hepatitis B, HIV, Syphilis and Genital Herpes (oral herpes HSV-Type 2) or Genital Warts (HPV-Human Papilloma Virus). Contracting either genital herpes or HPV through oral sex is very rare. Samir and Govindi need to be tested for STI s. 3. Readiness for sexual activity: Are Samir and Govindi ready for sexual activity? Is Govindi feeling pressured? Govindi believes that performing oral sex on Samir means that he can be sexually satisfied, while she can keep her virginity intact. Are these good reasons for engaging in oral sex? If not, what does Govindi need to do? Will they continue having oral sex together? Will their sexual activity progress to other forms of sex? Was the experience sexually satisfying for Govindi? Would she enjoy having Samir perform oral sex on her? If they decide not to have oral sex, they should discuss limit-setting for the future. If they decide to continue having oral sex, how would they protect themselves from STIs? 4. Abstinence Finding alternatives to oral sex Continuing oral sex using barriers such as condoms and dental dams 142
Scenario # 6: Melissa and Cody Melissa and Cody are both sixteen years old. They have been dating for over a year now and have been having sexual intercourse for about five months. They use a condom every time. Cody had no sexual experience before he started dating Melissa. Melissa had sexual intercourse with her ex-boyfriend but always used a condom. Until now, the two have been using condoms without any problems. While away on a camping trip, they have sex. When Cody withdraws his penis after intercourse with Melissa and finds that the condom has slipped off. He helps her remove it from inside her vagina. They are both nervous because they know there could be a risk of pregnancy. When they return from their camping trip two days later, they go to a walkin clinic near the high school to ask for help. Answers to Scenario # 6: Melissa and Cody 1. Yes, there is a possibility of pregnancy because the condom slipped off. If Melissa makes it to the clinic within seventy-two hours, the Emergency Contraceptive Pill (ECP) is an option. (The ECP is most effective if taken within the first 12 hours, but it can still decrease the number of pregnancies if taken up to 72 hours after unprotected intercourse.) If she does not want to take the ECP, Melissa would have to wait to see if she gets her period because it is too soon to perform an accurate pregnancy test. If she misses her period, or if it s shorter or lighter than usual, Melissa could come back to the clinic for a pregnancy test. At this time, pregnancy options would be discussed. 143
2. Yes. There is a slight risk of sexually transmitted infection being passed between these two partners. Melissa: Since Cody has never had sexual contact, he does not pose a risk to Melissa. Cody: It is unlikely that Melissa could have contracted a STI from her previous partner because the couple always used condoms during intercourse. It is possible that she could have been exposed to herpes or genital warts from skinto-skin contact with this person. (Exposure could have occurred on body parts not covered by the condom such as the thigh, scrotum or vulva, etc.) 3. If they decide to continue having vaginal intercourse, what kind of birth control method could they use in addition to condoms? 4. Abstinence Birth control options including condoms 144