Healthy Self Lesson 1 Self Esteem
Starter Self Esteem Quiz FALSE 1. A person has high self-esteem if they are always concerned about what other people think of them. TRUE 2. Self-esteem means being proud of who and what you are. TRUE 3. A person that cares about being healthy and living a long life has high self-esteem. TRUE 4. Self-esteem means doing things that make other people happy no matter how it makes you feel. FALSE 5. A person with high self-esteem can not think of any good qualities or traits that they have.
Starter Self Esteem Quiz TRUE TRUE TRUE TRUE TRUE 6. A person with low self-esteem has a difficult time being happy for others when they succeed. 7. A person with low self-esteem will take risks without fear of the consequences. 8. A person with high self-esteem can accept and learn from helpful criticism from others. 9. A person with low self-esteem feels good after making fun of others. 10. A person with low self-esteem often puts themselves down.
Starter Self Esteem Quiz TRUE 11. A person with high self-esteem has no trouble voicing their opinion around others FALSE 12. A person with low self-esteem enjoys new experiences. FALSE 13. A person with low self-esteem is stupid. FALSE 14. High self-esteem means being conceited or having a "big head". TRUE 15. Self-esteem means feeling good about yourself.
What Makes You - YOU The early teen years are a time to learn more about how you are. You discover: Your new physical and mental abilities The kinds of people you like to be with Activities you enjoy What is really important to you
What Makes You - YOU Your personality is the unique combination of feelings, thoughts, and behaviors that makes you different from everyone else.
What Makes You - YOU Your personality helps determine how you react: To problems New situations Emotions For example How would you react to losing your starting spot on the basketball team? How would you react moving to a new school? How would you react falling up the stairs and everyone seeing this happen?
Assignment 1: Group Activity On assignment 1 write down: Three true things about yourself On thing that is not true Example: Coach Reimann I have a passport, but haven t used it I play the bagpipes I ve always had short hair All of my siblings names start with the same letter Each person will read their truths and lies to the group in any order The rest of the group is going to try and decide what are the truths and which statement is the lie
Group Activity Wrap Up What did you learn about different people in your group? Were you able to see their different personalities?
Self-Concept Your self concept is the view you have of yourself. People who have a positive self-concept usually focus on their strong qualities.
Self-Concept Some teens and adults tend to focus on their weaknesses rather than on their strengths. People who focus more on their weaknesses can develop a negative self-concept.
The Stonecutter Story A stonecutter was chipping away at the face of a mountain. Clink, clink, clink The sun was hot, and the stonecutter was tired. The life of a stonecutter is hard and miserable, he said. How I wish I as a great and powerful emperor!
The Stonecutter Story No sooner said than done, the stonecutter found himself transformed into an emperor. He was dressed from head to toe in silks and brocades, riding a carriage of pure gold. But wait. He was hot inside all those clothes. The sun was beating down on him.
The Stonecutter Story So, said the stonecutter, the life of an emperor is not much better than the life of a stonecutter. I wish. I wish. I wish to be more powerful I wish to be the SUN!
The Stonecutter Story In a flash, his wish was granted. He was the great sun in the heavens, the most powerful of all. But wait. Something was covering him up. Something was more powerful even than the sun. It was a cloud.
The Stonecutter Story I wish. I wish. I wish to be more powerful I wish to be a cloud! In an instant, his wish was granted. He was a great billowing cloud in the sky, most powerful of all!
The Stonecutter Story But wait. Something was making him move. Something was pushing him across the sky. Something was even more powerful than the cloud. It was the wind!
The Stonecutter Story I wish. I wish. I wish to be more powerful I wish to be the WIND! And he became the wind. Joyfully he raced across the sky, swooped down to the earth to bend the trees, and stir up the waves in the ocean.
The Stonecutter Story But wait. Wham! Something made him stop. He couldn t move. Something was even more powerful than the wind. It was a mountain.
The Stonecutter Story I wish. I wish. I wish to be more powerful I wish to be the MOUNTAIN! And he became the mountain-tall, old, and mighty. nothing is more powerful than I, he thought.
The Stonecutter Story But wait. What was that noise? Is was a hammer of a stonecutter, chipping away at the mountain. The stonecutter was even more powerful than the mountain.
The Stonecutter Story I wish. I wish. I wish to be more powerful I wish to be the STONECUTTER!
Self-Concept Sometimes our selfconcept is changed by what we see others doing. Remember.
Self-Concept Do what you can with what you have where you are. (Theodore Roosevelt) Too many people overvalue what they are NOT and undervalue what they ARE. (Malcom S. Forbes)
Make a list of ten positive words/ statements that best describe you. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. Assignment 2
Assignment 2 Continued Evaluate: Go back to your list and decide what part of health your response focused on. Tall = physical Responsible = Mental Strong willed = Emotional Loyal = Social
Assignment 2 Continued Are you focusing too much on one part of health? Remember that there needs to be a balance throughout all 4 parts of health.
Self-Esteem Your self-esteem is the way you feel about yourself, or how you value yourself. It is closely related to your self-concept. The difference is: Self-Concept = how you see yourself Self-Esteem = how you feel about yourself
Take the following questionnaire to determine your overall self-esteem Check all the statements that apply to you. Be honest with yourself again this is only for you. Assignment 3
Assignment 3 Questionnaire 1. I generally feel anxious in new social situations where I may not know what is expected of me. 2. I find it difficult to hear criticism about myself 3. I fear being made to look like a fool. 4. I tend to magnify my mistakes and minimize my successes 5. I am very critical of myself and others 6. I have periods in which I feel divested and/or depressed 7. When someone mistreats me I think that I must have done something to deserve it 8. I have difficulty knowing who to trust and when to trust. 9. I often feel like I don t know the right things to do or say. 10. I am very concerned about my appearance
Assignment 11.I am easily embarrassed 12.I often get defensive and strike back when I perceive I am being criticized 13.I tend to let fear and anxiety control many of my decisions 14.I tend to think negatively much of the time. 15.I often procrastinate and leave things to the last minute 16.I try to avoid conflict and confrontation 17.I often compare myself to others 18.I frequently think negative thoughts about myself and others 19.I often refrain from sharing my opinions, my ideas, and my feelings in groups 20.I sometimes lie when I feel that the truth would result in criticism or rejection
Assignment 21. I often feel that others mistreat me and or take advantage of me 22. I fear making a mistake which other might see 23. I am fearful that I will say or do something that will make me look stupid or incompetent 24. I do not set goals for the future 25. I have been told I m too sensitive 26. I am easily discouraged 27. I am not very aware of my feelings 28. I think that life is harder for me than for most other people 29. I tend to be a perfectionist, needing to look perfect and to do things perfectly 30. I feel too embarrassed to eat out alone or to attend movies and other activities by myself
Assignment - Results Points Self Esteem Effects on overall Health 0-7 Above Average Makes healthy choices Rarely feels depressed or down Well-liked by peers Achieves goals 8-15 Average Have areas that need work but overall feels good about self the majority of the time Needs to work on sitting and achieving new goals Needs to focus on positive attributes and not weaknesses 16-23 Below Average Choices might lead to health concerns Feels depressed and down much of the time Might feel uncomfortable or inadequate with peers Grades and performances decline 24-30 Severely Below Average Should seek help from parents, teachers, and close friends to help build confidence and point out positive attributes Must start to find the positives in life and self
Positive Self-Esteem Click on the picture to watch this video of Susan Boyle Notice her self-concept and self-esteem
Positive Self-Esteem Helps You: Believe that you are an OK person and that other people like you. Feel relaxed inside. Feel confident that you will be able to achieve things in life that you want. Feel that it is worth trying to do things well. Believe you have the ability to achieve what you want.
Positive Self-Esteem Helps You: Feel proud, satisfied and happy when you achieve the things you set out to do. Know you can make things happen in your life. Be able to think of creative ways to get around things that get in your way Notice and enjoy your successes.
Star Belly Sneetches Click on the link picture to the right to start the video about the Star Belly Sneetches Think about: Why didn t they have self esteem How did they change their self esteem
Improving Your Self-Esteem Stop comparing yourself to others Try something new Smile Do the RIGHT THING every time. Replace perfectionism
Improving Your Self-Esteem Be your own BFF Find something special in each day Be kinder to others Focus on personal accomplishments Get support you need to succeed
1. Your is the unique combination of feelings, thoughts, and behaviors that makes you different from everyone else. 2. Your self-concept is how you feel about yourself. True / False 3. List three ways that you can improve your selfesteem. a) b) c) Quick Check
1. Your PERSONALITY is the unique combination of feelings, thoughts, and behaviors that makes you different from everyone else. 2. Your self-concept is how you feel about yourself. FALSE 3. List three ways that you can improve your self-esteem. a) b) c) Quick Check