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Tapping Into Your True Values By Steve Wells http://www.eftworldsummit.com/steve_wells We are driven by our values. Are your values taking you in the right direction? Values are emotional states that can rule our lives. Two types of values: Seek value: A value that we really want to feel. Avoid value: A value that we will do almost anything to avoid. Discover your life values by asking yourself: What is most important to me in my life? When you review your list you may find there are a mixture of things and feelings. What we are ultimately looking for is the feelings you ultimately desire to acheive from all the things on your list. So if you wrote down things like family, money and a nice car, ask yourself what is underneath or behind that value, what is it that having that gives me? Example: What feelings does my family give me? For one person the answer may be love and security. If that is you, then your values are Love and Security. REMEMBER: This work is not logical, it s EMOTIONAL. Values work is essential to do BEFORE goal setting. There is no point in setting goals until you are clear on your values. You might achieve your goal but you won t feel fulfilled unless your goal is aligned with your values. www.eftworldsummit.com 125
Values Work Step 1. Elicit your values by asking yourself the following questions over and over again What is most important to me in life? or What feelings do I really want to feel? Example: Security Making a Difference Freedom Love Health Fun Achievement Growing Spirituality Power www.eftworldsummit.com 126
Remember your values are feelings and not things like family and a car. What is most important to me in my life? What feelings or emotional states do I really want to experience? www.eftworldsummit.com 127
Step 2. Put your values in order. The way to do this is not logically, but by comparing each value in turn to each of the other values and feeling which you are most attracted to emotionally; which has the strongest pull. Ask yourself: What is most important to me, feeling or feeling? Remember DO NOT use your logical mind, simply say what you feel! Using the list given previously as an example: What is most important to me security or making a difference? Security What is most important security or freedom? Freedom Now freedom becomes the top value. If it continues to be more important than the rest of the values you compare it to, then it is your number one value. Example of someone s value in order 1. Security 2. Love 3. Freedom 4. Power 5. Achievement 6. Making a difference 7. Fun 8. Spirituality 9. Health 10.Growing Your values hierarchy may be totally different than this list. www.eftworldsummit.com 128
Now go through your values list in order to determine your order, using this question to compare each value in turn: What is most important to me, feeling or? 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. www.eftworldsummit.com 129
Step 3. Find your avoid values Example: Humiliation Rejection Hate Guilt Anger Sadness Disappointment Bored Frustrated Betrayed What would you do almost anything to avoid feeling? www.eftworldsummit.com 130
Step 4. Putting your avoid values list in order: Follow the same process as step 2 but ask yourself: What would I do most to AVOID feeling, or? Example: 1. Humiliation 2. Rejection 3. Disappointment 4. Guilt 5. Hate 6. Frustrated 7. Betrayed 8. Sadness 9. Anger 10. Bored What would I do most to AVOID feeling, or? 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. www.eftworldsummit.com 131
Step 5. Notice Conflicts There are three types of conflicts: 1. Notice opposites or apparent opposites in your list. Having two opposing values in your list, like security and freedom, or safety and freedom. Achievement and Love, someone might feel they can t have a big career while still having a strong relationship with their family. This isn t necessarily true, but it s a conflicting belief. There may be other conflicts such as between, say, health and fun. 2. Notice if something on your avoid list is getting in the way of something on your seek list. If one of your top seek values is achievement and your top avoid value is rejection, this is a conflict. Someone who fears rejection may not achieve as much because of their fear of trying. 3. You can have a conflict within the values themselves. This is because some of the experiences where you learned that a seek value is important may have been negative experiences or experiences of lack. Those negative experiences may still be driving you and distorting the operation of that value in your life. You can discover these experiences by looking at where you learned that each of these values was important. Then you can apply tapping to release some of the negative emotional attachments, freeing you up to experience more of that positive value. Step 6. Take at least your top three values to discover where you learned the importance of each value. Consider where you learned that value was important and identify any negative emotional experiences to tap on. By tapping on the negative experience your true values will stay strong (and become even stronger) and values that aren t for your highest good will lose their emotional intensity. To treat your past negative experiences, use the Tell the story approach. Tell the story of what happened, or simply go over it in your mind, while you tap. Whenever you feel any emotional intensity stay on that part of the story until the intensity subsides. Continue tapping until you can tell the story or review what happened without any uncomfortable emotions www.eftworldsummit.com 132
REMEMBER: The key to tapping is not the words but the FEELINGS. Example: Where did I learn that SECURITY was important? When I saw my parents struggle with their finances. When I lost my job. When I discovered how great it felt to be close to paying my mortgage. Where did I learn that LOVE was important? When my mother loved me and would always tell me. When my dad left and I felt how horrible the lack of love felt. When I married my husband. Continue using the tell the story technique for each aspect that has negative intensity, and for each memory. When you release the limiting reasons why you find a value important, your values may shift naturally. A value that seemed important may no longer seem as important, because you are not so needy and have reduced some of the negative emotional attachment to it. You may also find that you can more easily experience the values that you really want, your true values, because the negative limiting factors that were once behind them have settled down. Go easy on yourself and remember that this may be some of the most important work you do because values are your strongest driving emotions. Persist with tapping where the emotions and past experiences are very strong, and consider working with someone else if you become stuck. Ultimately, as you treat each of your values using this process you will feel an increasing sense of power, and alignment with your purpose. Living in alignment with your highest values enables you to live your life and be happy in your own way. www.eftworldsummit.com 133
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