1 Palette of Grief Resilience Program Palette of Grief One-on One Resilient Leadership Program Become a leader in your industry with Barbara Rubel s one-on-one Palette of Grief Resilient Leadership Program. Barbara s premium package helps you find meaning in your challenging struggles and explores how your narrative shapes your identity as a resilient leader. If you are stressed out, burned out or simply want to build your resilience, this program is for you. The FABULOUS Principle : Creating a Resilient Leadership Presence Are you a leader that recognizes that sometimes it is a challenging struggle or loss that becomes Energized by Stress Finding Meaning Stress Resilience Through Meaningful Leadership your greatest teacher? The FABULOUS Principle allows you to take note of current stressors (i.e. life events or perceived work related pressures) in relation to past losses. This framework emphasizes an understanding that struggles can be a catalyst for positive change, post traumatic growth, meaning making, and resilience, transforming the way you think about current challenges. Self-awareness about past losses and present effectiveness as a leader go hand in hand. Past loss often drives women entrepreneurs, as an example, into their leadership roles.
2 Palette of Grief Resilience Program Characteristics of resilience described in the program use the acronym F-A-B-U-L-O-U-S. Beyond any leadership training program, The FABULOUS Principle helps you enhance your resilience through eight core competencies: 1. Flexibility; 2. Attitude; 3. Boundaries; 4. Understanding Job Satisfaction; 5. Laughter; 6. Optimism; 7. United; and 8. Self-compassion. Basic Assumptions of the FABULOUS Principle Flexibility: Be less rigid in order to adapt to work-life challenges. Attitude: A state of mind based on feelings toward certain workplace stressors. Boundaries: Maintain balance, monitor and maintain limits of acceptable workplace behavior. Understand Job Satisfaction: Gratification and pleasure gained from your role. Laughter: Keep a sense of humor to manage a stressful workplace. Optimism: Think positively, realistically, and anticipate the best possible outcome. United: Cultivate relationships that increase well-being. Self-compassion: Caring for and extending loving kindness to yourself. Your brain is continually shaped by your loss experiences as it attempts to find meaning. Attitude is formed by your knowledge, values and personal beliefs. Professional boundaries focus on duties, responsibilities, and space that keep you safe. Understanding job satisfaction keeps you emotionally connected to your career. Laughter is a response that helps you positively manage workplace stressors. Remaining optimistic supports balance and harmony in your personal and professional life. Being connected with others increases your wellbeing. Recognizing protective factors (i.e. skills, coping strategies) is being self-compassionate. Positive Questions about Personal Narratives Do you have a life changing story? Loss and life changing events are often the force behind successful leaders.
3 Palette of Grief Resilience Program What positive theme do you continue to see woven through your story? What s the big takeaway in how you talk to yourself about your story? How does finding meaning in your narrative provide purpose in your life? Meaningful Leadership Self-Management 1. Flexibility how shifting your thinking helped you to adapt and grow at that time. Resilient Leadership Presence: In what ways can you put character strengths (i.e. curiosity, open-minded, reflective, logical, and intelligent) into practice in order to be flexible? Self-reflect to explore any inner conflict and ask, What if? Creatively reframe thinking to explore ways to look at problems differently. As a flexible thinker, how do you resolve workplace conflicts and manage those who have different cultures and beliefs? Describe positive changes that could occur if you end self-limiting thought patterns. 2. Attitude how a positive attitude influenced the way you coped with your loss? Resilient Leadership Presence: In what ways can you put character strengths (helpful, wisdom, and eager) into practice in order to have a positive attitude? Describe your awareness of how feelings, thoughts and actions, based on your attitude, can be evaluated in a positive, negative, or mixed way. Make a guess as to how focusing on current attitudes on change and transition are shaped by your past experiences and viewpoints. Review how your attitude toward certain people/things facilitates successful leadership. 3. Boundaries how you kept boundaries and protected yourself from insensitive people after your loss. Resilient Leadership Presence:In what ways can you put character strengths (i.e. self-control, careful, self-regulation, cautious, and integrity) into practice to maintain boundaries? If temperance helps to maintain self-control and protects you from excess, describe ways you remain careful when making choices in order not to do something you might regret. Explain where you learned to keep boundaries that ensure outstanding leadership. List practical things you will do to improve your ability to maintain boundaries. 4. Understanding Job Satisfaction
4 Palette of Grief Resilience Program your understanding of grief and bereavement. Resilient Leadership Presence: In what ways can you put character strengths (i.e. self-directed, skillful, devoted, and efficient) into practice in order to understand job satisfaction? Point out the value of what you would gain from engagement strategies (i.e. ongoing mentoring program, family friendly policies). State what makes you a good fit for the job (i.e. frustration tolerance, problem solving skills, on-going sense of hope, appropriate experience, acquiring and using knowledge). Tell a story about how your zest and enthusiasm keeps you driven in the workplace. 5. Laughter how you were able to find joyful moments or maintain a sense of humor. Resilient Leadership Presence: In what ways can you put character strengths (i.e. imaginative, energetic, playfulness, and cheerful) into practice in order to maintain a sense of humor and laugh? Demonstrate an understanding of the type of humor you like (i.e. stand-up, slapstick, sarcastic, observational, self-deprecating). Illustrate how laughter improves your well-being, boosts problem-solving skills, and increases workplace cohesion. Evaluate your ability to see the funny side of leadership challenges. 6. Optimism how you were able to remain positive and hopeful when the situation seemed bleak. Resilient Leadership Presence: In what ways can you put character strengths (i.e. realistic, perseverance, and hopeful) into practice in order to be optimistic? Discover ways to look at the flip side of being pessimistic and cynical. Communicate why you should think realistically, with sensible expectations and anticipate the best possible outcome. Name what keeps you enthusiastic as you create a plan for managing change (i.e. external disruptive event) in your workplace (i.e. funding, competent staff member leaves). 7. United who shared the experience with you and their influence in supporting you. Resilient Leadership Presence: In what ways can you put character strengths (trustworthy, humanity, and collaborative) into practice in order to be united? As a loyal team player, describe how you encourage staff to work together across depts. by focusing on your organization s top priority (i.e. serve as liaisons between depts.). Practice strategies for courageous listening to motivate, foster trust and build rapport.
5 Palette of Grief Resilience Program Using forward thinking, enlist others (peers, teams, groups, mentors) in a shared vision. Describe the value in being open to networking with diverse people (i.e. age, gender, sexual orientation, disability, religion, ethnicity/race, nationality, and party affiliation). 8. Self-Compassion how you were kind to yourself in one of the most difficult moments in your life. Resilient Leadership Presence: In what ways can you put character strengths (i.e. passionate, spiritual, gratitude, love of learning, empathy, and persistence) into practice in order to be selfcompassionate? Summarize an instance when rather than negatively appraising your leadership abilities, you focused on what you did that was productive and helpful. Appraise how you generously extend loving kindness to yourself (i.e. savoring your meal). Make a prediction about what will happen if you are kind and considerate to yourself. Self-Awareness: Hidden Strengths and Blind Spots Strengths can also be perceived as weaknesses when misused. For example, although, pleasing is a positive strength, this strength may work against the leader who attempts to please everybody. This part of the program explores the flip side of a leader s strengths. Barbara Rubel, MA, BCETS is a keynote speaker and author who works with women entrepreneurs and leaders to help them build their resilience. Barbara is an accomplished Thanatologist and nationally recognized leader in the field of compassion fatigue and traumatic loss. She s passionate about helping you recognize that it s often a past loss that propels you to become an innovative trailblazer, mentor, and leader. If you can reflect on what worked in the past to deal with losses and positively apply that wisdom to current stressors, then you can problem solve anything as a leader in your field. Barbara has written books and training curriculums and was featured in an Emmy Award winning documentary. She received a BS in Psychology and MA in Community Health. Barbara is a Board Certified Expert in Traumatic Stress, Diplomate, American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress, and Certified Bereavement Specialist. Her signature approach to building resilience is centered on her FABULOUS Principle and Palette of Grief Resilient Leadership Program. You can learn more about her transformative journey at. Contact Barbara Rubel about the Palette of Grief Resilient Leadership Program email: griefwork@aol.com Telephone: 732-422-0400 (Eastern) Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/barbararubel Length of Palette of Grief Resilient Leadership Program Three-month, multi-phase premium package employing a combination of in-person and phone meetings. Each session is customized to your unique past loss, strengths, current challenges and leadership responsibilities.