Leading With Hope & Optimism in Challenging Times

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1 Leading With Hope & Optimism in Challenging Times Jim Harris, Ed.D., MSW What will not happen What to expect

2 Good or Great? Good Enough? Change is Hard Work!!! First things first! 7 Learning and growth takes place in the context of rela@onships.

3 9 You can push people as far as they trust you. Urban Meyer Maslow s Hierarchy of Needs Berk, L. E. (2008). Infants, children, and adolescents (8 th ed.). Boston: Pearson. 10 Harris' Hierarchy of Needs Significance Survival 23 Risk Factor Syndrome 12

4 What the stress response is for! What does he need right now? Mental Energy (Psychic RAM) Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms - to choose one s a^tude in any given circumstance, to choose one s own way. - Victor Frankl 16

5 Psychology & The Happiness Advantage Achor, S. (2010). The happiness advantage: the seven principals that fuel and performance at work. New York: Broadway Books. Why none of that will make you happy! It is only 10%! Where does it come from? 40% 50% Biology Life Conditions Intentional Behaviors 10% Kashdan, T. B., & Biswas-Diener, R. (2013). What happy people do differently. Psychology Today, Control the Controllables

6 Five Doors of Success 1. Clarity - What? 2. Desire - Why? 3. Knowledge - How? 4. Ac@on - Do it! Life in Half a Second - Matthew Michalewicz #1: Clarity - What? 22 Cas@ng Vision More than a mission statement! 23 What do you want? How will you measure it? 24

7 Calibrating the Mind You find what you are looking for! Calibrating the Mind You find what you are looking for! What is your intellectual & diet? #2: Desire - Why? 28

8 Meaning: Know your why? Compassion 30 He who has a why can endure any how - Nietzsche Job Career Calling Values

9 Now What? Inspiration? is.. Purpose + Faith = Energy 35 Understanding Motivation A Bear, A Coke, & A Country Boy

10 Makers, Takers, & Waiters Meeting Them Where They Are The Non-Example The Non-Example

11 Stages of Change Research 20% of the change population are prepared for action at any one time. 90% of behavior change programs are designed with this 20% in mind. Successful self-changers follow a process of change. Therapy There are more than 400 therapeutic approaches. All of the therapeutic approaches can be summarized by a few essential principles called processes of change. 41 Prochaska, J. O., Norcross, J. C., & DiClemente, C. C. (1994). Changing for good: A revolutionary six-stage program for overcoming bad habits and moving your life positively forward. New York: Harper Collins. Stage Stages of Change Change Attitude Precontemplation What, me have a problem? No way! Contemplation Maybe I need to change something, but I m not sure what to do Preparation Yes, there s a problem and I m going to change it Action I m doing something about my problem. Maintenance I m an old pro now. 6a. Relapse Whoops! I slipped back into my old habit! 6b. Termination I m not even tempted anymore 42 Prochaska, J. O., Norcross, J. C., & DiClemente, C. C. (1994). Changing for good: A revolutionary six-stage program for overcoming bad habits and moving your life positively forward. New York: Harper Collins. Stages of change 43 As the degree of mismatch increases between yourself and the client in readiness for change, the likelihood of resistance increases proportionately. Other person Mismatch Your Viewpoint Action Maintenance Preparation Contemplation Pre-Contemplation Differing viewpoints on readiness for change.

12 What is it? Resistance Where does it come from? What does it look like? #4: Knowledge - How? 46 Control without competence Skill vs. Mo@va@on Is there anything else that you need to be successful? 48

13 Rulers How important is it to you to change this? Not at all Extremely How confident are you that you can change this? No confidence Completely confident How much do you desire to change this? Dread changing Excited about change Planning for and Implementing Change 10 A WILLING (Motivation) READINESS 0 0 B ABLE 10 (Confidence) Adapted from Health Behavior Change: A Guide for Practitioners by Stephen Rollnick, Pip Mason, and Chris Butler (Churchill Livingstone 1999) 186, with permission from Elsevier. Resolving Ambivalence The Decisional Balance Costs of Status Quo Benefits of Change Costs of Change Benefits of Status Quo #5: Ac@on - Do it! Mastering Mojo! 52

14 Land the Plane! Admiring vs. Solving Problems 53 Celebrate Grit! What do you want to see? Making it happen! How and when will you check? Do you celebrate when you see it? It s a DUCK! 55 Moments Miracles OR

15 The Law of the Nudge I have commired my life to a worthy struggle. Stay Connected! 59