Mindfulness & Relationships
Introductions & Agenda What Emotion are you Currently Feeling?
To be listened to is a striking experience, partly because it is so rare. People open up when they know they are really being listened to; they expand; they have more presence. They feel safer and more secure and trust grows. Karen Kimsey-House
Objectives & Agenda Apply new awareness for how your brain impacts mindfulness & emotional intelligence. Increase your understanding of the four emotional intelligence dimensions. Identify your emotional response and manage yourself in the moment. Develop strategies to increase your emotional intelligence through practice.
Time Objectives 2:00 2:10 Introduction & Agenda Objectives & Expectations overview Introductions of the group 2:10 3:00 Mindfulness - Self Experience passive & active mindfulness Explore the benefits of mindfulness Create strategies to practice mindfulness 3:00 3:50 Emotional Intelligence - Self Identify the EQ four quadrants Explore how EQ impacts us as individuals Deepen awareness about your personal windowframe 3:50 4:20 Mindfulness - Others Explore responding vs reacting Explore how to manage intense emotions through mindfulness Develop an ability to be present in what is actually happening 4:20 4:50 Emotional Intelligence - Others Explore the EQ social quadrants Develop an awareness for how we interact with others 4:50 5:00 Close Review learnings and actions Appreciation
Foundations of Mindfulness
Mindfulness of Self Experience mindfulness Mindfulness benefits Implementing mindfulness into your life
What is Mindfulness?
Mindfulness A mental state achieved by focusing one's awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one's feelings.
Mindful Walk
Mindfulness Benefits What are the benefits to mindfulness?
Mindfulness Benefits Calm, Focused Increased Performance Better Listener Improved Well-Being Reduced Stress, Anxiety
Vacation from Stress
Active Mindfulness Yoga Mindful Walk Showering Cooking Folding Scuba Hoodies Filling out schedules
Passive Mindfulness
Emotional Intelligence: Self Awareness
It is very important to understand that emotional intelligence is not the opposite of intelligence, it is not the triumph of heart over head, it is the unique intersection of both. - David Caruso
Emotional intelligence refers to the capacity for recognizing our own feelings and those of others, for motivating ourselves, and for managing emotions well in ourselves and in our relationships Daniel Goleman
Emotion vs. Rational
Anyone can become angry - that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way - that is not easy. Aristotle
Emotional Intelligence
EQ Two Step Think back to a recent conversation that you found challenging. It may be a conversation you were successful with or not. Walk through the four quadrants and share briefly what you did or didn t do in relation to being emotionally intelligent? How were you self-aware, did you self-manage, what was your social awareness and how did you influence communication?
Personal Competence Self-Awareness: Knowing one s emotions, resources, and intuitions. Self-Management: Managing emotions, impulses, and resources.
Social Competence Social Awareness: Empathy, recognizing others emotions, needs, and concerns. Relationship Management: Social skills, Adeptness at inducing desirable responses in others.
Perspectives How often do you seek feedback? How often do you share yourself with others? What type of feedback will help you develop and how do you ask for it?
Johari Window KNOWN BLIND
Jo-Hari Window 1. A change in any one quadrant will affect all other quadrants. 2. It takes energy to hide, deny, or be blind to behavior which is involved in interaction with others. 3. Threat tends to decrease awareness; mutual trust tends to increase awareness. 4. Forced awareness (exposure) is undesirable an usually ineffective. 5. Interpersonal learning means a change taken place so that Quadrant 1 is larger and one or more of the other quadrants has grown smaller.
Your Window Frame Where are the opportunities to grow your window? Which quadrant feels most scary or challenging? How do you see the Leadership Practice connecting with your EQ? Where do your strengths show up? What support or requests do you have?
Effective Relationships Know yourself : Awareness of your behaviours helps you to communicate powerfully. Being aware gives you the knowledge to make changes. Control yourself: Once you have increased awareness of your behaviour, you can begin to consciously control it. Know others : Learn to recognize behavioural differences in others to create win / win situations. Appeal to other s basic needs and wants: before you can appeal to a person s basic needs you must know their needs and wants.
Mindfulness & Emotions
Responding Vs. Reacting
Where do you feel? Anger Fear Happiness
Emotions
Mental Tsunamis 1 - Identify Emotion 2 - Dive Deep 3 - Feel feeling
Dance Party
Find a Partner Find a Partner
Emotional Intelligence: Social Awareness
Emotional Intelligence
Social Competence Social Awareness: Empathy, recognizing others emotions, needs, and concerns. Relationship Management: Social skills, Adeptness at inducing desirable responses in others.
Organizing Groups The essential skill of a leader involves initiating and coordinating a network of people.
Negotiating Solutions The talent of the mediator, preventing conflicts or resolving those that flare up
Personal Connection The concept of empathy and connecting, to recognize and respond to others feelings and concerns the art of relationship. Reading others emotions and facial expressions.
Social Analysis Being able to detect and have insights about people s feelings motives and concerns. Leads to a sense of intimacy and rapport.
Your EQ 1. Review the details in the handout 2. Think back over the last 3 weeks when were you in the practice of Emotional Intelligence 3. Complete the short reflection questionnaire 4. What did you notice?
Strategies What are your strengths in EQ and how can you build them? What EQ weaknesses do you want to develop?
Close & Learning List 5 ways to practice, seek support, or learn more when it comes to mindfulness and emotional intelligence.
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