Why are emotions important What is Emotional Intelligence Understand the four paradigms by which you live your life Learn to identify key moments and choose success vs. survival Recognize choices and take responsibility for your experience Clarify and live according to your personal vision Implement your vision and act with personal integrity Why is Emotional Intelligence important
Why are emotions important?
What is Emotional Intelligence?
Clarify Vision and Purpose Act with Integrity PATHWAY TO SUCCESS Exercise Responsibility Embrace Reality Emotional Intelligence Chart Key Moment Resist Reality React from Fear PATHWAY OF SURVIVAL Disown Responsibility Lack Vision and Purpose
A Personal Paradigm Mental filter through which we view the world and make meaning of our experience. External World Inner Experience
The Fear Paradigm Feel powerless and out of control Tend to be reactive and blame others Suspicious of other peoples motives Seek security and crave pleasure Feel inadequate and or fearful
The Duty Paradigm Achieve control of our lives by conforming to stereotypic roles Good and honorable employees Avoid problems with others Guilt-ridden and feeling resigned to a situation Seek approval for our decisions and actions
The Achievement Paradigm Seek importance and meaning through our achievements Project a competent, consistent image to others Goal-oriented and competitive Often feel hurried and stressed Addicted to ego needs
The Integrity Paradigm Feel alive and happy Recognize numerous choices for response to the events and circumstances of life Believe in yourself Committed to serving Trust the intentions of others Know your non negotiable items
THE FOUR PERSONAL PARADIGMS AT ANY GIVEN TIME, WE EXPERIENCE OUR LIVES FROM ONE OF FOUR PARADIGMS. WE CAN LIVE IN A PARADIGM OF INTEGRITY, ACHEIVEMENT, DUTY OR FEAR.
The Wisdom of Einstein The problems of the world cannot be solved with the same type of thinking that created them. -Albert Einstein
Clarify Vision and Purpose Act with Integrity PATHWAY TO SUCCESS Exercise Responsibility Embrace Reality Emotional Intelligence Chart Key Moment Resist Reality React from Fear PATHWAY OF SURVIVAL Disown Responsibility Lack Vision and Purpose
Conquer Your Key Moments Awareness (Being Conscious) Being fully present Seeing reality clearly Recognizing choices Making choices based on the present Being active and independent Lack of Awareness (Being Unconscious) Living in the past Distorting reality Reacting Blaming Being passive and dependent
Common distortions Black & White thinking Generalizing Catastrophizing Mind reading Labeling Personalization
The Response Chain Model The Pathway to Success Key Moment Meaning Feelings Behavior The Pathway of Survival
Understanding Our Key Moments Triggering event or situation that presents a challenge and demands a response Overcoming our key moments requires awareness, desire, commitment and practice
FOUR VIEWS OF REALITY PARADIGM VIEW OF REALITY HOW WE COPE INTEGRITY A MENTOR EMBRACE ACHEIVEMENT A CHALLENGE CONQUER DUTY A TASKMASTER ENDURE FEAR AN ENEMY ESCAPE
THE POWER OF VISION VISION = KNOWING WHAT I WANT AND BEING CLEAR ABOUT WHERE I M HEADED Vision consists of three parts: Clarity We must be clear about what we want Value Must be truly important to us Faith We must believe that we can achieve it Vision is the power to transcend what is Everything that exists was first created in the mind!
Why is Emotional Intelligence important?
Sales Reps at a computer company who were high in Emotional Intelligence were 90% more likely to finish training than low EI reps.
According to the Journal of General Management, companies who have executives with higher levels of emotional intelligence are more likely to be highly profitable.
PATHWAY OF SUCCESS VS PATHWAY OF SURVIVAL. YOUR CHOICE!