SESSION ANXIETY SYMPTOMS INTERVENTION SESSION HANDOUTS 9 Handut 9.1: Handut 9.2: Handut 9.3: Handut 9.4: Why Be a Cnfident Persn? Becming Assertive Assertiveness Checklist and Stepladders Fighting Fear by Facing Fear Frm My Thughts
HANDOUT 9.1 Why Be a Cnfident Persn? Children wh have lts f wrries and fears ften find it difficult t stand up fr themselves and they ften get teased. Smetimes they get angry when they are wrried and they are nt nice t thers. Mst peple like it when their friends are cnfident, calm and hnest. It is very difficult t make friends if yu are shy and keep t yurself all the time. Many anxius children find it hard t make friends because they dn t have cnfidence in the way they speak and act in frnt f thers. The best way t develp self-cnfidence is t practice being assertive. It can be very tricky t be assertive if yu dn t knw what t d, but yu can learn hw t be cnfident, calm and hnest, even in really scary situatins. Different ways f cmmunicating There are three different ways f behaving when yu are with thers: 1. Yu may behave like a muse wh tries nt t be nticed. But ther peple like t bss mice arund and try t scare them because a muse is pretty wimpy and desn t stand up fr itself when smene des smething that they dn t like. 2. Yu may behave like a cranky crcdile wh and snaps and yells at ther peple. Mst peple try t avid being with peple wh are cranky because they dn t want t get hurt. When yu try t tell peple things in a cranky way, they may get angry back r laugh at yu fr being s upset. 3. Yu can behave in a cl, calm and cnfident way by standing up fr yurself at the same time as being nice t ther peple. Assertive peple make gd friends and d nt let thers take advantage f them r their friends. Why Peple Get Teased and Bullied Bullies lve pwer; they feel gd when they make ther peple d what they want r when they make ther peple sad r mad. Bullies pick n peple wh lk r act different. They really like peple wh lk like they are expecting smething bad t happen and peple wh dn t stand up fr themselves and just cry r get mad. By speaking and acting in a cnfident way yu can make yurself less f a target fr bullies, and yu will als have a better chance f making and keeping friends.
HANDOUT 9.2 Becming Assertive Assertive peple have t remember t keep a lt f different things under cntrl. They knw hw t talk nt nly with their muths but als with their eyes, face and bdy. They als knw hw t behave in a lt f different situatins. Assertive peple lk thers in the EYES, but they dn t stare. They use gd POSTURE, which means they stand up straight. They use a clear VOICE that is nt t lud r sft. What they say, the CONTENT, is plite and pleasant even when they are standing up fr themselves. They keep their FEELINGS calm (r lk calm even if they dn t feel it at the time). They APPEAR t be cnfident and in cntrl. and They BEHAVE apprpriately, like seeking help when they need it and taking risks by saying what they think, feel and want when it is safe t d s. Try this Handut. ; Act ut these fur situatins. (Yu ll need the help f sme ther peple.). Other peple nt in sessin - First act them ut as if yu were a wimpy muse, then try t be a cranky crcdile and finally practice being assertive. Situatin 1: Situatin 2: Situatin 3: Situatin 4: Yu re in the cafeteria line at schl and smene pushes in frnt f yu. Yur neighbr brrws yur bike withut asking yu. Yu can t find the jam in the supermarket that yur mm asked yu t get and yu need t ask fr help. Yu see sme lder kids picking n anther student in the playgrund at lunch. Try t think f sme ther situatins where smetimes peple act passively r aggressively. See if yu can wrk ut hw an assertive persn wuld act. Write yur ideas belw.
HANDOUT 9.3 Assertiveness Checklist and Stepladders Practice this week includes wrking n yur assertive behavirs and yur stepladders. Fr yur assertive behavir practice, chse ne situatin a day where yu can rle play being assertive. Keep a recrd f these situatins and mark ff the checklist what assertive behavirs yu remembered t use. Describe the Situatin Assertive Behavir Checklist Check ff which things yu remembered t d
HANDOUT 9.3 (CONT.) Assertive Behavir Checklist (cntinued) Assertive Behavir Checklist (cnt.) Describe the Situatin Tick which things yu remembered t d Check Off Things Yu Remembered T D
HANDOUT 9.3 (CONT.) This week yu will als cntinue t wrk n yur stepladders. Use the Detective s Evidence Sheet if yu have any wrried thughts and the Fighting Fear by Facing Fear Frm t plan the steps that yu will d this week and the Detectives Evidence Sheet if yu have any wrried thughts. Event What is happening? Realistic Thinking Detective s Evidence Sheet Thughts What am I thinking? Wrry Rating: What is the evidence? What are the facts? What else culd happen? What happened when I wrried befre? What is likely t happen? What has happened t ther peple? What is my realistic thught? Wrry Rating:
Event What is happening? Thughts What am I thinking? What is the evidence? What are the facts? What else culd happen? What happened when I wrried befre? What is likely t happen? What has happened t ther peple? What is my realistic thught? Realistic Thinking Detective s Evidence Sheet Wrry Rating: Wrry Rating:
HANDOUT 9.3 (CONT.) Fighting Fear by Facing Fear Frm What step will I d? When will I d it? What strategies will I use? Wrry Ratings What did I learn? Did I receive my reward?
Fighting Fear By Facing Fear What step will I d? When will I d it? What strategies will I use? Wrry Ratings What did I learn? Did I receive the reward?
HANDOUT 9.4 My Thughts On the left side, draw a picture f yurself in a situatin that makes yu nervus r scared, and write dwn the thughts yu have when yu are in this situatin. Then n the right side, draw anther picture f yurself in the same situatin, but nw using the ther thughts yu can have in the same situatin. T O OVERCOME!