UPW Mentoring Webinar 2011 10 of 10 Getting Unstuck For the Webinar portion only: 408-792-6300 code:: 575 204 430 Please use a headset or handheld phone, not computer speakers or speakerphone speakers cause audio feedback For the teleclass portion only: (that is - audio only or outside of the US or Canada) Dial 712-432-3066 Audio Conference Code: 463796 UPW / Level 3 Webinar Mentoring Program 2011 www.proeft.com Q and A www.lkcoaching.com 1
Getting Unstuck 2011 ProEFT.com, Lindsay Kenny Being Stuck Symptoms Procrastination Can t get started Can t finish anything Usually late Disorganized & ineffective Don t keep commitments Feel paralyzed Unmotivated Lack of joy or passion Everything seems so hard! How Being Stuck Affects Your Life Put on weight or can t lose it Unable to end a bad relationship Not taking care of your health Feel tired or trapped In consistent at work Loss of self-esteem Eroding relationships Affecting your credibility Feels like the life has been sucked out of you 2
Causes of Stuckness Failures or huge disappointments Heartbreaks Fear of being judged or criticized Childhood events Being ostracized Deaths or other losses Being betrayed or rejected The Game of life Mountain vs. Molehill Syndrome Everything is SO hard! Big rewards if you succeed An excuse if you fail (a payoff either way) A monkey could have done THAT! (a negative perception either way) Playing the Game of life To NOT Lose Instead of Playing to Win 3
I can t lose If I don t get in the game Steps to Getting Unstuck 1. Find the cause(s) of the stuckness When did this behavior start? What was going on then? What other times have I felt failure or loss? Who or what hurt me that badly? What am I so afraid of? Neutralize & Reprogram Failures Disappointments Heartbreaks Losses 4
What to do Jot down what was going on when you felt: Disappointed, hurt, criticized Betrayed or let down Were relying on a specific result that turned out very differently You had failed, discouraged You were heart-broken Grief from deaths or other losses You felt beaten up; defeated Steps to Getting Unstuck 1. Find the causes of your stuckness 2. Bundle of all your failures, losses together and give them a name 3. Assign an intensity of 10 to 1 Steps to Getting Unstuck 4. Do a reversal neutralization Even though I don t want to get over my failures 5. Tap Away the Bundle (use the Golden Gate Technique) 5
Golden Gate Technique 1. Set-up statement Even though I ve failed at 2. 1 st round: Use reminder phrase my failure at 3. 2 nd round- vent your feelings I m so mad at myself what was I thinking? how humiliating 4. Reassess intensity (10-0) 5. If an 8 or below, repeat Step 1 and 2, then change 2 nd round to I want to let go of... 6. Repeat 4 and 5 until intensity is 3 or less 7. When a 3 or below use Choices Even though I m still a little upset by, I choose to let it go. 8. Keep going until all the charge is gone. 9. When at a zero, test yourself. Try to get upset. Steps to Eliminating Baggage 4. Do a Reversal Neutralization 5. Tap away the baggage 6. When at a zero, test results Make sure you are completely cleared from your past If there s a charge on any singular trauma, failure, event, disappointment, criticism, or whatever Such as I remember that time when Tap on that separately 6
Part 2 of Getting Unstuck Focus on what you want Instead of thinking about being stuck The Ultimate Truth Statement A Powerful Contract with Yourself Home Environment Relationships find one or fix one Define an area in which you want to move forward in your life Health or Weight Career or Wealth 7
UTS 1) Write out a simple statement about your desire I want to get everything done on time I want a career I love, making a difference I want to be financially free, earning over $200,000 a year I want to live somewhere that I love I want to find my soul mate and be happily married UTS 2) Describe how your life will be different when you reach that goal I ll have tons of energy I can travel whenever I want to I ll have infinite freedom and many options I ll be productive and successful UTS 3) Add emotions to your statement How will you FEEL when you reach your goal? Such as; I ll feel confident, happy, joyful, and have self-respect. I ll have peace of mind, freedom and a sense of accomplishment. 8
Common Benefits of Getting Unstuck Joy and peace of mind Increased confidence Freedom and choices High energy Reclaimed credibility High self-esteem Sense of accomplishment UTS 4) Put it all 3 elements together in a powerful statement Take out the word want more & less State your desire in the present tense Include phrases on how your life is different Describe your feelings about reaching your goal Such as UTS Procrastination Example I have self confidence, joy and peace of mind knowing that I do everything on a timely basis. I have infinite choices because I m productive, organized and efficient. I have freedom and tons of energy. I feel good knowing I ve reestablished credibility with myself and others. I m SO happy with my new on-time life! 9
UTS Money/Career Example I am happy and secure knowing I m earning $200,000 a year doing something I love! I m traveling wherever I want and have infinite choices about my future. I feel optimistic and have great self-esteem and freedom with my abundant income. Add these 2 Magic Phrases 1. Thank you Universe for allowing me to. (fill in your UTS here.) 2. End it with And I choose to make this fun and easy! UTS Procrastination Example Thank you for allowing me to have self confidence, joy and peace of mind knowing that I finish everything on a timely basis. I have infinite choices because I m productive, organized and efficient. I have freedom, happiness and tons of energy. I feel good knowing I ve re-established credibility with myself and others. I choose to make this easy to maintain. 10
UTS 5) Rate the believability of your statement (10 is ownership, 0 is What a crock ) What s coming up for you about your statement? UTS 6) Identify what obstacles are in the way of owning your statement Fears of failure, rejection, success? Limiting beliefs - I don t deserve it Need to figure out how? Old baggage? Doubts that you can do it? Limiting Beliefs and FEARS Set aside the UTS and tap on the obstacles in the way of owning your statement 11
UTS 7) Bundle the obstacles together and give them an intensity of 10 to 1 (10 = highly charged obstacles) UTS 8) Clear reversals on the obstacles Even though I don t want to let go of these fears of failure, success Even though I don t want to get over these limiting beliefs about money, that s it s going to be hard These fears and beliefs give me an excuse to not get moving! UTS 9) Tap away the obstacles Even though I have these limiting beliefs and fears Even though I have to figure out how to do it... 12
Keep tapping your obstacles. (especially limiting beliefs and fears,) until they are at a zero When the doubts, fears, and limiting beliefs are gone Reassess your UTS Is it a 10 yet? Is it just out of reach? Any remaining fears or beliefs can keep you stuck Reluctance to Committing Tap on The remaining resistance to owning my statement 13
Stay focused on what you want by tapping on your UTS daily (2x/day morning and night) Turn negative thoughts into positive ones Summary of the UTS 1) Write a SIMPLE statement about your desires 2) Describe how your life will be different. 3) How will you FEEL when you have your desire? 4) Put it all together in a powerful statement 5) Give a believability # to your UTS (10 is perfect) 6) Identify obstacles in the way of owning the UTS 7) Give the obstacle an intensity 10 to 1 8) Clear reversal on your obstacles 9) Tap it away the obstacles 10) When clear, go back and reassess your UTS Keep tapping until your ownership is at a 10 Summary of Getting Unstuck Part 1 1. Find the causes of your stuckness 2. Bundle of all your failures, losses together and give them a name 3. Assign an intensity of 10 to 0 4. Do a reversal neutralization 5. Tap Away the Bundle 6. When at a zero test the results to make sure you are clear 14
Summary of Getting Unstuck Part 2: Focus on what you want, using a UTS Tap Away fears and beliefs of owning it Tap on your UTS 2x/day Enjoy your new found freedom We re done I love you guys Bye-bye! 15