Jeremy Mork, MSW,LICSW Missy Butler, MS, LMFT MITH Program, Child and Adolescent Behavioral Health Services, MN DHS

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1 Five Survival Skills for Caregivers of Emotionally Reactive Children & Adolescents Jeremy Mork, MSW,LICSW Missy Butler, MS, LMFT MITH Program, Child and Adolescent Behavioral Health Services, MN DHS

2 What is Emotional Reactivity? Dysregulation Emotional Vulnerability

3 Dysregulation Yelling Verbally lashing out or attacking Slamming doors Crying

4 Dysregulation Physical Reactions Heart pounding Thought Reactions Judgmental of self or others Emotional reactions Angry or irritable

5 Emotional Vulnerability High sensitivity to stimuli High reactivity Slow return to baseline

6 Why so reactive? Mental Health Diagnosis Sensory Processing Disorders Cognitive ability Bio Social Theory Attachment Trauma

7 Mental Health Diagnosis Mood Disorders Anxiety Autism Spectrum Disorders Personality Disorders Thought Disorders

8 Sensory Processing Disorder Sounds Lights Touch Texture Smells

9 Cognitive Ability Developmental Disabilities Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders Traumatic Brain Injury

10 Bio Social Theory Biosocial theory suggests that emotional dysregulation may result when an individual with a temperamental disposition encounters and environment that he or she experiences as invalidating.

11 Attachment Attachment describes the interaction between children and their caregivers that have a longstanding impact on the development of identity and personal agency, early working models of self and other, and the capacity to regulate emotions.

12 Attachment Problems with boundaries Distrust and suspiciousness Social isolation Interpersonal difficulties Difficulty attuning to other s emotional states Difficulty with perspective taking

13 Trauma Biology Affect regulation Dissociation Behavioral control Cognition Self-concept

14 Burnout, Countertransference, and Caregiver related stress Warning signs Contributing Factors Prevention

15 Teachable Moment?

16 Transactional Model An individual and their environment influence each other simultaneously

17 Our Reactions What does it feel like to work with a dysregulated child?

18 Common Reactions Judgmental thoughts Emotional Reactions Physical Reactions Self Doubt Behavioral Reactions

19 Dialectical Behavioral Therapy

20 Five Skills Validation Relational Mindfulness Self Soothing Radical Acceptance Chain Analysis

21 Validation

22 Validation Validation skills build and maintain relationships. It is our job to figure out how to validate our child/children, it is not their job to figure out how to be validated. Validation is a skills that we continually learn and hone. Validation is the message that what a person thinks or feels makes sense in that situation. Self-validation will bring us self awareness, understanding and has a calming effect.

23 Validation Observing and describing Reflection Reading the unspoken Understanding the context Radical genuineness

24 Not Validation Not paying attention Shoulding Feeding invalidating thoughts Pathologizing/criticizing Over-generalizing

25 Relational Mindfulness

26 What is Mindfulness? Two Sides Staying present in the moment Having an awareness of your own thoughts and feelings.

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28 What is Relational Mindfulness? What How Non Judgmentally- Mindfully- Effectively

29 Remember that this is someone that you care about Maintaining the relationship may be the most important outcome

30 Self Soothing

31 With Vision With Hearing With Smell With Taste With Touch

32 Take a brief Vacation Run errands Take a break Exercise Take a bath Meditate Read Watch a Movie/ TV

33 Self Care Respite Social/Family Health Address burnout Share responsibility Use available supports Time for yourself

34 Radical Acceptance

35 Acceptance vs. Change We are perfect just the way we are AND we could do better

36 Much talk about the change side Diagnosis Behavioral Planning Individual/Family Intervention Medication

37 What is Radical Acceptance? Focus on Acceptance Understanding trauma and attachment We are all doing our best Not judging our judging The Wisdom to know the difference

38 Chain Analysis

39 A chain analysis is a stepby-step description of the events leading up to and following a behavior

40 Chain analysis What were the vulnerabilities? What were the links the connected the chain (thoughts, feelings, actions)? What exactly was the breaking point? What was the behavior? What were the consequences? Where could have the chain of events been changed?

41 Define Behavior WHAT EXACTLY IS THE BEHAVIOR THAT I AM ANALYZING? WHAT THINGS IN MYSELF AND MY ENVIRONMENT MADE ME VULNERABLE? WHAT PROMPTING EVENT IN THE ENVIRONMENT STARTED ME ON THE CHAIN TO MY BEHAVIOR? WHAT ARE THE LINKS IN THE CHAIN BETWEEN THE PROMPTING EVENT AND THE BEHAVIOR? WHAT EXACTLY WERE THE CONSEQUENCES IN THE ENVIRONMENT

42 Solution Analysis WAYS TO REDUCE MY VULNERABILITY IN THE FUTURE WAYS TO PREVENT PROMPTING EVENT FROM HAPPENING AGAIN. WAYS TO WORK ON CHANGING THE LINKS WHAT HARM DID MY PROBLEM BEHAVIOR CAUSE? PLANS TO REPAIR, CORRECT, AND OVER-CORRECT THE HARM.

43 Questions?

44 Acknowledgements American Psychiatric Association (APA, 1994). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders, (4th ed.). Washington, DC: American Psychiatric Association Fruzzetti, A. E. (2006). The high conflict couple: A dialectical behavior therapy guide to finding peace, intimacy, and validation. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Press. Linehan, M. M. (1993). Cognitive-behavioral treatment of borderline personality disorder. New York: Guilford Press. Linehan, M. M. (1993). Skills Training Manual for Treating Borderline Personality Disorder. New York: Guilford Press. Penzo, J.A (2009). Parenting a Child Who Has Intense Emotions: Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills to Help Your Child Regulate Emotional Outbursts and Aggressive Behaviors. Oakland, CA : New Harbinger Publications, Inc. Perry, B.D. (2007). The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist's Notebook: What Traumatized Children Can Teach Us about Loss, Love, and Healing. New York: Basic Books.