Adult Psychological Development and Spiritual Maturity Part I

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1 + 1 Adult Psychological Development and Spiritual Maturity Part I

2 + Learning Goals 2 n (1) Discover new ways of thinking about spiritual growth, spiritual direction, and the experience of faith as understood developmentally n (2) Basic grasp of Robert Kegan s Constructive Development theory n (3) Begin to identify the implications of adult development for your spiritual life and your ministry as spiritual directors

3 + Prayer: As Kingfishers catch 3 fire

4 + What does it mean to selve oneself? 4 n Adult development What does it mean? n Associations? n Assumptions? n Metaphors? n What connections might you see or anticipate between adult psychological development and spiritual growth? n 2 minutes to free write and three to share with a partner

5 + Nature & Grace Presuppositions about biology, psychology, and theology 5

6 + Your brain, your brain on God" 6

7 + Relating (Neuroscience), 7 Psychology to Theology n A mutually critical, co-relational relationship between science/social science and theology n Neither epistemic lens can be reduced to the other n Psychological development provides capacity for deeper spiritual maturation, but psychology does not entirely determine what spiritual maturity is. n Holiness can happen at any stage of development, but will look distinct from stage to stage n No theory (or set of theories), psychological or theological can ever capture the reality/mystery of what it means to be a human in relationship to God

8 + Models of Adult Development: Partial Perspectives Psycho-Social, Moral, Ego, Women s Ethic of Care, Constructive Development 8

9 + The Psycho-Social Model: Erickson 9 n Relating the self to society n Social expectations/individual fitness

10 + Erikson s Psycho-Social Model 10

11 + Kolhberg s Moral Development 11 Model

12 + Loevinger s Ego Development 12 Model

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15 + Kegan s Constructive Development 15 Theory: the evolution of consciousness n Stage 1: Impulsive Mind n Stage 2: Instrumental Mind n Stage 3: Socialized Mind n Stage 4: Self-Authoring Mind n Stage 5: Self- Transforming Mind

16 + The Evolving Self & In Over Our Heads: the mental demands of everyday life 16

17 + How does this change happen? The Subject/Object relationship

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19 + Q. How does the change happen? A. The subject-object move n The subject/object relationship (impulses, needs, desires, social relationships, personal agency, one s own sense of identity/selfauthorship, etc.), i.e., what was subject (me) is now object (it) n Examples: in adolescence, I am my peer group and they are me. Later in life, I have relationships. n In early adulthood, we identify with our abilities, our strengths, our skills. Later in life, I have these, but now they are more like tools in a tool box. n In middle adulthood, I identify with my plans, my goals, my achievements, my self-generated world view. Later, these plans, achievements, and goals are seen to be partial, and I long for a greater sense of purpose and connectedness

20 + Development Growth Moves in the Direction of Increasing Complexity Dualistic thinking (either/or) Dialectical thinking (both/and)

21 + Constructive-Developmental Theory 21 (Kegan, 1982, 1994) n Person as Meaning Maker n Development occurs on the basis of the Subject/Object distinction; growth in cognitive complexity n Growth from stage to stage is driven by the alternating need/desire for agency or communion n Supports & Challenges (Holding Environment) for Growth vary (example)

22 + Clarifying Questions? 15 min 22

23 + Ways of Knowing Developmental Lenses for the Ways We Perceive and Make Meaning of Our Experience 23

24 + Constructive Developmental Theory (Kegan, 1982) & Ways of Knowing (Drago-Severson, 2004) 24 n Based on three central premises: (1) Constructivism (2) Developmentalism (3) Subject - Object Relationship (e.g.) n A Way of Knowing (Drago-Severson, 2004) shapes all aspects of identity & experience across multiple domains n 4 Ways of Knowing found in adulthood: Instrumental Knower; Socialized Knower; Self-Authoring Knower; Self-Transforming Knower

25 + Vertical Growth: Transcending and Including previous stages Vertical Development = Self-Transformation (Mindsets) n Expands options for how I make sense of experience Each Stage Transcends and Includes what comes before n Expands capacity for complexity n Expands range of behaviors in response to challenges n Expands ability to handle uncertainty n Expands mental complexity and emotional intelligence

26 + Instrumental Knowers (Stages 2-2/3): 26 n The Golden Rule: I ll do to you what you do to me n Rule-Bound Self (Drago-Severson, 2007) n Others are helpers or obstacles n Reliance on rules, the right way/avoiding punishment n Limited capacity for abstract thinking n Orienting Concerns: fear/reward/self gain n E.g. Spiritual Direction/Ministry n Supports and Challenges for Growth

27 + Socializing Knowers: (Stages 3, 3/4) 27 n I should do for you what I hope and expect you should do for me n Other-Focused Self (Drago-Severson, 2007) n Self can think abstractly n Defined by important others & society s expectations n Acceptance & approval are primary; conformity to social norms n Orients to inner states; feels responsible for other people s feelings n Orienting Concerns: abstract psychological consequences n E.g., Spiritual Direction/Ministry n Supports and Challenges for Growth

28 + Self-Authoring Knowers: (Stages 4, 4/5) 28 n Doing for each other supports each of us in meeting our own self-defined values, ideals, and goals and assists in preserving the social order n Reflective Self (Drago-Severson, 2007) n Self generates own values & standards; relies on internal authority n Capacity for healthy conflict- give and take n Self can hold contradictory feelings simultaneously n Meeting one s own goals is ultimate; self improvement n Orienting Concerns n E.g., Spiritual Direction/Ministry n Supports and Challenges for Growth

29 From NY Times 06/07

30 + Self Transforming Knower: (Stage 5, 30 5/6) I have the freedom to be myself and to let others be, while at the same time, being open to intimacy with people completely different from me My own way of being is partial and incomplete without relationship with the other my becoming is constantly evolving, looping back on itself, and changing. na new balance between capacity for agency and communion nthe self system is an object available for attention and constant discernment the fourth person perspective. ndark sides: Power/despair norienting concerns: n E.g., Spiritual Direction/Ministry n Supports and Challenges for Growth

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32 + Summary of Developmental Movements 32 n A progression from the simple to the complex n From an external orientation to an inner one n From absolutism and certitude to increasing tolerance for ambiguity and the unknown n From tendency to rely on out groups and stereotypical thinking to increasing awareness of individual differences and greater empathy with others n From a posture of conformity to group norms toward mature inter-dependence

33 + Stages of Faith and Spiritual Maturation Applying Adult Development Theory to Spiritual Growth 33

34 + Stages Theories of Adult 34 Development

35 + Religious state 35 experience/developmental stage

36 + Romans 12:2 36 n Be renewed by the transformation of your mind, so that you may discern what is the will of God, what is good, pleasing, and perfect

37 + Matthew 9:17 37 n Neither do people pour new wine into old wineskins. If they do, the skins will burst; the wine will run out and the skins will be ruined. No, they pour new wine into new wineskins, and both are preserved.

38 + Philippians 2:5 38 n Have the same mind in you that was in Christ Jesus

39 + How the Spiritual Exercises can 39 support adult development n The Spir Ex as a vehicle for growth toward selfauthoring subjectivity; self as object n Jesus as evolutionary pacer, and transitional object n The Examen as a tool for broadening and deepening self-awareness n The Call of the King/The Two Standards: progressive growth in interior freedom through love for Jesus

40 + How the Spiritual Exercises can 40 support adult development n Contemplation de-centers the self; shifts perspective n The attention to the affective dimension of experience facilitates deeper appropriation of grace n Use of physical gestures and bodily postures: somatic integration n Scaffolding for emotional and psychological resilience n Motivation beyond comfort zone

41 + How the Spiritual Exercises can 41 support adult development n God illuminates dissonance and contradiction, moving us in the direction of greater integrity and wholeness n Grace helps us move beyond our defenses and our finite identifications/attachments n Ignatius description of humildad amoroso and reverence are characteristic of the level of ego maturity in later stages of development

42 + How the Spiritual Exercises can 42 support adult development n Conversion is a dynamic, painful process of being disembedded from sinful habits and attachments n Evolution involves personal reflection, interior differentiation of attachments from one s ego, intentional and conscientious assimilation of Christ s values and re-integration n Rules for Discernment are instructive about the nature of psychological defenses, the nature of the self in dynamic equilibrium

43 + How have I matured in grace and 43 spirit?

44 + 44 Consider unfolding images of God

45 + 45 And of Jesus

46 + 1:1 Pair Reflection (10 minutes) 46 n How do you understand grace in your own life and development? nfrom your experience, what is the effect of grace in the lives of your directees?

47 + Why Do Ways Of Knowing Matter in Spiritual Direction Relationships? 47 n Implications for working with adults and each other: n Differing expectations on both sides n Discrete/discerning charity n Needing different supports & challenges n In any spiritual/religious community, there will be developmental diversity n Spiritual directors as part of a robust Holding Environment

48 + What is a Holding Environment? 48 n The context in and out of which we grow n 3 Functions : Support; Challenge: Stability n How might understanding this help you in pastoral relationships? n Importance of meeting people where they are and providing both supports and challenges to facilitate development (Drago-Severson, 2004) n Demands sometimes outpace our capacities n The need for supervision

49 The Spiritual Direction Relationship Way of Knowing Expectations of SD s Practical Supports Instrumental Directors know what the right goals and methods are & should tell me what they are. Give Instrumental Knowers goals, practices & step-by-step process for achieving them. Socializing Directors know the best goals for me, out of many possibilities. I expect that the director will help reinforce conventional values and ways of being spiritual or religious Socializing Knowers do generate some goals internally. If voiced, supervisors should acknowledge them as goals that they should pursue. 49

50 The Spiritual Direction Relationship Way of Knowing Expectations of SD s Practical Supports Self-Authoring Having appropriated the authority of their personal experience, they expect directors to engage in dialogue and to offer additional perspectives for consideration. Offer feedback & alternate perspectives and engage in joint inquiry around experience. 50

51 The Spiritual Direction Relationship Way of Knowing Expectations of SD s Practical Supports Transforming Directee hopes that the director will be a companion into the mystery of their deepening relationship and intimacy with self, other, and God. The director can be present to the directee as they explore more profoundly the paradoxes of life, and the many tensions that are generated by inner contradictions. 51

52 + Questions for reflection and 52 sharing nyour experience: What resonates with you about what you have heard? What do you find yourself resisting? What questions are stirring for you? nyour experience of others: What connections do you make between what you have heard and your work as a spiritual director?

53 The developmental perspective and spiritual growth A summary God as ultimate holding environment What the eyes sees more clearly, the heart feels more deeply, Bob Kegan Spiritual emergencies: the perils and opportunities of crises- growth is possible A new way of thinking about the process of spiritual liberation: -Growth through emergence from embeddedness -What was subject now is, through grace and nature, available for our attention and discernment 53

54 + Teilhard de Chardin, S.J. Trust in the Slow Work of God. Above all, trust in the slow work of God. We are quite naturally impatient in everything to reach the end without delay. We should like to skip the intermediate stages. We are impatient of being on the way to something unknown, something new. And yet it is the law of all progress that it is made by passing through some stages of instability and that it may take a very long time. And so I think it is with you. Your ideas mature gradually let them grow, let them shape themselves, without undue haste. Don t try to force them on, as though you could be today what time (that is to say, grace and circumstances acting on your own good will) will make of you tomorrow. Only God could say what this new spirit gradually forming within you will be. Give Our Lord the benefit of believing that his hand is leading you, and accept the anxiety of feeling yourself in suspense and incomplete.

55 Trust in the slow work of God in all the seasons of life 55

56 + Sources and Further Reading 56 n Stages of Faith, by James Fowler n The Evolving Self, by Robert Kegan n In Over Our Heads, by Robert Kegan n Changing Life Patterns, by Elizabeth Liebert n Integral Spirituality, by Ken Wilber

57 + Thank you! David McCallum, S.J., Ed.D Le Moyne College 57