How to Raise Emotionally Healthy Children - Webinar Handout/Outline

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1 How to Raise Emotionally Healthy Children - Webinar Handout/Outline This one-hour webinar guides you through the five emotional needs to feel respected, important, accepted, included, and secure. Our panelists will discuss common challenges and show you how to help parents modify their interactions to meet the emotional needs of their young children. You ll also learn why it s important for parents to maintain their own emotional health. Your Presenters: Dr. Gerald Newmark has experience at every level of education from elementary school to university as a teacher, consultant, and researcher. He has lectured extensively on parent-child-teacher relations and on innovative methods of teaching and learning. He received a presidential citation for his pioneering work in education that is described in his book This School Belongs to You and Me: Every Learner a Teacher Every Teacher a Learner. His most recent book, How to Raise Emotionally Healthy Children: Meeting the Five Critical Needs of Children and Parents Too! has sold over 500,000 copies and translated into nine languages. Jody Martin has a B.A. in Psychology and a minor in Child Development, as well as 25 years of extensive experience in the early childhood field. She s taught preschool, directed a childcare center, and worked as a Corporate Curriculum Manager. She s also authored articles for several early childhood publications and is a reviewer for curriculum publishers. Jody is presently the Vice President of Education and Training for Crème de la Crème Early Learning Centers of Excellence. Kathleen Pickering, IBCLC, is the Program Coordinator for the Breastfeeding Peer Counseling Program for the County of Riverside in California. She has successfully implemented the use of the book How to Raise Emotionally Healthy Children and Parents too! into her successful Breastfeeding Peer Counseling support groups. Resources: View clips and order the video: For more information about Dr. Newmark's work:

2 Raising Emotionally Healthy Children Raising Emotionally Healthy Children Dr. Gerald Newmark Author of How to Raise Emotionally Healthy Children Raising Emotionally Healthy Children To raise public awareness of the importance of meeting the emotional needs of children. To provide a practical resource that enables parents to plan and create emotionally healthy environments for children and themselves and to evaluate how well they are doing along the way. The Five Emotional Needs Raising Emotionally Healthy Children Video Volume One: The Five Critical Needs of Babies Volume Two: The Five Critical Needs of Toddlers Volume Three: The Five Critical Needs of Preschoolers Dr. Gerald Newmark Dr. Newmark came up with the concepts for Raising Emotionally Healthy Children (originally written in How to Raise Emotionally Healthy Children) Uniqueness of the needs? The significance of Raising Emotionally Healthy Children for the nation? RAISING EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY - OUTCOMES FOR OUTCOMES FOR To be self-confident, independent, responsible, thinking, caring, civic-minded individuals, with greater prospects for success in school, career, marriage, and life in general. 1

3 PARENTING CHALLENGES Parent roles are complex and varied Lack of training Distractions and influences Self reflection is minimal FAMILY SITUTATIONS Behavior that hurts and behavior that helps RECOLLECTIONS FROM CHILDHOOD BECOMING A PROFESSIONAL AT PARENTING Making conscious decisions Having a game plan Becoming a student of your own behavior Having an experimental attitude PARENT SHARING SESSION Management facilitates a discussion group Meet once per week/month for an hour RAISING EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY - OUTCOMES FOR Conclusion Questions? Please Jodi Martin at JLMartin@cremedelacreme.com Raising Emotionally Healthy Children Resources Parent Handouts Be a Student of Your Own Behavior Parent Self-Care Plan Family Meetings Guide 2

4 Parent Self-Care Plan Family Meetings Guide Family Activities Plan 16 Parent Activities Make a Journal becoming a student of your own behavior Make a 5 Emotional Needs Card Raising Emotionally Healthy Children Resources VIDEO RESOURCES Volume One Stress Management, Time Management, Self-reflection Volume Two Family Bonding, Self-Control, Creating a Community Volume Three Resolving Conflict, Work/Life Balance, Family Communication INCREASING BREASTFEEDING BY RAISING EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY Track only exclusive breastfeeding rates Assess what is working and what is not Make course corrections, as needed No Traditional Interventions Affected African - American Breastfeeding Rates Women stop breastfeeding because of LIFE issues, not because of breastfeeding problems. 3

5 We needed a social/emotional component for our Breastfeeding Peer Counseling Groups Meeting Dr. Newmark spurred course corrections. We incorporated the concepts of the 5 Emotional Needs into our Mothers Group Curriculum Babies, Toddler, Children, Teenagers, Parents, Grandparents ALL have the same emotional needs Meeting these needs in childhood provides the foundation for life success The 5 Emotional Needs Our Success African American Women Exclusive Breastfeeding Rates SISTAH CONNECTION PROJECT Breastfeeding Peer Counseling Targets African America Women Focus on Peer Mothers Groups REPLICABLE WITH ALL MOTHERS Our Peer Group Model can be replicated with other Groups Teen, SE Asian, Hispanic, First Time or Working Moms We did it so can you! THE MOTHERS GROUPS ARE THE SUCCESS Groups are Successful for three main reasons Awesome Peer Counselors Friendships are created Emotional needs are addressed 4

6 Emotional needs are addressed Per Diane Wiessinger, MS, IBCLC Ithaca, NY: Peer Groups create mini-breastfeeding cultures and Peer Groups are the glue that holds breastfeeding mothers together OUR PEER COUNSELORS ARE AWESOME They do very important work They constantly figure out ways to meet mothers needs and improve their project They are dedicated and passionate They are all working towards becoming IBCLCs, 2 have achieved this goal Without them this program would not exist PEER COUNSELORS HELP OVERCOME BARRIERS Are hired for their enthusiasm!! Are trained to specifically work with their peers in group settings Have special insight into the needs and challenges of their peer participants Build trusting relationships Are viewed as role models Are very knowledgeable of local resources AWARD WINNING PC TEAM FRIENDSHIPS ARE CREATED BY CONNECTING NEW MOTHERS Most women STOP breastfeeding when they perceive life 5

7 Most women STOP breastfeeding when they perceive life problems as insurmountable. Peer Counselors facilitate Peer Groups. Peer Groups offer safe place to discuss and resolve life problems CONNECTING NEW MOTHERS IN PEER GROUPS Comfortable place to make friends, be with the same moms each month and practice exclusive breastfeeding Peer Groups are used as incentive to exclusive breastfeeding Role models are always present NORMS AND SAFE PLACES Groups MUST be safe places for mothers to open up and share their inner most feelings. We encourage mom s to practice breastfeeding in public while in this group. We respect each other and our differences. What is said in this room stays in this room. SOCIALIZE AND BUILD FRIENDSHIPS EMOTIONAL NEEDS ADDRESSED Peer Group Curriculum 5 Universal Tasks Postpartum are explored 5 Critical Needs of Children and Families are discussed 2 questions always asked: What was a challenge for you this month? What made motherhood good for you this month? Confidence is gained in new role as mother 5 UNIVERSAL EMOTIONAL TASKS POSTPARTUM EXPLORED 1 Per Month 6

8 EXPLORED 1 Per Month Pregnancy, Labor and Delivery Physical Restoration Attachment Work Assumption of the Caretaker Role Redefining Family Relationships CRITICAL NEEDS OF AND FAMILIES EXPLORED 1 Per Month Parenting is not something you learn once and master for all time. Different ages have different needs. Parents must learn to adjust their interactions accordingly. Parents must be good learners, children are the best teachers. LISTEN Concepts and techniques are easy to learn. FEELING RESPECTED Chapter 1 ALL Videos Questions to Mothers: 1. What does respect look like to you? 2. What is the opposite of respect? 3. How do our babies talk to us? 4. How can we show respect to our babies? Practice What Is Learned 43 7

9 44 FEELING IMPORTANT Chapter 1 All Videos Questions to Mothers: 1. How can we make our children feel important? Let babies explore in safe environment. Listen and interact with babies/children when they talk to you. Get down to their level. Give children choices. Let children help. Practice What Is Learned FEELING ACCEPTED Chapter 1 All Videos Questions to Mothers: 1. How can we make our children feel accepted? Allow and encourage children to talk about their feelings. Acknowledge feelings that s how they feel. (Be a good listener) Praise babies/children for things they do well or new things they try. Catch babies/children doing things right. Practice What Is Learned

10 FEELING INCLUDED Chapter 1 All Videos Questions to Mothers: 1. How can we make our children feel included? Allow and encourage children to participate in chores. Include children in decision-making process. Talk to your baby as you go through your day s activities. Include your baby in family meal times. Practice What Is Learned FEELING SECURE Chapter One ALL Videos Questions to Mothers: 1. How can we make our children feel secure? Show affection on a regular basis. Begin and end every day with the same routine or ritual. Eat as many family meals together as possible. Set reasonable limits that protect children from harm. All family members treat each other with 5 critical needs in mind. Practice What Is Learned RAISING EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY SUMS IT ALL UP! TAKE AWAY MESSAGE Isolation, stress and overwhelming feelings can cause women to stop breastfeeding. Utilize Peer Groups to overcome the isolation and stress 9

11 Utilize Peer Groups to overcome the isolation and stress to create circles of friends to gain special insight of needs and challenges to address emotional needs to build trusting relationships to role model positive behavior to build bridges with professionals to help women find resources TO RAISE EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY FAMILIES! IT TAKES A VILLAGE TO BREASTFEED A CHILD No man, woman or family can be an island. Life is much easier when we are part of a network of friends and family; when we are a part of a neighborhood. Sistah Connection Project is dedicated to bringing families together to help create emotionally healthy families and neighborhoods! MAKING A DIFFERENCE ONE FAMILY AT A TIME Increasing Breastfeeding Rates by Raising Emotionally Healthy Children Conclusion Questions? Kathleen at Kpickeri@rivcocha.org Raising Emotionally Healthy Children New Release To preview video clips, please visit: Special Offers 10