Some of the tools we use in the group sessions

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1 Some of the tools we use in the group sessions Power and Control vs. Equality wheels The Power Pyramid Fair arguing, assertiveness, aggression and passivity The use of time-outs and self-talk Anger and poor emotional literacy and communication Control logs

2 Some of the tools we use in the group sessions continued Taking women's perspectives Videos and scenarios (in conjunction with other tools) Role play & Skills practice Handouts about non-controlling behaviour and other educational handouts (e.g around children's needs)

3 Power & Control vs. Equality Wheels Power & control and violence & the threat of violence as part of an overall pattern of abuse

4 The Equality Wheel What are we aiming for?

5 The Power Pyramid A tool for analysing the impact and motivations for actions

6 Assertiveness Not being aggressive doesn't mean becoming passive

7 Time outs and self-talk Creating an agreed time out plan Knowing how to calm yourself Becoming aware of the self-talk that serves to escalate disagreement and finding and using alternatives

8 Five steps to emotion management Recognise the physical signs Calming Recognise thoughts Challenge thoughts Replace thoughts

9 Communication and emotional literacy Becoming more aware of how communicating occurs and finding other ways to do this Becoming more aware of the range of emotions that are experienced and finding adequate ways to deal with them they don't need to lead to anger

10 Control Logs A way to analyse situations in order to: Become more aware of what happens Look at the intentions, thoughts & emotions involved See how behaviour is rooted in beliefs that can be discussed and questioned Become aware of how responsibility is avoided through minimisation, denial and blame Become aware of the impact of abuse now and in the context of past abuse Examine alternative ways to behave

11 Control Log Actions Intentions Beliefs Feelings Minimisation, Denial and Blame Effects The use of past violence Non-Controlling behaviour

12 I didn't do it, but if I did I had a good reason : Minimization, Denial, and Attributions of Blame Among Male and Female Domestic Violence Offenders Kris Henning, Angela R Jones, Robert Holdford One in five men denied that there was even an argument with their spouse/partner and most of the men indicated that the victim and police reports on the incident were inaccurate A majority of the men minimised the severity of their offence by indicating that the situation was 'blown way out of proportion', that nobody was hurt during the incident and that the police intervention was unnecessary because it was a simple family argument

13 Minimisation, denial & blame Half of the men reported that they were defending themselves against an attack initiated by their partner Most of the men attributed greater blame for the recent conflict to characteristics of their partner rather than their own personal attributes

14 Stages of Change Pre contemplation Contemplation Preparation Action Maintenance Lapse

15 Cycle of Change Prochaska & Diclemente What is the cycle of change? Different stages different interventions Rolling with resistance but avoiding colluding

16 What is Motivational Interviewing? Style of working which helps create direction It builds momentum towards change It addresses conflict without arguing It creates a belief that change is possible

17 Principles of Motivational Interviewing Express empathy Develop discrepancy Avoid argument Roll with resistance Support self-responsibility

18 The Group Culture A supportive environment is created where men are encouraged to speak openly This provides a context in which they can be challenged by us There are always men at different stages of the programme. They are encouraged to support and challenge each other

19 Group Diversity Men come from a wide range of different backgrounds. This can be beneficial because it allows them to recognise underlying and shared patterns and can be supportive in developing empathic skills It also presents challenges. There can be misunderstandings and some men have far wider problems, for example, broader issues around violence and chaotic lifestyles

20 Expected Outcomes Take responsibility for their use of violence and abusive behaviour in their relationships. Are able to identify the beliefs and intents that underpin their abusive behaviour. Acknowledge the effect of their behaviour in their (ex)partners, children and others. Be taking positive steps to change their relationships using the tools provided

21 Developing Critical Thinking The Problem-Solving Method is described as follows: 'This method starts from the life situation and reality of people. Their life situation is made in a problem-posing situation. The method concentrates on showing people that they have the right to ask questions on the hows and whys, that they have the right to find out about causes and influences in their lives.' Carien Fritz The Theory of Paolo Freire

22 Developing Critical Thinking Critical Thinking 'Critical thinking is a form of judgement specifically purposeful and reflective judgement. Using critical thinking one makes a decision or solves the problem of judging what to believe or what to do, but does so in a reflective way.' Wikipedia

23 Developing Critical Thinking The Praxis

24 Non-Controlling Behaviour Time out Positive self-talk Coping with jealousy Letting go Acknowledging women's fear Accepting women's anger Communicating thoughts and feelings Accepting criticism

25 Non-Controlling Behaviour continued... Recognising anger cues Using assertive behaviour Being aware of non-verbal cues Not needing to win and non-violent conflict-resolution Problem solving Learning to listen Challenging sexism and violence against women Understanding power