Return to Center: Natural Remedies for Emotional Balance. Listen to Your Body Talk. Blocking the Message 10/18/2016.

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1 Return to Center: Natural Remedies for Emotional Balance With Steven Horne Listen to Your Body Talk The body communicates its needs through feelings (bodily sensations) like: Hunger Thirst Fatigue Pain or discomfort Restlessness Pleasure Tension Relaxation In order to meet the body s needs we have to learn how to properly heed and understand these signals Blocking the Message We can do things to interfere with the message, but this does not satisfy the need The body s need remains unsatisfied, so the feeling will resurface later with more intensity Examples: Pain Killers Stimulants Appetite Suppressants 1

2 Emotions are Our Heart Talking Emotions are also feelings, but they arise from the needs of our non-physical heart Our heart informs us about our social and spiritual needs It tells us how we are relating to life, to ourselves and to others Emotions Don t Lie Contrary to popular belief emotions don t lie Emotions are accurately communicating what our needs are Our thoughts about those emotions can lie because they can misinterpret the message the emotion is trying to convey Again, the emotions are real it is the thoughts we have about them that deceive us Two Dysfunctional Approaches Denial and Suppression Denying an emotion is not wanting to feel it I shouldn t feel that way Denial doesn t make an emotion go away, it just puts it out of conscious awareness It denies the need behind the emotion It causes us to try to suppress the expression of that emotion which causes muscle tension and shallow breathing Blaming and Venting Acknowledging the emotion but not wanting to feel it Blaming its existence on others You made me feel this way! Places the responsibility for the emotion outside of ourselves Causes us to use emotions as a weapon to try to intimidate or manipulate others into doing what we want them to do 2

3 Emotional Balance To achieve emotional balance we must learn to listen to the messages our emotions are telling us about US We must identify the actual need behind our emotion We must take responsibility for finding ways to get those needs met, not place that responsibility on others This leads to self-actualization and empowerment Finding Emotional Balance What is the Message of Anger? 3

4 Anger Clip Here The Message of Anger is About Boundaries and Self-Control Denying-Suppressing Allows others to control our life for their benefit Causes us to become enablers, people pleasers and doormats Prevents us from doing things that create a happy and successful life for ourselves Blaming-Venting Attempts to control others for our benefit Causes us to become aggressive, controlling and abusive Destroys relationships, prevents us from having mutually-beneficial and loving relationships The Balance of Anger Approaching relationships from a place of mutual respect I m in control of my life and you are in control of yours I won t try to make you lose so I can win I also won t let you make me lose so you can win We will negotiate for a win/win or no deal 4

5 Achieving Balance in Anger Denying and Suppressing Find Strength Trigger Immune Mood Elevator Core Balancing Blend Essential Shield Inspire Uplifting Blend Lemon, Pine, Rosemary Blaming and Venting Keep Cool FE Liver Balance IF-C Recover Soothing Blend Roman Chamomile, Lavender, Rose, Ylang Ylang What is the Message of Sorrow? Grief Clip Here 5

6 The Message of Sorrow is About Desire and Dealing with Loss Denying-Suppressing Denies how much one valued what was lost and one s social desires and needs Creates a barrier that prevents a person from getting emotional close to others ( falling in love ) Causes a person to become hardened and insensitive to the feelings of others Blaming-Venting Attempts to avoid feeling one s loss by seeking sympathy and pity from others Inhibits a person from engaging the grieving process and letting go of what they have lost Disempowers a person because they see themselves as a victim and in need of others to rescue them The Balance of Sorrow Throughout life we experience people and things which bring us joy and make our lives better We also experience losing these relationships and things We find balance between desire and loss when we appreciate all the relationships and good things we have each day Become present in life with a gratitude attitude Achieving Balance in Sorrow Denying and Suppressing Open Heart Lung Support Rosehips, Hawthorn Rose Helicrysum Blaming and Venting Release It Breathe Activator AL-J Breathe deep Inspire Uplifting Blend Purity Refreshing Blend 6

7 What is the Message of Fear? Grief Clip Here The Message of Fear is About Danger and Excitement Denying-Suppressing Trying to suppress fear denies the fact that there are dangerous activities or choices It limits awareness and thoughtful planning, leading to impulsive, reckless behaviors It can also cause us to create addictive or compulsive behaviors to try to escape difficult choices in life Blaming-Venting Acknowledges that there are dangers in life Seeks to limit those dangers by avoiding risk and playing it safe and/or placing the responsibility for difficult decisions onto others Prevents us from achieving great things and finding adventure and excitement in life 7

8 The Balance of Fear Fear causes us to carefully evaluate potential risks and dangers when making decisions It also increases alertness and maximizes our ability to perform well in difficult circumstances Having the courage to make a choice and act on it replaces turns fear into excitement Achieving Balance in Fear Denying and Suppressing Be Response-Able Chinese Stress Relief AnxiousLess Prosper and Success Blend Lavender, Patchouli, Frankincense, Ylang Ylang Blaming and Venting Be Courageous AnxiousLess Nervous Fatigue Formula Refuge Calming blend Getting Centered Distress Remedy Kava Kava Capsicum and Lobelia Refuge Calming Blend Prosper Success Blend Myrrh, Frankincense, Jasmine 8