CCP Life Coaching Course Agenda:

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1 CCP Life Coaching Course Agenda: DAY 1: 1. Introduction 2. Noticing 3. NEPA 4. First Contact - Part 1 5. Priorities Lunch Break 6. Communication 7. Priorities Group Work 8. Goal Setting DAY 2: 1. Masculine/Feminine 2. Group Work Lunch Break 3. Best/Worst Helper 4. Triangle of Trust 5. First Contact - Part 2 6. Four Seasons of Learning 1

2 Noticing Exercise: Write Down three things you noticed when you walked in the room AIM: Come away with an upgraded understanding of: How to notice How to notice what you are noticing Recognize that everyone notices different things 2

3 NEPA AIM: Create an understanding of the process (framework) that extends beyond the noticing into the action plan for change with clients Figure out where you sit (strengths/weaknesses) in each area of the process and to learn where to start on upgrading your NEPA ordering and orchestration Noticing Actioning Explaining Prescribing Application: 1. With your 1st few prescriptions given for exercise/lifestyle/nutrition, notice your patterns as a coach. Are you taking time to notice? Are you creating an explanation for what you see or are you extracting one from your client? Are you prescribing without understanding (explaining) what you noticed? 2. Within the 1st week, ask these questions in conversation with your client: I noticed that you were... (noticing) What I m observing happen is... why is this? (explaining) I think it might be a good idea if we... (prescribing)... so today, building on what we had discussed, lets... (actioning) 3

4 Exercise: First Contact Part One Instructions: 1. You will split into groups of 3 2. There will be 3 rounds lasting 10 minutes each 3. During each round, a every group member will participate in 1 of 3 roles: coach, client, observer 4. In the first 5 minutes the coach conducts an initial consult with the client. 5. The client reads their avatar handout and embodies that character 6. The observer s job is to time the 5 minutes on the clock, make notes about their observations of the session in action, and to let the coach and client know when the 5 minutes is up 7. When the consult is complete, the observer will spend the next 2-3 minutes sharing their noticings Rules of engagement: This is an opportunity to practice, play, share and learn No judgements Have fun with it AIM: Appreciate everything that goes on in a consult from different perspectives: Coach s perspective Client s perspective Observer s perspective Get a first hand touch at the consult process what are your noticings? Understand how to be inauthentic in your role playing and how YOU and the COACH respond to being inauthentic Application: 1. Be prepared for anyone and anything detach, lack judgment, listen 2. In your 1 st few conversations, ask the question of yourself afterwards: Did my thoughts and ideas change as the conversation went on..? Did I change based on the unfolding of the conversation..? Did I change based on the client in front of me? 4

5 Client Priorities AIM: Understand what drives behavior Learn how to communicate with anyone and how to connect with them Learn how to set congruent goals that set clients up for success Priority Action Void Perception Application: 1. Ask yourself the 7 priority questions. 2. Start to notice what your clients top priorities are. 3. Practice linking your clients priorities to their physical health. 4. Have clients set realistic goals that are in line with their priorities. 5

6 Priorities Put yourself in other people s shoes and imagine what your experience would be like if you were walking through a shopping mall given a different set of priorities. Top Priority What might this person perceive in the mall? What types of decisions might this person make in a mall? What types of behaviors will this lead to? Children Business Nice Home

7 Exercise: Determining Your Priorities 1. What do you consider to be your personal space and what is common to all those spaces? 2. You have 24-hours in a day, besides sleep, how do you spend your time? 3. What are you doing when you feel most energized and alive? 4. Where are you most organized? 5. What engages you and captures your attention and focus the most? 6. What goals have you set that show signs they are coming true? 7. What do you love talking to other people about? 7

8 Exercise: Summarizing Your Priorities Summary of Priorities Hierarchy of Priorities 10. 8

9 Exercise: Goal Setting Instructions: You have a client who has broken their leg and they want to be able to squat again This is all the info you get Brain storm: write down as many things that you can think of in order to help this client reach their goal You have 5 mins Don t stop writing 9

10 Goal Setting (cont d) AIM: Create a framework that allows the coach to use daily as a tool for mapping out goals Allow the coach to develop honest, authentic prescriptions for the client Create a path of next steps by laying out the things required in a step by step approach to realize the Goal Application: 1. Draw up your own version of the Goal Setting continuum and create multiple copies to have in front of you. This is the one tool that over and over is a solid go to that you should have handy 10

11 Masculine-Feminine Spectrum AIM: Recognize that fundamental differences can affect the way in which we coach clients. Understand that this is a spectrum. Acknowledge that each person is unique and that is a powerful way to upgrade your prescription. Masculine-Feminine Dynamics Masculine Coach Masculine Client Feminine Client Feminine Coach Application: 1. Next time you are in a one-on-one discussion with a client, notice where they sit on the spectrum in that moment. 2. Now notice yourself as a coach in that same moment. Where are you sittinng on the spectrum in that moment? 11

12 Masculine-Feminine Spectrum: Traits Trait Masculine Feminine Perception Problems, function, and challenge Emotions, feelings, sensitivity and intuition Focus Modal One thing at a time When on task, it s his whole world Multi-tasking Flexible Flows easily from one thing to another Directionality Goal oriented Fulfillment oriented Strength Confidence in direction in life. This confidence is an indicator of trust. To love, nurture, bring radiance to life Attracts people into their bodies and their hearts Top Priority Quest for freedom Relation and love Primary Fear Fear of failure Rejection and loss of love Vulnerability When talking about his vision OR lack When talking about her heart of it Living Live in their heads Live in their bodies Thoughts & Emotion Mechanical and Analytical Solution oriented What are you thinking? Wants clarity Silent, discriminating, penetrating Mind-focused. When stuck here they can get obsessive, rigid, one-dimensional and destructive. Predictable, unwavering Expressive and cyclical Emotion oriented What are you feeling? Can t answer in three words or less Wants emotions validated and understood Desires sensitivity to her feelings Tearful, excited, joyous Emotion-focused. When lost here, it can become addictive to coffee, chocolate, relationships, etc. b/c no self-discipline and direction. Wild and unpredictable 12

13 Masculine-Feminine Spectrum: Traits (cont d) Trait Masculine Feminine Growth Trust Culture and Life Challenge each other Compete, analyze and discuss Directive and directional Process internally Make judgments over time Builds trust To find purpose, disconnect from the everyday and then they integrate Disconnect is freedom Find their essence by way of the quest (walkabout) Most at home outside the daily grind of life Sport, projects, philosophy, ideas Support each other Nurture and encourage Deeply rooted Process externally Judgments are made on a momentto-moment basis. Only as good as your last action. They intuitively feel their place the world Disconnect is torture Find their essence in the fulfillment of life by magnifying love in relationships Most at home in the time and attention to details of life To-Do List 13

14 Exercise: Priorities/Masculine-Feminine Coaching Breakout Instrcutions: Avatar #1 1. Break out into small groups, making sure there are both males and females in the group. 2. Develop answers to the questions below each avatar keeping both priorities and the masculine-feminine spectrum in mind. You have a new female client, age 43. She s not married and has no children. She is incredibly excited to begin a new workout program. She is approximately 60lbs over weight and feels like she should be fitter. She confides that she has started and stopped numerous programs in the past and quit all of them, but this time is different. Her enthusiasm is incredible and you can hardly believe your luck that you have a client that seems this engaged. Her goal is to run a10k in 6 months. You notice that she beats herself up a lot for being out of shape, but her extremely positive attitude is infectious Think of 5 different questions you can ask her to create a dialogue and learn more about HER. Avatar #2 A successful 56-year-old businessman s wife has signed him up for training with you because she thinks he should be healthier. He is busy with his consulting business that he runs from home, but he travels often for work. He reluctantly agrees to meet and it s evidenced in his lack of enthusiasm at your first meeting. He is the sole provider for his wife who works part time. Together they have three young adult daughters who have all moved out of the house. His primary concern is his business and feeling a little bit better. He suffers from digestive problems but figures that is because of his age. He knows that his young and fit days are behind him, so he s not really sure what you can offer him. How would you link HIS top priorities with getting healthy and fit? 14

15 Exercise: Priorities/Masculine-Feminine Coaching Breakout (cont d) Avatar #3 You have a 27-year-old male athlete who used to play football in university and still wants to be competitive in something. He wants to go the Fittest on Earth competition, but life doesn t seem to fit with that as he has a full time desk job. He lays out his initial stats and you can see that there is a large room for improvement. He answers most questions about scheduling, requirements, etc... with of course, I can do that emphatically. He works hard, but is constantly re-injuring and is inconsistent in the training process. What are the questions you ask this person in relation to goals? Avatar #4 You have a 30-year-old female athlete who played competitive soccer her entire life. She suffered a knee injury a year ago and gained excess weight during her recovery due to bad food choices. She loves being active and her knee is all healed, but feels so out of shape and bad about her body now. Her metabolism isn t what it used to be and she realizes that she can t get away with eating whatever she wants. She has repeatedly tried to go all in low carb only to fall off the wagon each time and subsequently gain a little more weight. She still thinks of herself as an athlete but her physiology no longer reflects that and that reality is finally starting to get to her. But despite all of that, she just can t seem to turn it around. She has come to you for help. Where do you start the conversation with this female? 15

16 Best Worst Helper Exercise: Write down who you view as being your best and worst helpers, along with characteristics of why you chose that person in the table below. Best Helper: (name) Worst Helper: (name) Characteristics Characteristics Group discussion: What are other key characteristics of best/worst helpers? What else did you notice? AIM: Discover what you have learned about being a best/worst helper Realize that best worst helpers can result in similar ah-ha moments and forward momentum Application: 1. Within the 1st week back write a personal (hand written with a pen) letter to someone who helped you as a best helper (also because the worst helper would possibly be uncomfortable for some) indicate to them what they did exactly to deserve this gratitude letter 16

17 Trust AIM: Create an understanding of where you sit on a trust score Leave with a better understanding of where you need some work in regards to the 3 different areas: Caring Exercise: Reliability Competency Rank yourself in each of the three areas by placing an x on your perceived score, with 1=lowest and 10 = highest Competency Trust 1 Reliability Caring 17

18 Trust (cont d) Competency I have been directly coaching for 3 years and have worked with over 100 different people I have made it a goal and followed through of doing 4-6 different learning and development seminars per year I have an open mind when it comes to training/coaching/consulting and know my biases and weaknesses - i.e. I believe in all training/lifestyle and nutrition methods and accept that they might be applicable for the right person at the right time I read one book per month on training/lifestyle/coaching related material I am active in training, eating well and having balance in my life along with being someone my clients can look to as an example My clients reach their goals through the coaching that I have provided; there is no surprises on goals and outcomes I know what I am good at teaching and know what I am not capable of teaching and meet clients within this range of what I know I know what I know about coaching and ALSO know what I do not know about coaching I am willing to refer out when it s in the best interest of the client, as I know I cannot fix everything Caring I understand and use the principle of detached caring appropriately at the right times with the right dose As a coach I use the do no harm and safety as a primary and initial thought process in my coaching I have a balanced approach to knowing how clients are doing in their lives but have no judgment or investment to the extent that it affects me I show compassion alongside support BUT challenge clients at the right time without judgment I am authentic in my conversations/remarks and comments with clients - they know where I am coming from and how I feel about things, and do not use a false sense of interest in clients simply b/c they are the client The needs of my clients are not more important than my own? (I.e. I do not say yes to a 5AM client, despite a late night schedule?) My client s successes or failures do not play a role in how I feel about myself I have empathy for my clients highs and lows in life, without showing judgment or becoming overly invested. I am knowledgeable about my clients family, profession, and general life, with out being overly familiar. I don t let my life issues creep into the sessionunless there is a value to the client in sharing the experience. I am focused and present when engaging with my clients Reliability I cannot remember the last time I was late for a class/meeting/session/consult I follow through with statements and suggestions when I say I can do something for a client or group I can be there in a pinch when needed - understanding the balance b/t being there for them and being there all the time for them; I am accessible to clients - - Over time, clients are remarking how they know my ritual/routine/how I work - there are no surprises in store for my day to day 18

19 Triangle of Trust Breakout Instructions: 1. In new groups of four, practice ordering. 2. Use the professions we have given you below. 3. Order jobs from highest to lowest. 4. Assign one person in the group to write them all down to share with the class. Competency As a group, determine which position in a you would rank as the highest level of competency to the lowest level. Highest Lowest 6. Caring As a group, determine which position in you would rank as the highest level of caring to the lowest level. Highest Lowest 6. Reliability As a group, determing which you would rank as the highest level of reliability to the lowest level. Highest Lowest 6. 19

20 Exercise: First Contact Part Two Instructions: 1. You will split into groups of 3 2. There will be 3 rounds lasting 10 minutes each 3. During each round, a every group member will participate in 1 of 3 roles: coach, client, observer 4. In the first 5 minutes the coach conducts an initial consult with the client. 5. The client reads their avatar handout and embodies that character 6. The observer s job is to time the 5 minutes on the clock, make notes about their observations of the session in action, and to let the coach and client know when the 5 minutes is up 7. When the consult is complete, the observer will spend the next 2-3 minutes sharing their noticings Rules of engagement: This is an opportunity to practice, play, share and learn No judgements Have fun with it AIM: Take a second look now through a different lens of how you notice things within an initial consult Be able to have a firsthand try at some new levels of understanding about the consult what are you noticing? Create an awareness of just how many things are going on in the consult if we can only OPEN our eyes to see it Application: 1. After your first consult back, take notes AFTERWARDS with 2 headings: one for what you noticed about the CLIENT and one for what YOU noticed about YOU in the consult (i.e. I noticed that I get uncomfortable when people talk about that other gym and that other trainer... ) 20

21 Four Seasons of Learning AIM: Understand full spectrum action Create alignment between ideas and action and between understanding and intelligent design Tie in all other frameworks Conceptualizing Devising Four Seasons of Learning Reflecting Doing 21

22 Four Seasons of Learning Take the next five minutes write down your REFLECTIONS from this weekend. What were your biggest takeaways from the course? Please make note of any new CONCEPTS or ideas that you had throughout the weekend or that just popped into your head as you were writing your reflections: 22

23 Please choose a concept or idea and begin to DEVISE how you ll apply that going forward: 1: 2: 3: 4: When are you going to be DOING this? 23