Objectives: National Survey Adult AD/HD Virtual AD/HD Conference 1 ADHD UNDIAGNOSED& MISUNDERSTOOD

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1 The Coach-Approach To Empowering Adults with ADHD to Embrace their Signature Strengths Objectives: Discover why you need to take the time to find out what you do well, and what is truly important to you Identify your natural patterns of performance that lead to consistent success Define your key virtues and values (Signature Character Strengths) that make up the core essence of who you are Find out how to integrate your strengths into your daily life Virtual AD/HDConference, October 7, 2013 Presented By David Giwerc, MCAC, MCC, BCC Founder and President, ADD Coach Academy, Learn how to create a natural source of internal fuel to ignite your heart and head to become more productive ADHD UNDIAGNOSED& MISUNDERSTOOD 85 % of Adults with ADHD are undiagnosed. They don t understand their own ADHD and don t believe they possess any strengths or are capable of success. National Survey Adult AD/HD *Survey conducted by Harris Interactive on behalf of the Attention Deficit Disorder Association (ADDA) Was released in recognition of the first ever National Attention Deficit Disorder Awareness Day. Survey shed light on the importance of ADHD education. *Adult Experiences with ADHD, May 2004 prepared by Harris Interactive with the cooperation with Eli Lilly and the Attention Deficit Disorder Association What happens to Adults who don t understand their own ADHD? About four out of five adults with AD/HDbelieve that the disorder has held them back from: Diagnosis &Treatment: Reduce Adverse Life Events: (57 percent)of adults with AD/HD said their life has improved since being diagnosed. (87 percent) Achieving long-term (80 percent) Short-term goals (80 percent) Or pursuing their dreams Felt reliefin knowing what had been holding them back (75 percent) and (63 percent) felt better about themselves in general 2013 Virtual AD/HD Conference 1

2 The Brain is a magnet wired to attract problems and negativity. The Story You Pay Attention to Grows Remain attached like Velcro We want to become like Teflon It can CATALYZE or IMMOBILIZE you. Are you paying attention to a healthy or unhealthy story? Changing Your Story must begin with a of UNHEALTHY STORIES focused on what you can t do and focus on HEALTHY STORIES what your unique brain CAN DO!! Machine (Brain) ADHD Education: The Foundation for HEALTHY Story Mind (Beliefs) Mission (Being) The Machine (Your Brain) Unique Brain Wiring Trillions of options- Neuro-diverse beings Interest, Stimulation, Electrical Currents 2013 Virtual AD/HD Conference 2

3 The dominant thoughts you The RAS, Gatekeeper, lets the pay attention to create strongest charge through the gate. converted into brain chemicals **Executive Functions Significantly Affect ADHD Activation: Organizing, prioritizing to activate work get going-pausing Emotion: Managing frustration & modulating emotions-processing and Pinpointing support or impede your ability to function Focus: Focusing, sustaining and shifting attention to intention of tasks etc.-paying Attention Effort: Regulating alertness, sustaining effort and processing speed--processing Memory: Utilizing working memory & accessing recall- Pinpointing Action: Monitoring and self-regulating action Planning and Proliferating **Thomas Brown s Model of ADHD and David Giwerc s ADDCA model of Filtering *Executive Functions Significantly Affect ADHD Self Restraint Mind s Brakes- Pausing Self-Awareness Mind s Mirror- Paying attention Engaging in Visual Imagery Mind s Eye- Pinpointing Self-talk Mind s Voice- Processing Regulate Emotions- Mind s Heart-Processing and Pinpointing Manipulate Mental Information-Mind s playground-planning& Proliferating * Source for Six Executive Functions, 1) Russell Barclay, PhD, Taking Charge of Adult ADHD, ) David Giwerc, MCAC, MCC, Filtering Process, Permission to Proceed, The Keys to Creating a Life of Passion, Purpose and Possibility for Adults with ADHD. The Machine: ADHD Research - Key Finding: People with ADHD can't generate the same degree of enthusiasm as other people for activitiesthey don't automatically find appealing. **2009 nine year PET Scan study, Nora Volkow, NIDA, Brookhaven National Laboratory, Mount Sinai Medical Center 2013 Virtual AD/HD Conference 3

4 The Machine-- Research Researchers are calling ADHDan Interest Deficit. The Mind (Your Beliefs) Thoughts handed down to you personal contracts How do they serve you? Neuro-Plasticity How do they affect you? When will you challenge them? Mind: What do you usually pay attention to? The Mind: Beliefs, the Story s Fuel PESTS vs. PIGEONS Pressure Perfectionism Procrastination Problems Pessimism Presence Practical Progress Possibility Positivity Challenging Beliefs to Progress Challenging Strong Beliefs The Performance Paradigm perform based on limited, mandatory standards The Weakness Warrior fight to make your weakness stronger to climb the ladder The SpeedTrap perception is enhanced by the trap of speedy response & actions The Success Syndrome Your performance is standard for success Misguided Belief You can be anything you want to be if you just try hard enough. Especially in your weakest areas Revised Perspective You cannot be anything you want to be but.. You can be allot more of who you already are 2013 Virtual AD/HD Conference 4

5 Most Organizations Focus on Weakness Gallup (2007) has surveyed more than 10 million people on employee engagementor how positive and productive people are at work. What percentage of employees strongly agree they have an opportunity to do what they do best, to use their strengths every day? Only 1/3 strongly agree with the above statement. The longer an employee stays with an organization & the higher he climbs the traditional career ladder, the less likely he is to strongly agree he is playing to his strengths. *Gallup Poll measurement of Parent Performance Focus1 Country Focused on A s UK 22% Japan 18 China 8 France 7 U.S. 7 Canada 6 Focused on F s 52% *How Full Is Your Bucket, Tom Rath, Donald O. Clifton, 2004, Gallup organization Weakness is Culturally Pervasive and Wreaks Havoc on ADHD Dominant focus on Weaknesses which many people with ADHD and our institutions already hyper focus on. Focusing on making weaknesses stronger doesn t support the ADHD brain with success. Focusing on making your STRENGHTS stronger supports consistent success ADHD is a DEFICIT of INTEREST and ENGAGEMENT with a Dominant focus on Weaknesses which impairs executive functions and prevents progress. For those who do NOT get to focus on their Strengths, the Costs are STAGGERING ADD Coach Academy, LLC Mind: Your Dominant, Unconscious Thoughts Can Create Reactive Patterns which: Machine and Mind: Path of Emotional Intelligence PFC- I think rationally Limbic System Limbic System emotions- I feel I feel here Immobilize your ability to move forward Catalyze you to climb to great heights Spinal Cord Enters brain Spinal here Cord 2013 Virtual AD/HD Conference 5

6 Mind: Pause, to pay attention to what you are paying attention to. Mind s new story: I have a Unique Brain Wiring. What You Pay Attention to Grows. Self-Compassion: Adults with ADHD have both strengths and weaknesses. They need to embrace and integrate them daily. The Mission (Your Being) Starts with Identifying Strengths, positive emotions What s aligned and important to Who you are? Refocus Your Story Towards Strength Self Reflection is essential for transforming and cultivating strengths. Carl Honore Cultivating Strengths begins with the pause created through the dialogue and active listening of the coaching process. When WHO you are is aligned with WHAT you do= INTEGRITY Momentum Self-Reflection requires two key executive functions an ability to pause(self-regulation) and pay attention to what you are paying attention (Self Awareness). Identify and Integrate Your Unique Talents to Build Strengths If You Use Your Strengths at Work Talents, brain s natural recurring patterns of success Talents only become strengths through additional skills, knowledge, experience and repetition. Strengths activate, energize, empower action and build selfconfidence. ~*6X as likely to be engaged in your job ~*3Xas likely to report having an excellent quality of life overall I Neuro-plasticity: Action and experience impact the architecture *Gallup Organization, engagement research, Virtual AD/HD Conference 6

7 Research: Managers Focus on Employees Paying Attention to Cultivating Habits of the Heart If your manager primarily: The chances of your being actively disengaged are: Ignores You Focuses on your Weaknesses Focuses on your Strengths Gallup Organization, engagement research, % 22% 1% WHAT: Doing Performance Head Reputation Beliefs Temporary WHO: Being Presence Heart Character Knowing Permanent Identifying and Cultivating Unique Strengths ADHD Strengths: Unique Differences Context chart with POSITIVITY: ADHD Coaching Skills Processing Styles External Support ADHD Coaching Instinctive Roles: WHO/Interest Standout assessment Strength Types Superfast Learning Satisfaction Excellence Consistency & Confidence Yearning Character Strengths (WHO) VIA survey- Building Blocks Performance Strengths Finder (WHAT): Talents potential to develop strengths Strengths Finder Based on a 40-year study of human strengths, Gallup created a language of 34 most common talents Developed Clifton Strengths Finder assessment to help people discover and describe these talents. Gallup surveyed over 10 million people on employee engagement or how positive/ productive people are at work. VIA Survey: Identifies Signature Character Strengths Research shows the more you use your signature strengths the better the wellbeing Happy People Cultivate Strengths Creating a Language of Strengths VIA developed survey to measure character strengths Taken world wide by over 2 million people VIA Strengths transcend culture remarkably similar across 54 nations including the United States. Strengths are unique to each person 2013 Virtual AD/HD Conference 7

8 VIA Classification of Character Strengths Virtues Wisdom and Knowledge Creativity Curiosity Judgment & Open-Mindedness Love of Learning Perspective Humanity Capacity to Love and Be Loved Kindness Social Intelligence Courage Bravery Perseverance Honesty Zest Justice Teamwork Fairness Leadership Temperance Forgiveness & Mercy Modesty & Humility Prudence Self-Regulation Transcendence Appreciation of Beauty & Excellence Gratitude Hope Humor Religiousness & Spirituality Standout Assessment: Your Natural Roles ~ Assessment measures how well you match to 9 Roles: 1) Stimulator 2) Connector 3 )Creator 4)Pioneer 5) Influencer 6) Equalizer 7) Advisor 8) Teacher 9) Provider ~It reveals your lead and secondary roles ~ These top two roles are the focal point of all your strengths and skills. ~ They are your instinctive way of making a difference in the world. Perceived Challenge 1) Distractibility (attention challenges) Inability to focus on mundane or boring but important tasks 2) Mental Restlessness (Hyperactivity) Excess energy has nowhere to goin boring, situations not engaged 3) Nonstop ideas/connections Preponderance of thoughts that occur.can t capture any of them while trying to focus on all of them Strengths Context 1) Find ways to make the mundane more interesting 2) Looking for new ideas that stimulate them to effectively use their excess energy 3) Idea machines. Make intuitive leaps and creative connections. Excellent brainstormers Identifying Processing Modes Visual Verbal Kinesthetic Auditory Tactile Conceptual Emotional- Intuitive Sustaining Understanding (Paying Attention) (Comprehending) 4) Procrastination: Delaying choices to take action with important goals, tasks, or projects 4) Very high standards and expectations. Able to take time to carefully analyze the situation and respond responsibly 5) Lack of impulse control (spending, blurting) Inability to modulate or manage reactions and emotions *White/Shaw,, Journal Personality and Individual Differences, ) Quick and spontaneous-*leads to creativity, Fast, genuine responses Crea vity is impulsivity gone right. Ned Hallowell, author of Driven to Distraction.--Willing risk takers Copyright, ADD Coach Academy, 2013 The Power of the Pause: Promotes mindfulness Helps identify strengths & success Coaching & Cultivating Your Objective, Inner Witness: Deep vs. Shallow Breathing Kind vs. Critical Improves Executive Functions and ability to access important memories Reduces impulsivitybetter choices Cultivates your inner witness Accepting vs. Non-judgmental Detached vs. Attached Embrace all of who you are including your strengths Acknowledging 4:1 ratio 2013 Virtual AD/HD Conference 8

9 Strengths Developmental Profile & Inventory, SDPI VIA Strengths Profile: Five Signature Character Strengths, comfortable and natural: 1) Creativity 2. Curiosity 3. Gratitude 4. Honesty 5. Fairness Strengths Finder 2.0: Identify areas where you have the greatest potential to develop strengths: 1) Activator 2) Maximizer 3) Ideation 4) Strategic 5) Positivity Standout Assessment: Two top roles focal point of your talents and skills: 1. Stimulator and 2. Connector ADHD Strengths Context: Distraction vs. Interest, Restlessness, Cognitive Hyperactivity Creative Brainstorming Processing Styles: Visual/Verbal/Kinesthetic ADHD Coaching & Filtering Questioning/Receiving PAUSE: STOP to objectively notice Questioning/Receiving/ Witnessing PAY ATTENTION to what you are paying attention to Witnessing /Filtering PROCESS Identify, name it without judging it. Witnessing/Reinventing PINPOINT a Prompt to remember a positive outcome Reinventing/Activating/ Filtering PURSUE action aligned with your objective head and passionate heart Activating/Filtering PRODUCE via action without any attachment. Embrace the results for growth. Metaphorically, Coaches develop and use three internal instruments The Microscope Magical Moments on the Mountain The Telescope- The Stethoscope- Revisiting, Savoring buried experience and associated positive emotions. Savoring the Positive Emotions and Experiences that shape our lives Vast emotional states other than: mad, glad, sad, surprised, and afraid--- Psychologist Barbara Fredrickson, in her book Positivity explains the 10 most common positive emotions- Focused of most of her researchfound these emotions most often shape peoples lives. Positive Emotions: Broaden and Build Broadenspeople s ideas for possible actions opening new awareness to more expansive and broader range of possibilities than the typical, traditional options. You build resources, assets and abilities for the future. Joy sparks the urge to be creative and play Interest sparks the urge to learn and explore Serenity sparks the urge to savor current surroundings and integrate them into anew view of ourselves and the world around us Virtual AD/HD Conference 9

10 Empowering Your Signature Strengths for a Better ADHD Future Coaching Magical Moments provides Intention for your Inner GPS: Past, Present, Possibility Prompts-- ADDentifier: Impulsivity Gulp vs. Sip Provides a strong positive context to activate the brain. Use prompts to stop barriers and access bridges to memory ADDentifier: Prompts: One shot at a time Attention Piece vs. Peace Prompts: Emotional Intelligence Memory Prompts One Domino Can Make Them all Fall Ladder that rests against a WALL is stronger than a straight ladder You can t do it all by yourself and flourish Choose your wall very carefully 2013 Virtual AD/HD Conference 10

11 I Live in a Castle and no one enters my drawbridge unless they: Respect who I am and what I stand for. Are supportive of me and I will reciprocate. The Desert Represents Total Freedom Total detachment and freedom from other peoples standards There are no limitations in the desert. No one owns the desert and everyone is free to act as they choose. The Last Five Minutes of the Day--INTENTION Before I go to bed I ask/answer one or both of these questions: 1) What three things I am grateful for? 2) What three good things happened today? After I have answered, one of the two above, I also choose a question to ponder: What do I hope for? What do I aspire to become? What dream is possible? What movie will I create? What song shall I sing? What game shall I play? What story shall I read or write? What empowering message can I convey? Who will I acknowledge/appreciate today? 2013 Virtual AD/HD Conference 11