PSYCHO-EDUCATIONAL TEACHING TOOLS

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1 PSYCHO-EDUCATIONAL TEACHING TOOLS FEBRUARY 21, 2013 The tools presented in this handout are all available to download at

2 Individuals vary in their learning styles 34% Auditory 29% visual 37% kinesthetic SMITH (IN TRUNER,T & FROST, T. 2005, 146) Expand your Psycho-Educational Toolkit When instructing or guiding students about healthy psychological principles use a variety of teaching tools, including tools that are kinesthetic and visual. Dialogue and discussions are powerful tools but they may not engage all learners. Expand your toolkit to include all styles of learning. Tell me and I'll forget; show me and I may remember; involve me and I'll understand. ~ Chinese proverb We will examine 4 types of tools: Tools for Self-Observation Tools for Self-Management Tools for Connection Tools for Self-Care

3 Tools for Self-Observation The Eye that Watches Make sure this is the eye of compassion, not the eye of judgement. Look with the eyes of the Highest Self Connectedness!! Calm!!! Courage! Curiosity Clarity! Creativity!! Compassion!! Confidence!! Ask judgement to step aside Change Your Questions, Change Your Life By: Marilee Adams Marilee Adams, Ph.D. Change Your Questions, Change Your Life Inquiry Institute: Adapted from The Art of the Question. Used by permission of John Wiley & Sons, Inc. Copyright &

4 Tools for Self-Observation FEELING LITERACY VALUES AND NEEDS GLAD happy excited hopeful joyful satisfied delighted encouraged grateful confident inspired relieved touched proud TIRED exhausted fatigue inert lethargic indifferent listless weary overwhelmed fidgety helpless heavy sleepy PEACEFUL tranquil calm content engrossed absorbed expansive serene loving blissful satisfaction relaxation SAD lonely heavy troubled helpless gloomy grief overwhelmed distant despondent discouraged distressed dismayed disheartened SCARED afraid fearful terrified startled nervous panicky jittery horrified anxious worried anguished lonely LOVING warm affectionate tender appreciative friendly sensitive compassionate grateful nurtured amorous trusting MAD angry aggravation exasperation irritation agitation furious enraged infuriated hostile bitter pessimistic resentful disgust CONFUSED frustration perplexed hesitant troubled uncomfortable torn withdrawn apathetic embarrassment hurt uneasy irritation PLAYFUL energetic effervescent invigorated zestful refreshed stimulated impish alive exuberant giddy adventurous COOPERATION agreement brainstorming feedback negotiation openness! fairness peace! harmony planning relationship respect! trust teamwork CREATIVITY alone"time beauty! joy focus! discipline inspiration originality productivity reassurance seclusion self"expression sense of aliveness INTEGRITY authenticity completeness honesty realness sincerity stability straightforwardness wholeness PLAY celebration child"likeness exercise exuberance free time joy! delight laughter! tears light heartedness playfulness AUTONOMY acceptance! respect authenticity choice! freedom confidence consideration dreams! goals! values independence self"governance CONTRIBUTION autonomy creativity freedom fulfillment joy! hope meaning productivity! progress APPRECIATION acknowledgment admiration adoration celebration mourning self"esteem reassurance recognition PHYSICAL BODY air #clean$ cleanliness clothing exercise! movement food health protection relaxation! rest safety sexual expression shelter #warm! cold$ touch water #clean$ well"being DEPENDABILITY communication congruence efficiency! planning honesty integrity order! documentation reliability security stability trust INTERDEPENDENCE belonging brotherhood community companionship connection cooperation friendship harmony inclusion intimacy kindred spirit relationship reassurance respect! trust sisterhood spiritual connection COMMUNICATION celebration clarity! feedback closeness! intimacy confidentiality connection diplomacy grieving reassurance requests respect safety! trust sharing!honesty to be heard! empathy together time understanding SAFETY communication confidentiality honesty! trust protection! security reliability sincerity NURTURING connection consideration empathy gentleness softness grieving kindness! comfort love! affection support! compassion tenderness to be cherished touch! warmth TEAMWORK clarity! honesty communication connection consideration cooperation flexibility harmony inclusion realistic goals reliability TIME FOR SELF balance! wholeness downtime empowerment free time! quiet time freedom! autonomy laughter! tears personal space self"nurturance spiritual communion tranquility copyright H! Holley Humphrey "##$ www!empathymagic!com %&& Rogue River Hwy! '"(&) Grants Pass) OR! #(*%( *+",-.%/%$+& copyright H% Holley Humphrey &''( www%empathymagic%com )** Rogue River Hwy% +&,*! Grants Pass! OR% ',-), -.&/01)")(.* Mood Chart Month Year None Mild Moderate Severe Emotional Irritability Anxiety Depression Mood Swings Physical Headaches Over Eating No Exercise Poor Sleep Environmental Caffeine Chocolate Alcohol Stress Rel. Conflict Menstrual Cycle

5 Tools for Self-Management Circle of Concern/Circle of Influence The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey Circle of Concern Circle of Concern Circle of Influence We all have a wide range of concerns - our health, family, work, global issues. These issues compose our Circle of Concern. Within this sphere of concern, it becomes apparent that we have control over some things and no real control over others. We could identify those concerns with which we experience some control as belonging to a separate group described as our Circle of Influence. By determining which of these two circles is the focus of most of our time and energy, we can discover much about our degree of proactivity. Circle of Influence Circle of Concern Circle of Influence Proactive people focus their efforts in the Circle of Influence. They work on things they can do something about. The nature of their energy is positive, enlarging, and magnifying, causing their Circle of Influence to increase. Reactive people focus their efforts in the Circle of Concern. They focus on the weaknesses of other people, the problems and circumstances over which they have no control. Reactive people's focus results in blaming and accusing attitudes,reactive language, and increased feelings of victimization. The negative energy generated by that focus, combined with neglect in areas they could do something about, causes their Circle of Influence to shrink. As long as we are working in our Circle of Concern, we empower the things within it to control us. Elsbeth Martindale, Psy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

6 Tools for Self-Management ROLF Filter #&-*&' Don t Let the Belief Through Unless it Meets These Four Criteria: 3&"-*45*$ t 08/&% t -*'& &/)"/$*/( t '-&9*#-& REALISTIC 08/&% -*'& &/)"/$*/( You are wonderful! You are beautiful enough, rich enough, and smart enough. You are free to choose who you want to be. '-&9*#-& Based on an assessment of positive versus negative consequences. Critically examined and makes sense to you. You choose it. Allows you to purse your needs without undue restriction. Allows for exceptions when situations warrant. If a belief does not pass through the ROLF filter, it is most likely the kind of belief that will bug and annoy you - don t let it in! If the belief fits through the ROLF filter it is most likely healthy and valuable to hold. Watch Your Filters Elsbeth Martindale, Psy. D.,

7 Tools for Self-Management Crisis Management In the midst of a crisis situation make it your goal to manage the situation from the very best in you. See the crisis as an opportunity to manage yourself at least one small step better than the last time. Here are some specific things to consider: 1) Don t do anything to make the situation worse! Moly Ivins says, The first rule of holes, when you re in one, stop digging. Make it your intention to avoid creating drama. Think before you act. 2) Attend to your body Eat regularly and healthfully. Avoid alcohol, sugar, and caffeine. Get enough sleep. Move your body daily (a natural antidepressant). Create physical comfort for yourself (e.g. a hot bath, massage, cup of tea, etc.). 3) Pay attention to your thoughts Check your thoughts to see if they can pass a ROLF filter - are your beliefs Realistic, Owned, Life-Enhancing, and Flexible? Focus on solutions. Only review the obstacles if you can also identify potential resolutions. Look at the future rather than retelling the story of how you got to where you are. Remember your skills, strengths, and intentions. 4) Reach out Surround yourself with supportive friends and family. Ask for support or help, don t wait for others to notice your distress. Use your faith and spiritual traditions to support you. 5) Step back Make time for reflecting, planning, and clarifying options. This may be a good time to take out your journal. Focus on yourself and how you wish to handle things - this is where your power lies. Don t waste your time thinking about what others have done or should do - you have no power there. Identify and commit to one small step each day. 6) Express yourself Listen to your feelings and find ways to express them sanely. If you have no one with whom to share your feelings use your journal. Elsbeth Martindale, Psy.D.,

8 Tools for Connection How to Spot a Bully Five Finger Communication Underlying NEEDS I have a need for... (Not: I need you to... ) Clear REQUEST Would you be willing to...? (Better than: Would you please...? ) Name FEELINGS I feel... (Not: I feel that... ) Point to the FACTS Avoid judgments & interpretations Stick with what is verifiable I saw... Name Overall ISSUE Ask for thumbs up to discuss the issue now I d like to talk about..., is this a good time? Elsbeth Martindale, Psy.D., 2007

9 Tools for Connection Things to Know Before You Say Go activity-book-things-to-know-before-you-say-go/

10 #1 Listen Is this similar to someone elseʼs voice? Who? Tools for Self-Care CRITIC CATCHER Notice Self-Criticism (often feeling bad is the first indication) I was saying #2 Challenge THOUGHTS Use a ROLF filter to examine the belief. Is the message: Realistic Owned Life-enhancing Flexible NEEDS What are the valid needs that underly this criticism? safety, connection, trust, success, respect, ease, play, nurturance, clarity, courage, empathy, accomplishment,,,, TONE What was the tone of the message? sarcastic, whiney, angry, rude, harsh, cold, playful, mean, unfriendly, challenging, and/or, Did the tone keep you engaged in discussion? yes/no Design a new way of speaking about the concerns and needs of the critic but say it with words that pass a ROLF filter and with a tone that keeps you engaged in the conversation. #3 Retrain The revised message sounds like this:. Say this message aloud. Show the critic how to speak with respect, like a caring friend might speak. Gently rubbing your own arm while you speak will release oxytocins (the bonding hormone) to help you feel compassion and connection with your self. Elsbeth Martindale, Psy.D., 2011 Restoration and Rejuvenation What Energizes My Life? Give Yourself a Hand Recent research by Barbara Fredrickson has shown that positive emotions have long term benefits in our lives. Aside from making us feel good at the moment, attending to positive emotions in a regular way brings beneficial side effects. The Broaden-and-Build Theory has been postulated, suggesting that positive emotions broaden an individual s momentary mindset, and by doing so help to build enduring personal resources. Barbara Fredrickson s research indicates several possible beneficial effects of positive emotions. She suggests that people who experience frequent positive feelings tend to: An experiment for you to try:: finger at each red light you encounter and give yourself a hand at feeling good. Ring Finger Recall a Time When You LOVED Deeply The Reverse Flip-Off Makes You Feel Good Making Art Watching Sports Time With Friends A Good Book Music Parties Being in Nature Exercise Good Food Playing Sports Reading the Newspaper Massage Viewing Art A Nap Time Alone Reservoir of Energy Personal Cup When can I tap in to what restores, rejuvenates, and fulfills me? What s my near future plan? Where Does My Energy Go? Is It Choiceful? Yes / No Yes / No Yes / No Yes / No Yes / No Elsbeth Martindale, Psy. D., 2008 Pinky Name a Little Something for Which You are GRATEFUL Point to Something Beautiful in NATURE Thumbs -Up Name Something You do or Have Done That You Feel PROUD About to understand why it s good to feel good. American Scientist Elsbeth Martindale, Psy. D., 2003 Affirmation Cards Mind Time Cards - affirmation cards for teens Love Yourself Cards cherylpage_cards.html