ON STRESS AND ANXIETY IN PROJECTS. Claudia Brandt, next level consulting SA

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1 ON STRESS AND ANXIETY IN PROJECTS Brandt, next level consulting SA

2 THE GOAL OF THIS TALK Understanding what stress and anxiety mean to different people and dealing with it in real life. Concentrating on the interpersonal space as a source of stress and anxiety. In this talk we will define anxiety as a heightened form of stress, our sense of discomfort and even fear. All of this is often felt in the body. Brandt, next level consulting SA 2

3 MY BASIC MODEL Dimensional Model of Behaviour by Robert E. Lefton and Victor R. Buzzotta This model uses a simplified approach. This makes it very useful as an everyday guide for dealing with people. I also work with the Enneagram and with Personality abc. Brandt, next level consulting SA 3

4 EXERCISE What triggers me into stress and anxiety? What does stress and anxiety look / feel like for me? Brandt, next level consulting SA 4

5 THE THREE CENTRES OF EXPRESSION Feeling Thinking Action 5

6 CELEBRITIES WITH A STRONG FEELING CENTRE: YELLOW 6

7 YELLOW - Feeling 7

8 YELLOW Belief: Being liked and needed and harmony are most important. When I am there for others I will be liked and I will be ok. Resulting Behaviour: friendly, warm, empathic, open, cooperative, helpful, tolerant, fair minded loving the good sides of life, routines, being with people, a relaxed and easygoing atmosphere acting from an intuitive grasp of situations and people strong connection to feelings Excellent communicator, good assessment of people Looks for win-win situations Evates conflict situations 8

9 CELEBRITIES WITH A STRONG THINKING CENTRE: BLUE 9

10 BLUE - Thinking 10

11 BLUE Belief: Safety and doing things right is most important. When I am careful and stay in the background I am unassailableand I will be safe. Resulting Behaviour: thoughtful, aloof, cautious, persevering, reliable, loyal loves a quiet, meaningful life, love of systems and values good at structure, plans, orderliness, makea sense of things acting rationally and only after having thought everything through objective, rational, logical thinker Makes own judgements also against popular beliefs Very observant 11

12 CELEBRITIES WITH A STRONG ACTION CENTRE: RED 12

13 RED - Action 13

14 RED Belief: Acknowledgement and respect are most important. When I am powerful and successful I will be seen and respected and I will be ok. Resulting Behaviour: energetic, passionate, driven, dominant loving an exciting life, love of challenges, grasping opportunity craving achievement and moving forward natural leader, inspires others acting in the moment, making quick decisions, improvising takes initiative and responsibility natural entrepreneur takes risks, has lots of courage 14

15 EXERCISE Please go into 6 groups of 3 to 4 people: Each group will discuss a colour combination: YELLOW BLUE BLUE - RED YELLOW RED Please discuss the following questions for your colour combination: Where do you see the friction between the colours that will cause stress and anxiety? What is needed from each colour to reduce stress and anxiety in the interpersonal space? Please summarise and report back to the full group. Brandt, next level consulting SA 15

16 DEALING WITH STRESS AND ANXIETY IN YELLOW Assisting YELLOW Empathise, take time to listen you do not need to solve the problem Offer affirmation, a friendly word, a comment Offer a clear structure and clear goals What YELLOW can offer: Anticipates and takes care of needs Offers empathy, can read the mood in the room Introduces routines and humour, relaxes others Mediates, finds win win situation The challenge for YELLOW: Be clear on your needs Stand up for yourself Find a buddy to vent and talk things through with Learn to say No Practice to be straight forward 16

17 DEALING WITH STRESS AND ANXIETY IN RED Assisting RED Be to the point, direct, confident even blunt Say what you have to say with conviction Take a stand, let the storm blow over Talk of solutions and don t stay with the problems Get going or get out of the way What RED has to offer: Confidence, certainty Finding an effective angle to tackle things Drive, enthusiasm Making decisions Challenge for RED: Learn to respect others, their feelings and thoughts. Keep passion in check vent outside the office Understand and respect your own limits Don t push yourself so hard Let others do their bit 17

18 DEALING WITH STRESS AND ANXIETY IN BLUE Assisting BLUE Give space and time leave the person alone in emotional situations Have clear agreements in place and adhere to them Assist in ending tasks What BLUE has to offer: Challenges for BLUE: Rational, objective thought Overview, bigger picture Keeping true to the goals and purpose of the team / project Thought-out scenarios and plans New angles and approaches Make sure you have enough me- time and enough time to think Be aware of your sense of purpose and be connected to it Look at the bigger picture to keep things in proportion Be more involved Learn to trust 18

19 EXPERIENCE X-MOMENTS CONSULTING ACADEMY SOLUTIONS