Couple: Ann S & John S PID Style: Strategic Thinker vs Cautious Thinker

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1 Personality ID - Building Stronger Marriages Comparison Report Couple: Ann S & John S PID Style: Strategic Thinker vs Cautious Thinker Comparison Report

2 Comparison Report St rat egic Thinker and Caut ious Thinker A key aspect in maximizing the success and growth of your relationship is the ability to understand the similarities and differences of your partner's natural traits and how you can complement each other and/or avoid conflict as you engage with each other and function as members in your families and as part of the community. This report provides information that will allow you to view your combined comparison report, Strategic Thinker and Cautious Thinker. Strategic Thinker and Cautious Thinker, in order to gain insights and understanding about your partner's viewpoints, areas in which you as partners are likely to see things similarly, as well as differently, will be highlighted. If Strategic Thinker and Cautious Thinker can understand and value each other's natural traits, the differences can actually become assets. When the differing perspectives are combined, one can see a more complete picture. Furthermore, an understanding of how each partner differ should enable them to improve team communication, anticipate areas of potential conflict, and enable them members to work together more productively. This report is based on a comparison of Strategic Thinker's and Cautious Thinker's Personality I.D. Profile results. The chart below provides a graphic display of the combined scores in the four dimensions of personality measured by the Personality I.D. Profile. This report reveals many similarities and differences in operating styles by presenting the strengths and struggles commonly associated with the couples profiles. In each section examine the strengths and struggles, then circle and initial the ones that most apply to each partner individually.. Comparison Chart: John S (St rat egic Thinker) and Ann S (Caut ious Thinker) Combined Team: Analyzer 1/5

3 Dimensions of Personalit y This report is based on four dimensions of personality. Each dimension has a continuum of behaviors associated with it as shown below. 1. Adapt ive Mid-range Direct ing 2. Reserved Mid-range Int eract ing 3. Object ive Mid-range Support ive 4. Unconvent ional Mid-range Conscient ious Dimension one: Adapt ive - Direct ing Pliable Conforming Passive Assertive Decisive Controlling Adaptive versus Directing. This dimension indicates a person's tendency to either follow another person's agenda or set a personal agenda. These different viewpoints can be very beneficial for both partners, Strategic Thinker and Cautious Thinker, if they can understand and appreciate how much their cooperation is needed to achieve common goals using their complementary strengths. Strategic Thinker and Cautious Thinker have almost opposite viewpoints in the Adaptive-Directing dimension and may react quite differently to the same situation. Cautious Thinker tends to have an Adaptive style and Strategic Thinker tends to have a Directive style. Shown below are some behaviors typical for these profiles. (The more the score moves to the extreme right or left of center, the more these typical behaviors normally will apply.) Circle and initial the strengths and struggles that most apply for both partners. Adapt ive St rengt hs is a loyal follower stays with the tried and proven speaks tactfully cooperates with others moves cautiously into new areas prefers to focus on one task at the time sees the practical for here and now Direct ing St rengt hs takes charge, establishes direction seeks measurable results speaks directly to an issue responds to challenges and choices is bold and confident prefers variety and many ongoing projects sees strategic and future potential Adapt ive St ruggles can be shy and unassertive tends to be passive rather than active hesitates to speak out may avoid taking charge tends to underestimate own abilities may agree, then regret or resent it may lack strategizing skill or vision Direct ing St ruggles can be demanding and pushy often is controlling without authority can demonstrate poor listening skills often overlooks others feelings neglects details and avoids routine tends to over-commit and forget promises underestimates work needed to achieve goals 2/5

4 Dimension two: Reserved - Interacting Modest Quiet Distant Outgoing Convincing Excitable Reserved versus Interacting. This dimension indicates a person's preference for either solitude and private time or extensive interaction with others. These two reserved profiles indicate that both team members may naturally avoid extensive social contact with strangers, as well as those who are too talkative. Both prefer to keep low profiles. Likewise, they probably will find it easy to respect each other's desire for uninterrupted quiet and work times. Because of their focus, they may see involvement with others as interruptions or distractions from their work priorities. 'Your reserved profiles indicate that both of you may naturally avoid extensive social contact with strangers, as well as those who are too talkative. Neither of you is likely to be overtly competitive for attention since, by nature, both of you prefer to keep low profiles. Likewise, you probably will find it easy to respect each other's desire for uninterrupted quiet and work times. Because of your focus, you may see involvement with others as interruptions or distractions from your "real" life. Since both of you tend to hold back when you are around others, it is important that you learn to open up and take social risks from time to time. Each should look for opportunities to share humor in order to lighten up important family relationships. If your responsibilites require extensive social interaction, try delegating some of them to others who are more outgoing. When you find yourselves in situations that require a great deal of interaction, make sure to schedule some quiet, isolated time to recharge. Typical strengths and struggles for Strategic Thinker and Cautious Thinker are shown below under the Reserved column. Circle and initial the strengths and struggles that most apply for each person. Reserved St rengt hs task-oriented serious and modest realistic and practical has a dry sense of humor good at follow-through and responsibilities appreciates and focuses on fine points seeks closure and reconciles details Int eract ing St rengt hs makes friends easily, people-oriented is lighthearted and enthusiastic is optimistic and cheerful enjoys being in the spotlight is good at promoting strives to make a good impression likes open-ended, spontaneous situations Reserved St ruggles may appear withdrawn and cold sometimes shy or unresponsive tends to be pessimistic and critical can be curt and abrupt may be quietly self-righteous or judgmental may appear secretive or skeptical de-energized by social contact Int eract ing St ruggles depends on the approval of others may be too talkative can be overly optimistic and naive likes to show off for attention tends to brag and exaggerate may be too uninhibited and open with others dislikes working alone, but is easily distracted Dimension t hree: Object ive - Support ive 3/5

5 Questioning Impatient Critical Harmonious Patient Lenient Objective versus Supportive. This dimension indicates a person's natural motivation to be either cool and objective or warm and compassionate. As you probably know from experience, you tend to think and act differently in the areas of patience, pace, and willingness to either confront or support. Strategic Thinker, it will be important that you work toward becoming more sensitive when you communicate with Cautious Thinker. And likewise, Cautious Thinker, it is important that you become a little less sensitive to the way things are said. By discussing, accepting, and even treating your differences in a lighthearted way, you will be able to grow and mature as a couple. It helps to remember that people generally do things for themselves, rather than against someone else. Strategic Thinker and Cautious Thinker likely will operate quite differently in this dimension. Strategic Thinker's style is naturally Objective and Cautious Thinker tends to be much more Supportive. Typical areas of strength and struggle are shown below. Circle and initial the strengths and struggles that most apply for each partner. Object ive St rengt hs operates well in conflicts or disagreements tends to be objective and cool makes difficult judgments and decisions responds quickly without hesitation operates at a fast pace prefers and promotes change favors logic over emotion Suport ive St rengt hs encourages and enlists cooperation is compassionate, welcoming and warm is engaging, a good listener is patient, willing to wait operates at a steady, measured pace supports customs and traditions demonstrates empathy Object ive St ruggles may be combative or confrontational often is tactless or abrupt can be critical and jump to conclusions may be too impatient tends toward hyperactivity is prone to be restless and discontent tends to be bottom-line, results-oriented Suport ive St ruggles may compromise too much tends to stuff feelings, unwilling to confront trusts too easily, can be manipulated by others usually resists change, clings to status quo tends to be passive and uncommitted tends to be complacent rather than proactive can become possessive when taken for granted Dimension four: Unconvent ional - Conscient ious Instinctive Improvised Unorganized Detailed Precise Perfectionist Unconventional versus Conscientious. This dimension reflects a tendency to be either spontaneous and 4/5

6 instinctive or to be prepared and structured. Strategic Thinker and Cautious Thinker share a Conscientious viewpoint. Both of you pay attention to details, are concerned about accuracy, and like to be in projects where there is organization and structure. Your natural inclination is to be analytical, and both of you like to ask the question, "Why?" Both of you want very much to be right and usually want more information before making a decision. Postponing decisions because you feel you do not have all the necessary information may occur regularly and this may frustrate other family members and even have a impact in your work situation. In general, the similar viewpoints regarding organization and details will facilitate a good relationship development between these two partners. On the other hand, they may need to add a counterbalancing perspective from more spontaneous individuals or family members. Because each of these Conscientious partners sharing a strong desire to be right, mutual respect will help them avoid conflict. Your Conscientious viewpoints are shown below. Circle and initial those that most apply to each of you. Unconvent ional St rengt hs is flexible and versatile understands broad concepts can improve without procedures follows instincts, operates spontaneously makes on-the-spot decisions can adjust methods to meet time-frames responds candidly and succinctly Conscient ious St rengt hs is organized and scheduled is attentive to details follows established procedures is systematic, prepared, and consistent analyzes thoughtfully before deciding conducts research to determine facts responds accurately and diplomatically Unconvent ional St ruggles is not naturally organized often is careless or imprecise may ignore rules is unprepared and overly confident takes arbitrary and impulsive action skips over important details is too informal when formality is needed Conscient ious St ruggles tends to be rigid and inflexible may be too picky is too reliant on rules may over-prepare but lack confidence paralysis of analysis may prevent progress may focus on details and miss the goal may be too rigid or formal Working Toget her Strategic Thinker and Cautious Thinker the purpose of this information is to assist you to better understand and effectively manage expectations of a partner/spouse and improve relationships with all members of the family. Mutual respect and understanding leads to trust which is the foundation for any relationship. The best teams and marriages are formed by bringing together a diverse mixture of talents and styles. Maintaining respect as a basis for trust requires that we appreciate the strength of others while we support them in areas of struggle. When relating to others, remember the wisdom of St. Francis of Assisi seek first to understand others, and then, seek to be understood (paraphrased). 5/5