Transforming Lives One Emotion At A Time

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1 Transforming Lives One Emotion At A Time

2 Be for the Child This morning I want to explore how emotional intelligence (EQ) can assist you to Be your best for your children

3 Emotions are Transformative Emotions are strong predictors of health, performance and well-being. They motivate us, they give us a sense of fulfillment and failure and what is right and wrong. They influence how we make decisions. And they are the foundation of healthy relationships. We can achieve these benefits by befriending our emotions and learning to use them as allies to help us understand, manage and use our emotions to create a life well lived.

4 20% of success in life is a function of IQ and 80% is related to EQ ~ Daniel Goleman

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6 What was she/he thinking? What was she/he feeling?

7 Emotional Intelligence - EQ The ability to recognize, understand and manage our emotions and to recognize, understand and influence the emotions of others. Being smart with our feelings. More aware. More intentional. More purposeful.

8 EQ-In Action Step 1: What am I feeling? Step 2: What options do I have? Step 3: What s my empathic and principled choice?

9 Emotions Are Chemical Messengers Peptides

10 Emotions are Chemical Messengers Basic Messages Happiness... I ve gained something of value Surprise..... Something unexpected is happening Joy A sense of well-being and good fortune Awe A sense of wonder and reverence Trust A sense of acceptance and caring

11 Emotions Give Meaning to Our Experiences and Lives

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13 Basic Messages Sadness.... I ve lost something of value Anger My way is blocked Fear I sense a threat Disgust..... My rules/norms are violated Sorrow..... A sense of loss, disappointment or misfortune

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15 Emotions Universal: everyone experiences emotions Purpose: all emotions serve a purpose Functional: emotions help us understand our experiences Influence and motivate thinking and behavior Effect our physical, psychological and emotional wellbeing: immune system, heart disease, depression Emotions are infectious and contagious Emotions are source of energy

16 Evolutionary Theory of Emotions Plutchik s Wheel of Emotions

17 Intensity High Anger Fear Jealousy Disgust Passionate Excited Joyful Enthused Low Frustrated Bored Annoyed Depressed Calm Satisfied Relaxed Trust Pleasant-ness

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19 EQ-In Action Step 1: What am I feeling? Step 2: What options do I have? Step 3: What s my empathic and principled choice?

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21 Validate Explore Transform Validate the emotion/feeling: self and child Explore why might I be feeling or experiencing this emotion Transform what emotion feeling will assist me in meeting my goal

22 What do I want-what is my goal Review the incident or event F T A When I feel, I Costs Benefits Conclusions

23 Our feelings are our most genuine paths to knowledge. Audré Lorde

24 Never ignore that feeling inside. Always trust that feeling inside

25 Take Care, Give Care & Be Present & Take it One Emotion at a Time Thank You

26 Awaking, Inspiring and Empowering Human Potential for a Just and Safe World Tom Wojick twojick@verizon.net

27 Resources 6 Seconds Videos: The Adolescent Brain [ She Sings For Her Dying Dad... Don't Cry _(.mp4 Daniel Goleman