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1 Subscribe to The Al-Anoncer The Al-Anoncer is available at no cost by subscription and for download from our website ( To subscribe to the edition, just send an to (see pages 1, 3 and 7). If your meeting is interested in placing an ad, please see page 12 for the ad policy. Ad submission deadline is the 15th of the month. Don t forget to print out a copy or two for your meetings. LA Intergroup Chairperson s Message Tradition Six: Our Family Groups ought never endorse, finance or lend our name to any outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property and prestige divert us from our primary spiritual aim. Although a separate entity, we should always co-operate with Alcoholics Anonymous. This is actually quite brilliant. It protects my groups from outside influences and social trends so that they remain true to Tradition 5: Each Al-Anon Family Group has but one purpose: to help families of alcoholics I find it uniquely comforting and reassuring that when I walk into any Al-Anon meeting, the members are only there to help each other recover from the effects of alcoholism. I have confidence that my groups will not expend effort and resources to influence anything beyond the scope of the Program. I also trust that they are not a vulnerable target for outside influences. I am confident that they will remain true to the cause. How refreshing this is in an era of hidden agendas, where I need to carefully read the latest privacy policy from businesses and even my own government. Opposing political ads send messages that perfectly contradict each other. They cannot both be true. What am I risking if I don t study every detail? The Steps and Traditions do not contain asterisks and end with fine print. They are simple and straightforward guidelines for living that mean exactly what they say. I sometimes muse about how much more open and honest all relationships (person to person, organization to organization, nation to nation) would be if they practiced this simple principle. Tradition 6 has impacted my recovery by providing a blanket of protection that keeps me safe and focused without being subjected to conflicting messages. I hear only the experience, strength, and hope that other members express regarding their recoveries. On another note, don t forget to check online and/or in this Al-Anoncer for the Timeline and Nomination forms for our upcoming elections. Also look online ( for any updates to the proposed By-Law changes. Yours in Service, Bob B Los Angeles Intergroup Chair Subscribe To subscribe just send an to LA.Alanoncer@gmail.com Contents: Contents: Intergroup Representative Meeting & Service Board Meeting and Service Board Meeting Information Page 2 Information Service Office Contact Information, Volunteer Contact Acknowledgements Information, and Volunteer Group Contributions Acknowledgements & Group Page 3 Contributions Page Election 3 Timeline and Forms Pages 4 and 5 April Financial Reports Pages 46 thru 97 Meeting Updates Page 5 9 June Calendar thru September of Events 2018 June Page thru 10 October Page 8 Pages 11 Ask-It Basket Questions Page 912 Ad Policy Page 12 Page 9 and Service More Board Nomination Form Page 15 and Timeline Pages 12 & 13 Intergroup Representative Information Service Office Service Bord Nomination and April Financial Reports Meeting Updates Calendar of Events Oldest Meetings Ask-It Basket Question Ad Policy Al-Anon Slogans, Acronyms New Al-Anon Pamphlet! Page 22 Volume Sixty Six, Number Six June 2018

2 Intergroup & Service Board Experience personal growth through service Have questions or comments? Contact your Service Board any time! Chairperson:... Bob B.... Vice Chair:... Pyre... Ex-Officio:... Nichole S.... Secretary:... Joyce A.... Treasurer:... Pat O.... Alateen Chair:... Jida S.... Institutions Chair:... Sandra W.... Institutions Co-Chair:... OPEN... Public Information Chair:... Mykel M.... Al-Anoncer Chair:... OPEN... Al-Anoncer Co-Chair:... OPEN Al-Anoncer Volunteer:... Larry H.... Historian:... OPEN... Nominations:... Tiffiany T... Program Chair:... Carla E.... Program Co-Chair:... OPEN... Information Service Office:... Dodi... Bylaws Chair:... Natalie T.... 3rd Friday of ODD Months January, March, May, July, September and November Intergroup Meeting Information Next Intergroup Representative Meeting Date: Friday, July 20, 2018 Time: Intergroup Representative Meeting 8:00PM to 9:30PM New Intergroup Representative Orientation 7:30PM Location: Glendale 1st United Methodist Church, 134 N. Kenwood St., Glendale, CA Service Board Meeting Information 4th Saturday of EVEN Months February, April, June, August, October and (December 8th, 2018) Next Service Board Meeting Date: Saturday, June 23, 2018 Time: 9:30AM to 12:30PM Location: Information Service Office 4936 Lankershim Blvd., North Hollywood, CA Page 2

3 Information Service Office For it is in Giving that we Receive HOURS and CONTACT INFORMATION Tuesday thru Friday Saturday 10AM - 5PM 10AM - 2PM Literature Sales Saturday 10AM - 4:30PM 10AM - 1:30PM Address: 4936 Lankershim Blvd North Hollywood, CA Phone: centraloffice@alanonla.org Web Site: FAX: Information Service Office Activity April th Step calls: 10 Referrals: 25 Service calls: 148 Help finding meetings: 88 Total Calls: 271 Special Thanks to these 5 Al-Anon members who answered phones and helped Newcomers for 23.5 hours: Bob B., David S., Janet R., Linda G., and Tim K. April 2018 Group Contributions Brentwood Sat 9:00AM Parent Burbank Sat 10:00AM Covina Sat 10:00AM Covina Wed 7:00PM Encino Mon 7:30PM Gardena Sat 10:00AM Glendora Thu 6:30PM Hermosa Beach Wed 7:00AM Women Hollywood Tue 12:00PM Intergroup Meeting/AISLA La Canada Mon 5:30PM La Canada Mon 7:30PM La Canada Sat 10:30AM Parent La Canada Thu 12:30PM Los Angeles Sat 10:00AM Los Feliz... 1, Los Angeles Sat 12:30PM Silverlake Los Angeles Tue 7:00PM Parent Los Angeles Wed 7:30AM Monrovia Tue 7:00PM Montrose Sat 9:00AM North Hollywood Thu 8:15AM Northridge Fri 12:30PM Northridge Mon 7:00PM Northridge Tue 10:00AM Palmdale Tue 12:00PM Palos Verdes Estates Thu 7:30PM Parent Personal Rancho Palos Verdes Wed 10:00AM Redondo Beach Sat 4:30PM Parent Rolling Hills Estates Mon 10:00AM San Gabriel Mon 11:00AM San Gabriel Tue 7:30PM San Pedro Mon 8:00PM Sherman Oaks Fri 8:00PM Women Sierra Madre Wed 6:00PM Studio City Mon 12:00PM Studio City Sun 4:30PM Women Studio City Sun 5:00PM Torrance Mon 7:30PM Torrance Sat 9:00AM Torrance Thu 10:00AM West Covina Tues 7:30PM Men Westwood Sat 12:00PM Westwood Wed 7:30PM Whittier Sat 9:00AM Whittier Tue 7:00PM Whittier Wed 7:00PM Many thanks for your valuable contributions. They are essential for keeping the office open. Subscribe To subscribe just send an to LA.Alanoncer@gmail.com Page 3

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9 Financial Report April 2018 Al-Anon Group Meeting Updates (Since last Directory printing Spring 2018) NEW MEETING West Hollywood Recovery Center Friday 8:00 AM 626 N. Robertson Blvd. West Hollywood MOVED MEETING West LA Saturday 8:45 AM Matrix-Clare Foundation 1334 Lincoln Blvd, NEW MEETING West Hollywood Recovery Center Sunday 4:00 PM 626 N. Robertson Blvd. West Hollywood MOVED MEETING Farsi speaking meeting Old: 8:00 PM Encino New: Monday 7:30 PM 5619 Lindley Ave. Tarzana Page 9

10 June June/July/August August/September June Friday 8th The Chelsea Group 63rd Anniversary Potluck Dinner Mt. Olive Church 7:00 PM (See Ad page 23) Santa Monica Saturday 9th District 54 Alathon Bay Cities Community Church, 9:00 AM to 4:00 PM (See Ad page 20) Lomita Saturday 9th 1st Annual Alathon Stepping Stones Alano Club, 7:30 AM (See Ad page 17) Newhall Monday 11th 2018 Foothill Roundup Planning Committee Windsor Club, 7:00 PM (See Ad page 20) Glendale Tuesday 12th San Fernando Valley AA Convention Committee Meeting New Horizon Church 6:45 PM (See Ad page 20) Reseda Saturday 16th 2018 Alathon, District 33 Al-Anon Family Groups Freedom, Hope & Joy Through the Steps! From: 8:45 AM until 5:00 PM (See Ad page 19) Glendora Monday 18th 45th Anniversary New Way of Life Meeting New Way of Life Church 7:30 PM (See Ad page 21) Artesia Saturday 23rd Al-Anon Public Outreach Workshop Hosted by: SCWS and District 57 St. Timothy s 9:30 AM to 1:30 PM Lakewood Saturday 23rd L.A. Intergroup Service Board Meeting 9:30 AM to 12:30 PM Information Service Office 4936 Lankershim Blvd. North Hollywood Saturday 23rd 34th South Bay Roundup Fundraiser St. John Fisher Church Dinner at 5:30 PM (See Ad page 16) Rancho Palos Verdes Sunday 24th 67th Annual Southern California AA Convention with Al-Anon Participation Planning Meeting Alano Club 1:00 PM (See Ad page 20) Covina Saturday 30th Al-Anon Public Outreach Workshop Hosted by: SCWS and District 27 Roxbury Community Center 9:30 AM to 1:30 PM (See Ad page 9) Beverly Hills July Sunday 8th 67th Annual Southern California AA Convention with Al-Anon Participation Planning Meeting Hotel walk thru (See Ad page 20) Covina Monday 9th 2018 Foothill Roundup Planning Committee Windsor Club, 7:00 PM (See Ad page 20) Glendale Tuesday 10th San Fernando Valley AA Convention Committee Meeting New Horizon Church 6:45 PM (See Ad page 20) Reseda Wednesday 18th Al-Anon Speaker Meeting Westminster Presbyterian 6:45 PM to 8:30 PM (See Ad page 17) Pasadena Friday 20th Intergroup Representative Meeting 8:00 PM 9:30 PM (New Intergroup Representative Orientation 7:30 PM) Glendale First United Methodist Church Glendale August Friday 3rd thru Sunday 5th 26th Annual Foothill Roundup with AA and Alateen Participation Willing to go to any length Flintridge Preparatory School La Canada Flintridge Sunday 12th 67th Annual Southern California AA Convention with Al-Anon Participation Planning Meeting Alano Club, 1:00 PM (See Ad page 20) Covina Tuesday 14th San Fernando Valley AA Convention Committee Meeting New Horizon Church 6:45 PM (See Ad page 20) Reseda Saturday 18th Al-Anon is Hosting a Panel Birch Alano Club 8:00 AM to 9:45 AM (See Ad page 16) Hawthorne Saturday 25th L.A. Intergroup Service Board Meeting 9:30 AM to 12:30 PM Information Service Office 4936 Lankershim Blvd. North Hollywood Friday August 31 thru Monday September 3rd 34th Southbay Family Roundup Torrance Marriott South Bay (See Ad page 16) Torrance September Friday September 7 thru Sunday September 9th 40th Annual Ventura County AA Convention Westlake Hyatt Resort (See Ad page 18) Westlake Village Sunday 9th 67th Annual Southern California AA Convention with Al-Anon Participation Planning Meeting Alano Club, 1:00 PM (See Ad page 20) Covina Tuesday 11th San Fernando Valley AA Convention Committee Meeting New Horizon Church 6:45 PM (See Ad page 20) Reseda Friday 21th Intergroup Representative Meeting 8:00 PM 9:30 PM (New Intergroup Representative Orientation 7:30 PM) Glendale First United Methodist Church Glendale Saturday 22nd 67th Annual Southern California AA Convention Al-Anon Luncheon Speaker Westin Mission Hills Resort (See Ad page 13) Rancho Mirage Page 10

11 Help Us Out We re searching for the oldest continuously operating meetings in the Greater Los Angeles area. If you know of a meeting that has been around for 30 years or more, please send the meeting info to La.Alanoncer@gmail.com. So far we ve found: Los Angeles, St. James Church Tuesday 8 PM... est Santa Monica, The Chelsea Group 8:00 PM... est Lynwood, Wednesday Noon... est Glendale Windsor Club Friday 8:30 PM... est La Canada Monday 7:30 PM... est Burbank, Little White Chapel Tuesday 7:30 PM... est Burbank Tuesday 7:30 PM... est West Covina Tuesday Night Men's Stag... est La Canada Step Study Thursday 12:30 PM... est Northridge Friday 12:30 PM... est Lancaster at 30th Street and Ave. L-8 Monday 7:00 PM... est Reseda Meeting Hall Wednesday 12:00 PM Newcomers... est Reseda Meeting Hall Thursday 12:00 PM Adult Child Lit.... est Reseda Meeting Hall Saturday 8:00 PM Candelight... est Artesia, The New Way of Life AFG Monday... est Pasadena Sunday 7:30 PM (formerly at St. Luke s Hospital) est Covina Wednesday 7:00 PM Step Study... est Reseda Meeting Hall 12:30 PM Sunday Open Discussion... est Ladera Heights Friday 8 PM... est Reseda Meeting Hall Monday 12:00 PM Literature Study... est Covina Sunday 10:00 AM Spiritual Meeting... est Northridge Tuesday 10 AM... est San Gabriel Tuesday Night (Roses Road)... est Glendale Tues. 7:45 PM Salem Lutheran Church... est Temple City Tuesday Morning... est Montrose Church, Montrose Tuesday 7:30 PM... est Torrance Monday 7:30 PM... est Woodland Hills Saturday 9:30 AM... est Pacific Palisades Saturday 7:30 AM... est Come on people, there must be more than 29 groups that have been around since 1987 or earlier. Page 11

12 Thank you to the members who submit questions to the Ask It Basket. It is such a fun part of our Al-Anoncer, and furthermore, of our recovery. We feel it is important to inform members to ask questions that follow our Legacies: The Twelve Steps, Twelve Traditions, Twelve Concepts and our General Warranties. If a question seems to be outside the Legacies we may not respond. An Al-Anon Member Writes: Meetings in our district are seeing court cards. What is SCWS policy on court cards? Dear Al-Anon Member: This question has come up frequently. There have been phone calls from individuals who have received DUIs and were looking specifically for Al-Anon meetings to have their court cards signed off. There have also been reports that individuals have come to Al-Anon meetings with court cards who were intoxicated. The Group is within their autonomy to not sign off on a court card in this instance. Our World Service Office was contacted regarding this question, and they replied: If the court card states that the person must attend Alcoholics Anonymous meetings and they are attending an Al-Anon meeting, with care and kindness it should be explained that they are not in an AA meeting and therefore their court card cannot be signed. This is not meant to deter Groups from signing court cards. Court cards, when signed, should always be signed at the end of the meeting. (Some meetings will have their group s Secretary or Chairperson sign the card, first name only, after the meeting is completed.) We always want to be welcoming. There are judges that send family members to Al-Anon and Alateen meetings and that is wonderful. From: Southern California World Service Area Bulletin November 2017 Ask It Basket June 2018 Al-Anoncer Ad Policy Monthly Ad Prices for the Al-Anoncer: 1/4-Page ad: FREE, 1/2-Page ad: $11.00 (a vertical page format is best, one colum width x length) and a full page ad: $ SUBMISSION DEADLINE is the 15th of the month to ensure inclusion in the coming month s issue. All Ads must be submitted each month directly to our address: LA.Alanoncer@Gmail.com. If you want your ad to run for multiple months, please resubmit it monthly. Please submit payment for the 1/2-Page and Full Page ads to the Information Service Office by the deadline. Submit all ads to: LA.Alanoncer@gmail.com. Ads must be ready-to-publish when submitted. Ad submissions must be in one of the following formats: PDF,.jpeg or Microsoft Word.doc or.docx. Do not ask us to design an ad for you based on information you send in. We will resize your ad as necessary to fit the page space you request (1/4-page, 1/2-page or full page). If you send in a full page copy of an ad you are requesting for publication in 1/4-page or 1/2-page please remember to double check the font sizes so that your text will be legible when reduced to the smaller format. If you do not request an ad size, the ad will default to the free 1/4-page ad. An Al-Anon Member Writes: It is my understanding that SCAC and other special events cannot be funded through the 7th Tradition. But if a group insists on doing so, should the funds be taken from 7th Tradition collected after the vote? Dear Al-Anon Member: SCAC, AA conventions with Al-Anon Participation, etc., are outside events and not considered part of the Group s usual expenses. Service Manual, pg. 9 The basket is passed to cover group expenses, including rent, purchase of literature, and sup-port of trusted servants and Al-Anon s service arms. Members who have donated to their group s 7th Tradition may have an expectation that their donations will be used according to the descriptions of the 7th Tradition such as in the pamphlet S-21, Seventh Tradition.. Our financial support provides the group with rent money for its meeting place, literature, information for newcomers, reimbursement or payment for the Group Representative s expenses to the Assembly and District meetings, and other group expenses. If a group wishes to contribute to another Al-Anon/Alateen event, a separate envelope/basket can be passed around clearly delineating what the individual contributions are for. From: Southern California World Service Area Bulletin August 2017 Page 12

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14 Book of the Month The Dilemma of the Alcoholic Marriage (June 1 thru June 30, 2018) Was $12.00 Reduced Price $10.00 This is a must-have for couples, whether drinking or not. This book is used a lot in literature meetings. It s written for the marriage, but it works for any relationship: couples, children, friends, etc. Page 14 - Betty

15 Al-Anon Tools for Recovery The Serenity Prayer Al-Anon suggests the words of the Serenity prayer can help us gain perspective, sort out what we can and can not do, and know when to act and when to let go. God grant me the Serenity To accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference. Slogans Al-Anon uses slogans to assist members to recover during difficult times: Acceptance has to occur before change can occur An Expectation Is A Resentment Waiting To Happen Anger Is Just One Letter Short Of Danger Are you seeing the disease or the person Ask yourself Would you rather be right or happy? Be Honest But for the Grace of God, there go I Detachment, Not Amputation Doing service is like getting on the super highway to recovery Easy Does It Fake It Till You Make It! Feelings Aren t Facts Feel Good About Saying No First Things First Forgive or relive Forgiveness is giving up hope for a better past Foster an Attitude of Gratitude How Important Is It? If In Doubt, Don t Is It Worth My Serenity? It s impossible to be resentful and grateful at the same time Just For Today Keep An Open Mind Keep Coming Back Keep It Simple Keep The Focus On Yourself Let Go and Let God Let It Begin With Me Listen and Learn Live and Let Live Live At Peace With Ourselves and Others Look Back Without Staring Mind My Own Business My Ego is not My Amigo My mind is like a bad neighborhood I should never go there alone Page 15 NO is a complete sentence Obedience To The Unenforceable One Day at a Time Pain is inevitable. Suffering is Optional Participation is the key to harmony Principles Above Personalities Progress, Not Perfection Quiet the Mind, Open the Heart Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. Take Care of Yourself Take Your Own Inventory (Not Someone Else s) Talk and Grow The elevator to recovery is broken; please use the Steps instead The Healing Is In The Hearing The Voice of my Higher Power can t be heard if I m doing all the talking Think (Stop and Think) Think! Listen and Learn This Too Shall Pass Together We Can Make It Use It or Lose It We Are All Different What s To Be Will Be Willing: When I Live Life I need God Al-Anon Acronyms and More Three A s: Awareness, Acceptance, Action Three C s: I didn t cause it, I can t control it, I can t cure it DETACH: Don t Ever Think About Changing Him/Her DENIAL: Don t Even Notice I Am Lying FEAR: False Evidence Appearing Real Three G s: Get off their back, Get out of their way, Get on with your own life HOW: Honest, Open, Willing Four Unwanted M s: Martyrdom, Managing, Manipulating, Mothering Three Unwanted P s: Perfection, Procrastination, Paralysis QTIP: Quit Taking It Personal THINK! Before speaking, is it Thoughtful, Honest, Intelligent, Necessary, Kind HALT: don t get too Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired WAIT: Why Am I Talking? HOPE: Happy Our Program Exists NUTS: Not Using The Steps STEPS: Solutions To Every Problem LOVE: Let Others Voluntarily Evolve The Steps Condensed: 1-3 Peace with God, 4-7 Peace with Our Self, 8-10 Peace with Others, Keeping the Peace

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