Real Love Vs Fantasy How to Keep Romantic Love Alive. with Dr. Lisa Firestone
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1 Real Love Vs Fantasy How to Keep Romantic Love Alive with Dr. Lisa Firestone
2 Lisa Firestone, Ph.D. Director of Research and Education The Glendon Association Senior Editor PsychAlive.org Follow us on Twitter Like us on Facebook
3 Romantic Love vs. Passionate or Companion-like Love Romantic love, characterized by intensity, engagement and sexual interest, is associated with marital satisfaction, well-being, high self-esteem and relationship longevity. Passionate or obsessive love has the same features as romantic love but also includes feelings of uncertainty and anxiety. Passionate/obsessive love works well in short-term relationships, but it hurts long-term relationships. Companion-like love leads to only moderate satisfaction in both short-term and long-term relationships. Romantic love can last in a long-term relationship and keep both people happy.
4 Romantic Love vs. Passionate or Companion-like Love Couples should strive for love with all the trimmings Couples who ve been together a long time and wish to get back their romantic edge should know it is an attainable goal that, like most good things in life, requires energy and devotion. - Researcher Bianca P. Acevedo, Ph.D.
5 Three Parts to This Webinar: Part 1: What is a fantasy bond? Part 2: Why do we form fantasy bonds? Part 3: How can we break free from a fantasy bond?
6 What is a Fantasy Bond?
7 From The Fantasy Bond Most people have a fear of intimacy and at the same time are terrified of being alone. Their solution is to form a fantasy bond an illusion of connection and closeness that allows them to maintain emotional distance while assuaging loneliness and, in the process, meeting society s expectations regarding marriage and family.
8 Definition of the Fantasy Bond A fantasy bond describes an illusion of connection between a couple that is substituted for feelings of real love and intimacy.
9 Definition of the Fantasy Bond Forming a fantasy bond is an often unconscious act of self-parenting and self-protection, in which two people become pseudo-independent, replacing the real relating involved in being in love with the form of being a couple.
10 Definition of the Fantasy Bond The degree of reliance on a fantasy bond is proportional to the degree of frustration and pain experienced in a person s developmental years.
11 What are the characteristics of a Fantasy Bond?
12 Signs You May Have Formed a Fantasy Bond: Withholding from your partner Acting like a parent or child Putting partner up on a pedestal Becoming hypercritical toward your partner Focusing on form over substance Feeling like you can t do things on your own Less eye contact and physical affection Loss of independence
13 Couple Interactions Chart Interactions in an Ideal Relationship Interactions in a Relationship Characterized by a Fantasy Bond Nondefensiveness and openness Open to trying anything within reason Honesty and integrity Respect for the other s boundaries, priorities and goals, separate from self Angry reactions to feedback Closed to new experiences Deception and duplicity Overstepping boundaries. Other seen only in relation to self Physical affection and personal sexuality Understanding--lack of distortion of the other Noncontrolling, nonmanipulative, and nonthreatening Lack of affection; inadequate or impersonal, routine sexuality Misunderstanding-distortion of the other Manipulations of dominance and submission
14 Couple Interactions Chart Interactions in an Ideal Relationship Nondefensiveness and openness Interactions in a Relationship Characterized by a Fantasy Bond Angry reactions to feedback
15 Couple Interactions Chart Interactions in an Ideal Relationship Open to trying anything within reason Interactions in a Relationship Characterized by a Fantasy Bond Closed to new experiences
16 Couple Interactions Chart Interactions in an Ideal Relationship Interactions in a Relationship Characterized by a Fantasy Bond Honesty and integrity Deception and duplicity
17 Couple Interactions Chart Interactions in an Ideal Relationship Respect for the other s boundaries, priorities and goals, separate from self Interactions in a Relationship Characterized by a Fantasy Bond Overstepping boundaries - Other seen only in relation to self
18 Couple Interactions Chart Interactions in an Ideal Relationship Physical affection and personal sexuality Interactions in a Relationship Characterized by a Fantasy Bond Lack of affection, inadequate or impersonal, routine sexuality
19 Couple Interactions Chart Interactions in an Ideal Relationship Understanding - lack of distortion of the other Interactions in a Relationship Characterized by a Fantasy Bond Misunderstanding - distortion of the other
20 Couple Interactions Chart Interactions in an Ideal Relationship Interactions in a Relationship Characterized by a Fantasy Bond Noncontrolling, nonmanipulative and nonthreatening Manipulations of dominance and submission
21 No one could really love you. You re going to wind up alone. Don t trust him. You have to stay in control. Critical Inner Voice This voice supports the development of a fantasy bond: Keeps you from real relating Coaches you about yourself and your partner Warns you to not get too close or to cling to you partner
22 No one could really love you. You re going to wind up alone. Don t trust him. You have to stay in control. Critical Inner Voice The critical inner voice refers to a well-integrated pattern of destructive thoughts toward our selves and others. The voices that make up this internalized dialogue are at the root of much of our maladaptive behavior. It affects every aspect of our lives: our self-esteem and confidence, and most importantly, our personal and intimate relationships.
23 Why do we form fantasy bonds?
24 Separation Theory Robert W. Firestone, Ph.D. Integrates psychoanalytic and existential systems of thought Two kinds of emotional pain: Interpersonal Existential The core conflict Defended versus undefended lifestyles The concept of the Fantasy Bond The concept of the Critical Inner Voice
25 Origins of a Fantasy Bond Illusion of connection we originally form w ith our parent to help relieve early anxiety and em otional pain Process of self- parenting - see and treat ourselves the w ay w e w ere seen and treated by our primary caretakers, both punishing and soothing ourselves Fantasy bond extends to our adult relationships Defenses w e form lim it our capacity for real love and closeness
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27 How Can We Break Free From a Fantasy Bond?
28 Integration Daniel Siegel, M.D. Two differentiated people coming together and linking, not merging. Becoming a we while staying a separate self.
29 Merge or Coevolve? David Schnarch, Ph.D. Are you living with a fused identity? OR Are you helping each other to evolve to be a better person? Coevolution.
30 Emotionally Focused Therapy Susan Johnson, Ph.D. The importance of being emotionally close, attuned, resonate with your partner
31 Differentiation and Linkage Linkage (emotional closeness) Differentiation (individuation as an individual)
32 Actions that counter a fantasy bond: 1. Express love in a way your partner would experience as loving. 2. Be affectionate. 3. Slow down and be present. 4. Make eye contact. 5. Try something old. 6. Try something new. 7. Break routine. 8. Avoid passivity and control. 9. Talk as an I instead of a we. 10.Be aware of your critical inner voice.
33 Don t Play the Victim Be An Active Participant in Your Relationship Assume responsibility for your relationship Give up victimized language and thinking Avoid the use of passive aggression to get what you want
34 Withholding What does it look like? Holding back positive qualities Feeling victimized or consumed by others
35 Generosity 1. Giving something that is sensitive to the person. It s not about material things. It s about being giving of yourself. 2. Be open to the person expressing appreciation. 3. Be open to receiving the generosity of others. It s important to let others do things for you. 4. Showing appreciation for the generosity directed toward you.
36 Unilateral Disarmament Defuse escalating arguments by dropping your stake in winning Say something warm and understanding Stress that it doesn t really matter who s right Express physical affection The technique of Unilateral Disarmament does not imply that you re surrendering your point of view or deferring to your partners opinion. It simply indicates that you value being close to your partner more than winning your point.
37 Goals for Your Relationship Goals I have for my relationship Actions to take to achieve my goals
38 Our Definition of Love Actions that fit the description of a loving relationship are expressions of affection, both physical and emotional; a wish to offer pleasure and satisfaction to one s mate; tenderness, compassion, and sensitivity to the needs of the other; a desire for shared activities and pursuits; an appropriate level of sharing of one s possessions; an ongoing, honest exchange of personal feelings; and the process of offering concern, comfort, and outward assistance for the loved one s aspirations. 38
39 Our Definition of Love Love includes feeling for the other that goes beyond a selfish or selfcentered interest in the loved one. As such, love nurtures and has a positive effect on each person s self-esteem and sense of well-being. Love is truth and never involves deception, because misleading another person fractures his or her sense of reality and is therefore a serious human rights violation that adversely affects mental health. 39
40 6 Qualities to Look for in a Partner and Develop in Yourself: Nondefensiveness and openness Honesty and integrity Respect for the other s boundaries, priorities, and goals (separate from yourself) Physical affection and personal sexuality Understanding lack of distortion of the other Noncontrolling, nonmanipulative, and nonthreatening attitudes and behaviors
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