BODY = BRAIN. Part 2: Embodying Social & Emotional Intelligence Communication. Amanda Blake 2013 embright.org

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1 BODY = BRAIN Part 2: Embodying Social & Emotional Intelligence Communication 1

2 Roadmap Purposeful Action Personal Qualities Interpersonal Skills SI: empathy, social skills Somatic competency: Presence Connection Communication Coordination Conflict Resolution = YOU ARE HERE 2

3 Other EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE Awareness Action Self Self-Awareness Self-Mastery Self- Motivation Empathy Social Skills adapted from Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence 3

4 COMMUNICATION 4

5 ATTUNEMENT FEELING FELT Limbic Resonance Presence Feeling Me image image image image Feeling You image course: image source: image image 5

6 MIDDLE PREFRONTAL CORTEX Structure: ties neocortex to limbic system Functions of MPFC insight into yourself intuition ability to regulate the body emotional balance response flexibility ability to extinguish fear empathy morality ability to attune to others DMPFC: cognitive self-awareness VMPFC: embodied self-awareness 6

7 CONTINGENT COMMUNICATION OH, YOU GET ME Receptive Understanding Responsive Centered & Present Empathy & ESA Communication Skills 7

8 BUILDING TRUST Presence TRUST = + Resonance + Attunement Sincerity + Reliability Builds TRUST + Competence Source: Siegel (2010) 8

9 GARETH S STORY 9

10 Goal People & This is Relationships never not at play Psychoneurobiology 10

11 PSYCHOBIOLOGICAL OBSTACLES TO CLEAR COMMUNICATION implicit memory armoring level 2 interoception response under pressure 11

12 ANTIDOTES TO OBSTACLES Obstacles implicit memory armoring level 2 interoception response under pressure Antidotes somatic opening embodied self awareness resilience communication skills 12

13 SPEECH ACTS Assertions The window is open. That table is made of glass. It s 9:00. Requests & Offers Promises Assessments Declaration 13

14 CO-ACTIVATE Sensation + Emotion Limbic & Interoceptive Emotion Speech Linguistic & Conceptual Interoception Conceptual Proprioception Exteroception Movement / Gesture Movement & Motor Cortex in Relationship Exteroceptive 14

15 INTERACTIVE MINDFULNESS Your World Other s World Emotion somatic / sensory listening Emotion Interoception Interoception Conceptual Conceptual Proprioception Exteroception Proprioception Exteroception extension 15

16 THE BIG IDEA Contingent communication relies upon presence, limbic resonance, and attunement; these all contribute to building TRUST Our psychobiology is at play in every interaction Armoring, implicit memory, level 2 interoception, and our reaction under pressure can all interfere with and disrupt communication To communicate well, you need to be able to take action with language - including those actions that trigger you Building this capacity requires activating all aspects of your psychobiology while interacting with others 16

17 PRINCIPLES FOR PRACTICE First, strengthen the capacity to feel and to center under pressure Discover your embodied habits of communication Through somatic practice and / or conversation Where do you get thrown off center? Practice speaking, moving, feeling, and interacting all at once Build resilience around the speech acts that are hard 17

18 REFLECTION / FIELDWORK Where are the places you and / or your clients are challenged to speak freely and communicate clearly? Choose one of those. Design a practice to help yourself or your client build the capacity for greater presence and more clear and contingent communication. 18

19 RESOURCES & REFERENCES Carter, R, et. al. (2009) The Human Brain Book, DK Goleman, D (2007) Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships, Bantam Iacoboni, M (2008) Mirroring People: The New Science of How We Connect With Others, Farrar, Straus and Giroux Senge, P, et. al. (2008) Presence: Human Purpose and the Field of the Future, Crown Siegel, D (2010) Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation, Bantam Siegel, D (2010) The Mindful Therapist: A Clinician s Guide to Mindsight and Neural Integration, Norton Strozzi-Heckler, R, (2007) The Leadership Dojo: Build Your Foundation As An Exemplary Leader, Frog Books 19

20 Roadmap Purposeful Action Personal Qualities Interpersonal Skills SI: empathy, social skills Somatic competency: Presence Connection Communication Coordination Conflict Resolution = YOU ARE HERE 20